People who have no social media

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I find it intriguing.

Just started working for someone new, was having a nosey looking for them on social media. The man isn’t on it at all, can’t be found, zero when typed into Google, the woman has a Fb profile that looks like from a long time ago, with 29 friends…that’s it, nothing else.
Does anyone find that unusual, or if you’re like this, why?
They are youngish, late 30’s, professional, good looking etc..these type of people usually have the lot on Sm.

I just find it intriguing

I have a fb but haven't used it for 7 yrs. interestingly, I have a friend who took my withdrawal from it very personally- started telling me I'm becoming a recluse and she subsequently stopped calling me altogether! Very weird. Sorry to derail but that's what this thread reminded me of.

Anyway, I remember I had set my fb in a way you can't actually find me on Google, only directly on fb.

I have had other sm but not with my name, nor my real life friends added. More like hobby ones for people with similar interests.

Quite often word of mouth or I miss it the first time and then remember for next time. Also quite a lot of bigger events get advertised in fields along the main road ( old skool I know). Also I kind of know the type of thing I’d want to go to so I Google those.

I don't know:
a. why you find this unusual
b. why you assume that because you can't find them they're not there

I am not on many of the most popular social media sites. And those I am on you won't find by name, other than perhaps an ancient holding profile that has been updated in over a decade.

I keep LinkedIn for work but deleted the app so never go on there. FB, I use marketplace to sell stuff I don't need now and again plus there's one group I like, I culled my friend list so it's just a small amount of people I know and it's completely locked down, then Instagram I duck in and duck out of, I find it really addictive so currently it's deleted and not been on there for ages. I made it everything private and deleted any randoms just because I don't want pics of my child being seen my anyone I don't properly know. I know people who have worked in the government who have never had it because they weren't allowed, they have loads of friends and active social life, a lot of younger people have just figured out how to do life without it. It's cool not to be all over SM I think.
Would never go anywhere near TikTok.
Much prefer life without too such SM. Mumsnet is my guilty pleasure these days lol

I’m an expert at finding people on social media and I only know a handful of people who aren’t on.

However I don’t judge those who don’t use it at all. I think it’s the way forward

I live in Central London, so all I really need to do to find interesting things is leave my flat 😀

I'm on quite a few email lists, to be fair. Londonist is a particularly good one, but there's Time Out and so on too as well the local cinemas, museums and such.

I'm 37 and you wouldn't find me on social media so I don't think it's strange.

This

Of course people under 50 are on Facebook! Pretty much all of the second hand buying and selling in my area is done on Facebook market place. People are in local area groups, groups for hobbies and sports. Hardly anyone posts statuses any more but there is more to Facebook than sharing pictures of your dinner.

Mumbler for baby groups and events etc.
Local paper online for anything else like firework displays, Christmas events etc

Our local fb was a constant stream of 'found' cats and dog shit rants interspersed with the odd 'watch out for this foreign looking bloke looking at houses' and 'has anyone got my parcel'.

I'm not on social media either (Facebook, twitter and Instagram don't count)

Don't touch it, never have.

But I'm not one for following the crowds on general.

I can't really see any benefits of it.

Can I ask why it wrecked your mental health?

I've never done social media, nothing at all. If you googled me you'd find my work, roles held, papers written, things I've spoken at, press stuff. Nothing else, that is always how I wanted it to be.

I work in an industry where social proof is required. So I am on everything but in my professional name. Not my real name.

I think it’s more normal among 30 somethings who are fed up of social media. I used to have Facebook Twitter and LinkedIn. All gone now and only have a tightly controlled and private instagram. 3 of my siblings have absolutely no social media profiles and my DH has a Facebook purely to follow the local community page so no updates in years and it’s also private.

Totally incorrect to say no one under 50 has FB. I'm in my 20s and on it, as are a lot of my friends who are similar ages. However a lot seem to be far more active on other SM like Instagram, TikTok etc. I only have FB and even then rarely post. I don't think people who post a lot need to 'get a life' though, seems to be a lot of sneering and superiority complexes on this thread.

I have no social media. I used to have Facebook but got rid of it years ago. I don’t miss it at all. I find much of it really vacuous and almost narcissistic. I like the idea that I am mysterious, though!

OK let me clarify. Clearly I didn’t literally mean that not one person under 50 was on Facebook. However, Meta themselves are concerned at the decline in interaction with the younger demographic, specifically under 50s. Essentially the same people who started using Facebook kept using it, but it didn’t pick up younger generations as time passed. The “average” Facebook user is now a 58 year old woman, whereas in 2000 it was a 25-35 year old of either gender.

Created a linked in profile years ago.minimal info, no pic. I closed the account but if you google me it still comes top of the list. How can i banish this? I want to have no presence.

I came off it all 5 years ago!

I have WhatsApp and that's it. Conversations with actual friends and not an audience at large.

Got fed up with all of it - namely people projecting a fake existence online and people who stalk you online yet won't say hi in the street.

I have accounts on Twitter, YouTube tiktok and Facebook but not in my name and I don’t post stuff. They’re just to view stuff about my hobbies or local info that’s useful to have. If anyone looked me up, I’m not there. Anyone I want to know things about me, I tell in real life.

Im 33, no social media. I had it once but it got me down constantly seeing people’s perfect lives, constantly comparing them
to mine. So I got rid of everything & I’ve never been happier. There are downsides like local events im unaware of. & sadly I don’t talk to many people anymore, more than likely because I was just a number/follower

I have none and nothing comes up when you google me. I like to be mysterious!

Me too. I've no interest at looking at what folk have for their dinner or some other mundane shite. Or folk having a nosey to see what I'm doing.