People who have no social media

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I find it intriguing.

Just started working for someone new, was having a nosey looking for them on social media. The man isn’t on it at all, can’t be found, zero when typed into Google, the woman has a Fb profile that looks like from a long time ago, with 29 friends…that’s it, nothing else.
Does anyone find that unusual, or if you’re like this, why?
They are youngish, late 30’s, professional, good looking etc..these type of people usually have the lot on Sm.

I just find it intriguing

I've met several people from here in RL and made new friends from here.

Opting out of virtual society you mean. I’m still in real life society.

I think it is increasingly less unusual.

I did have FB with a fairly standard 200 friends [but high privacy setting]. Kept deactivating and then coming back to it. I've now still got the same FB account but with zero friends (deleted them all - told the people who would likely notice/care first) and a fake name, as occasionally it is useful. No regrets. Ditto Instagram and twitter - fake name and I never post - I just use it for entertainment/info.

My 18 year old (very social) son only has 'be real', after deleting all his other social media.

I know people who don’t, or have a v limited presence ie just have their hobby or whatever.
I use FB a lot, I am a member of various groups for things. I have Insta but only look, haven’t posted for years & I have tiktok but don’t post either.
I am in early 50s though so def the FB generation.

@lljkk I will have to cross that bridge when I come to it but my DDs know enough of their life stories to understand the risk factors associated with being contacted or traced by their birth families. Without wishing to be melodramatic, and without wishing to disclose too much information, there are certain parallels with the Tommy Lee Royce/Ryan story in Happy Valley. For now, I do what I can to keep my children safe.

I'm not at all sure it is either.

I use some SM quite a lot, but am also very much part of the Community where I live. I'd say several different communities in truth. I know (from my own SM) that I am not unusual in this.

I am amazed at the number of threads on here where people either post to say they have no friends generally, or post about other things and, as part of the thread then say they have no-one to ask to help them out in one way or another, as this is a long way from my own life, and, by default (because I am very much part of lots of communities) the lives of people I know.

I have a friend who has the profiles but never posts. She's always up to date with what's going on that everyone else has posted - but never liking or commenting. I find that a bit odd

Looks to me like PP are the oddballs, not representative at all of UK SM use.

Some people may have Facebook like I use Twitter, so they can make complaints to companies like British Gas, sometimes SM is the only way to get yourself heard as they often don't answer phones for hours, I had to set up a Twitter account for this reason.

DH has Facebook only for his hobby and had to tell his DM he didn't use it for family and friends stuff. I think he kept ignoring her or something, I'm not sure how it works.

My husband is in his 50s and is not in any social media platform.

My husband (just turned 40) only has an old FB that he uses occasionally to keep in touch with a couple of uni friends. He never ever posts photos on there. No other sm.

He's just not interested. I don't really get it - I use FB, Instagram, twitter and TikTok loads!

They are opting out of society, this is their choice and becoming increasingly common

That's a bizarre take!

I have very little interest in SM. I deleted my FB account years ago, as have lots of people I know of a similar age (30's). I think I still have a LinkedIn profile but haven't used it for years, most of the stuff people post on there just makes me cringe. I still use WhatsApp and I have a Twitter account for work because there's lots of people in my field sharing events and free resources, but I don't post anything and I don't use my name.

I'm not "opting out of society". Far from it. I work in the public sector in a job that serves my community, I'm involved in political campaigning and charities locally and I have friends I socialise with regularly. I actually think it's pretty sad if being active on social media is seen as integral to being part of society, given the detrimental impact it can have on people's Mental Health.

Social media is just something that needs to be attended to, without providing a benefit. It takes up headspace. It creates a distraction without serving a need.

Everyone I know who deleted their SM accounts says it was the best thing they did and they wish they'd done it sooner.

I’m only on Facebook for family and a few interests. No instagram etc. life is for living, not for sending other people images of me living it.

Social media is just something that needs to be attended to, without providing a benefit.

The very opposite is true for me. I respect that others have their own experiences. Isn't it super cool that we have choice.

I don't use things like facebook. I have a worked linked in and twitter (X) work account. That's it. It works for me. Not everyone wants to be on facebook. I don't regard it as opting out of society and there is loads about me on line from my work website etc if anyone wants to do google searches who is trying to find out about me.

Don't have it. I knew all those years ago no good would come of it. I'm private and wouldn't want to share so much.