Who is unreasonable here?

[espressomartini35]

Hi I'm wondering if I'm being the unreasonable one here as my husband thinks I am.
He is heading out with friends on the Saturday before Mother's Day (prearranged from a few months ago)
He offered to do Mother's Day on a different weekend as he'll be too hungover to do anything on the actual day.
I don't have any issue with this.
I work part time shift work and I've now volunteered to work a late shift on Mother's Day (3pm start) so that I can get the weekend after off for my little ones birthday. My husband has gone mad at me for doing this saying I knew he was out on the Saturday and why was I did I volunteer to work on the Sunday when I knew he'd be hungover. I told him it was a 3pm start so he had all morning to himself to be hungover.
Generally we both work around each others work but his work can take him away for a week every few months and then he also has a hobby which takes him away a few times a year too.
I feel I'd be unreasonable if I'd offered to work the Saturday knowing he was out but to be told I'm unreasonable to work the Sunday cos he's hungover I feel is just wrong.

Yes, you've misunderstood. In this context 'free pass' was an opportunity to opt out of family life but I wasn't suggesting she had revenge sex with someone....that would as you say be a recipe for disaster!
I'm unsure what 'in the lifestyle' means. It's not a phrase I've ever heard. I'll assume it means behaving like a single person.

@Ifyouknowyk i mean on mother's day her partner should be doing the majority of childcare/housework. Yes it can be done on any day, but so could his night out 🤷 It's one day a year set aside to appreciate the mother of his children and he's choosing a night out for himself instead.

yeah, does sound a bit BS? Don’t it? If, he appreciated his wife all the time, there wouldn’t be any need for this over indulgent, American, hallmark crap.
What happened to being a normal husband most of the time and a nice chilled out card from the kids on the Sunday? He could just offer to do the housework/childcare on any other day.