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Why does he keep blocking me?

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Babgirl2023x · 08/02/2023 11:21

I’ll try to keep this short, 2 years ago I was approached by a group of guys whilst I was on my way home, one asked for my Snapchat and I gave it to him because I was single and instantly attracted to him.

when I got home we chatted for a bit but I guess I must of said something he didn’t like because I was quick enough blocked. (Can’t remember what). Anyway about 9 months later he added me on Facebook and told me he had just got out of jail ect…. We started talking again and I actually really started to like him. It was constant conversation I felt like I had known him years.

He asked me what I wanted, I said obviously right not just too take things slow, as I knew he was speaking to other girls at the time as I could see his friends list and he would add about 50+ girls daily. Obviously we was both single and only just started speaking so I wasn’t expecting him to cut everyone off. He didn’t like the fact I said I wanted things to go slow and said that I was obviously sleeping around and he blocked me.

He unblocked me about three days later and message me telling me he missed me, he said to me I need to “ move correctly “ if I wanted to be his girl. We started speaking again for a few days And he was consistent on wanting to stay at my house. But I was wanting to take things slow at this point so I was making up excuses every time he asked. He told me I wasn’t serious so he blocked me for a good couple of months.

I was really confused because he was telling me how much he likes me and how he wants me to be with his girl soon ect… how could he say all that but just block me again?

He added me again about 4 months later and messaged me saying “I’m coming to yours” I told him no because what did he think this was. No contact for so long and then to just message me telling me he was coming to mine. Anyway we spoke on the phone and text for about a week I posted a picture on Snapchat and you could see Clevlage this made him mad and he blocked me.

I messaged him on Facebook telling him to never ever try and contact me again. He ignored that for a bit but soon apologised and we soon started talking and made up. I was round at my friends house having a drink and she told me to invite him over. So I did and he came.

as soon as he seen me he told me I was so beautiful and even better looking in person and that was is it I was his now. He was trying to kiss me and was being all over me as soon as he walked in the door. I was like kind of being shy because I’m not used to that and he said I was all talk and Boring.

every time my friend left the room he would try whipping out his penis and ask me to put it in my mouth. I told him no and that my friend was here he didn’t care. We was drinking and something was said between me and my friend that he didn’t like, he then proceeded to throw a moam sweet in my direction that actually ended up hitting my face.

later that night he ended up staying in the spare room with me and we did end up having sex. But we ended up arguing again after I can’t even remember what over and he told me to never speak to him again.

he left and later on that day I messaged him and apologised we spoke for that day but later that night he literally blocked me. I got my friend to look on his Facebook profile the next day and I seen he had gone into a relationship with someone. Not even 24 hours after being in bed with me I was so angry and hurt by him.

I text him and told him that I knew and that I would never ever forgive him for it. Two months later he had made a new Facebook and added me I seen his friend request and left it sat there for a few days. I was still so hurt by this person but the curiosity and my feelings made me want to accept him and to see what he wanted.

when I accepted him I didn’t message him I waited for him to message me to see what he had to say for him self. He didn’t even try to apologise he just made it out like it was nothing.

somehow we ended up talking again but it felt very different this time, I invited him round to stay the night at my house after talking for about a week. And it was really good like when we met this time it was so much different to the rest we was sat chilling enjoying each other’s company a lot.

he asked me to be his girl but I said to him what’s the point all you do is block me and treat
me like I’m nothing to you. He promised he wouldn’t do that again, and me like an idiot believed him again lol.
everything was good at mine apart from when I was on my phone and he was accusing me of trying to hide it and accuse me of speaking to lads. I don’t know why but I felt like I have to constantly reassure him.

we ended up making a video of us having sex, which I feel so so stupid about because I sent it him. He was saying to me that I’m so sexy and that we should make an only fans account and to give him the password and we share the money 50/50.

anyway when he left in the morning he was asking me to come back that night but I had to go to work. He wasn’t really that bothered by that and we continued to call and text, he was so much quicker now with the replies he would send me paragraphs and message me first now and so much quicker. He was even sending me snaps whilst he was out and in the shower. He never used to reply so quick and frequent before.

I posted a picture on my story on Snapchat a few days later nothing bad, he messaged me and asked me who I was trying to impress.I told him no one and he didn’t speak to me all night he left me on read. I messaged him the next morning like lol hi at least you didn’t block me this time. We spoke for a few more days and he asked me to be his girlfriend like officially this time.

I said yeah and then the next message he asked me was what I was doing?, I told him I was just waiting for my friend to get a taxi and then going to bed. He literally started ringing my phone out but I didn’t answer because I was busy.

he messaged me saying to never ever speak to him ever again in my life, that me and him will never ever ever happen again and that my friend was clearly a lad & then blocked me (this was a week ago).

I was so confused and still am so confused, I know he’s blocked me loads of times before but obviously we never really was anything and met briefly but now that we have had sex and met and actually spent time together and him ask me to be his girlfriend it’s left me so confused and hurt.

two days ago I got added from a Snapchat account from “search”, I never post my Snapchat details anywhere I’m very private.

i accepted it to see who it was and it had no snap score, no bitmoji no nothing. The account was telling me that he lives in the town next to where I am from, how they had me on their old Snapchat and had made a new one and was adding all their old contacts. I kinda of believed it so I said okay and they tried starting a conversation I left them on read and they kept messaging me.

I looked at the account more as the hours went on and the account snap score wasn’t going up. The account was asking me if I had ever been on a night out in Liverpool ( this set alarms of in my head as I was planning a night out in Liverpool with the guy who blocked me). It then started telling me how he wants to lick my bum and have him bum licked. Which is exactly what he was asking me to do to him at mine but I wouldn’t.

the account asked me if I had an only fans and that I should because I’d make loads of money. Something was just telling me this person wasn’t who they said they was. They wouldn’t send me a red Snapchat or a voice note just a saved picture. I told the account if they don’t tell me who they are I’m blocking them.

the account said it would tell me who they are but not to tell anyone and to keep it a secret between us because he’ll get in trouble. This threw me of thinking it was him because why would he get in to trouble. I was watching the way the person was typing to see if it was the same as the way the guy I was seeing typed but it seemed to me like the fake account was purposely trying hard to make their grammar and spelling bad.

the account said that they knew me, that I have met them in person but wouldn’t tell me anything else. I ended up blocking the account but I still feel like it’s him I don’t know, I don’t get why he would do that but I don’t get why anyone else would do that aswell.

I don’t understand why someone if they did want to speak wouldn’t just try to talk to me of their actual account but I don’t understand at the same time why he would make a fake account but have me blocked on his if he did want to talk to me.

I am so confused at the moment, the fake account thing is making me a little bit paranoid as if it isn’t him why would someone go to so much effort to watch me, it feels kind of creepy.

sorry about the long post my brain is just very foggy at the minute and I have all these thoughts and questions I need help getting answers too I know I’ll never get them of him but can’t someone try and paint a picture for me.

OP posts:
Glittertwins · 08/02/2023 11:23

I think you need to be asking yourself why you aren't blocking him!!!

Sirzy · 08/02/2023 11:26

I gave up about 1/4 way through because even by then it seems the only answer is block him and move on.

ShoesCoatandBag · 08/02/2023 11:26

Glittertwins · 08/02/2023 11:23

I think you need to be asking yourself why you aren't blocking him!!!

agree!

YouWithoutEnd · 08/02/2023 11:27

Fucking hell duck. My brain is foggy too after reading 278 paragraphs of that shit.

This man is emotionally abusing you and probably loads of other women too. Stop looking for the deeper meaning in it all, the meaning of it all is that he’s a fucking cock and you’ve been a mug.

End it once and for all.

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 08/02/2023 11:27

OP I think the real question is “Why do I have such low self worth that I give my details to strangers and give men who are criminals/man whores the time of day?”

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 08/02/2023 11:28

I got the the bit about him getting out of "jail" and gave up.

I'm guessing this is what you should have done then, too.

JauntyJinty · 08/02/2023 11:29

Another one who gave up without reading it all but this is too much drama for a years long relationship let alone one that hasn't even started yet!

He's just got out of prison and has loads of other girls on the go and has been clear that he only wants you for sex - what are you hoping to gain from this?

Block and forget!

Figmentof · 08/02/2023 11:29

I stopped reading that because it was very boring and repetitive even quarter of the way through. It was also patently obvious that you need to block him and stop this nonsense.

VargaV · 08/02/2023 11:29

I stopped reading at jail.

Block this fool already.

Temporaryname158 · 08/02/2023 11:30

Block him on all platforms, ignore him and i sincerely hope he doesn’t know where you live.

he’s a walking nightmare and you have been quite foolish to get involved, he’s abusive

PurplePineapple1 · 08/02/2023 11:31

Raise your bar jesus fucking christ. There's no dick shortage, you don't need to grab onto the first one that shows you a bit of interest you know.

Honestly I can't believe how desperate some women are for any old man.

Whitney168 · 08/02/2023 11:31

And this is you keeping it short? Block. Move on. Raise your standards.

RoomOfRequirement · 08/02/2023 11:31

Are you 12?

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 08/02/2023 11:32

What the actual fuck.

Block him, grow some self esteem and grow up. And get of Snapchat.

Kindly, you are far too immature to be on there. How old are you?

Bard6817 · 08/02/2023 11:32

Two paragraphs told me all i need to know.

You need to develop some self esteem and find someone who isn’t gods gift to women and will treat you respectfully.

This guy will use you - abuse you - for as long as he keeps wrapping you round his little whatever.

You seem like a really nice person, but if you could take a step back and see this for what it really is to him. A game.

JimHensonWasAGenius · 08/02/2023 11:33

I stopped reading after you mentioned "jail"

Jesus, get some bloody self respect!

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 08/02/2023 11:33

And the reason he keeps blocking you is because he can because he knows when he unblocks you that you take him back with open arms.

Get an STD test because believe me he is snagging anything he can get his hands on.

Aquamarine1029 · 08/02/2023 11:33

Your standards are in the gutter. FFS. Please get some help as to why you would allow this piece of trash into your life.

Pearfacebanana · 08/02/2023 11:34

Block them all. And you may wish to consider where your sex video ends up and if you need the police involved. Wouldn't surprise me if he started blackmailing you with this.

ThreeblackCats · 08/02/2023 11:34

He’s a creep and you seem desperate to please him. Just block him and ignore him if he does find a way.
He is not being flirty or cute, he’s an abusive sex pest!

Agree with pp, raise your bar.

Grendalsmum · 08/02/2023 11:34

Urgh. Cool story, bro - but just in case, erase all trace of him from your life and nuke the site from orbit just to be sure.
Really.

MILLYmo0se · 08/02/2023 11:34

If this is rwal you are going to get yourself in real trouble, running around after a man that doesnt give a damn about you is never a good idea, having sex with a man that doesnt take no for an answer and is clearly sleepibg with anyone man he can wear down into allowing him is never a good idea but allowing him to make sex tapes is a really really baaaaaadddd idea.
You need to stop talking to complete stangers online before you get in real trouble.

Led9519 · 08/02/2023 11:35

Put your phone down and crack on with your gcse’s for gods sake, assuming you’re about 15.

This whole post should be an essay question for young girls “at which red flag would you have blocked him.” The correct answer was when he said he’d got out of jail.

I don’t know why you think it’s ok to be treated like this but it isn’t. Block him, any potential account that is him, and move on.

arethereanyleftatall · 08/02/2023 11:36

Fgs op.
Fucking really?!?

Didn't get all the way through.

Who gives a shit why he keeps blocking you? He's clearly an absolutely vile bloke.

The question is why on Earth you didn't block him after the first debacle.

You need to get some therapy/talk to friends to discover why on Earth your bar is so so low.

Cosycover · 08/02/2023 11:37

I mean this in the nicest way but what age are you both?