Secret Single behaviour - the joy!

[crochetmonkey74]

Today at work we were having a chat about Vanessa Feltz and how several of us can remember the heartbreak. We are now a little group of singletons. One thing that we all agreed on was all the little things you can now do with no partner. Some were really funny or silly. My colleague wears flesh colour pop socks with her shoes for work. For her entire marriage she took them off in the car and stashed them as she felt deeply unsexy in them and didn't want her husband to see them! Other colleague loves farting with gay abandon round her house now her boyfriend has gone. I think for me I love not having to think about/cook food every night. I can just eat biscuits or cereal. What are your favourite secret joyful single behaviours?

OMG you are living my dream 😍

@hidethenips He got to make all the TV watching decisions because he paid for the TV? Wow, that is batshit. You’re well out of that one.

@MintJulia @Stayingstrongish

I can relate to both comments on your post ,

Your ex partners/ex husbands were both control freaks Pricks A Grade,

with their twattish Dick heads moves,
glad to hear you got shot of them,
no great loss the pair of them sounds of it,

There were also Gas ⛽️ lighting Arseholes over the most petty trivial things, just for sake of it obviously, and making out in the kitchen, your normal way of preping for baking, was peculiar, deficient in some way,when in reality it was revealing how Weird, deficient , and oddly controlling they were as individuals and deficient as partners,

Interesting there 🤔 behaviour you in the kitchen, highlights how little irritating 🙄 things reflect show up like a mirror how Dysfunctional shit rest of relationship is, or was,
Just observation

I think the point is they weren’t with or don’t have the right man, so in their own company they feel free to do as they please. It must feel particularly liberating for those women who felt stifled or controlled in their relationship.

Exactly
People like @UWhatNow seem to see women enjoying themselves and immediately think "I must ruin that"
Deep deep misogyny

I'm to single but when my part er goes away (not often enough) my biggest joy is sleeping with the window open even when it's bloody freezing. I. Love. It.

Also not eating 'meals'

This is my dream relationship.

Just to say, thanks 😊 so much for this thread Op,

Very timely i was thinking along similar lines a week ago about same thing,
I was brought up I couldn't fart in front of my father who adopted me, even accidentally, he could was allowed to fart with gay abandon to his hearts content,
Also with ex partner cause he was a controlling prick, and used to ridicule me, I felt I couldn't fart in front, in case he would relate it to other people,
He didn't have no filter about anything inappropriate comments under guise of being funny but just to belittle me so I would have less cofindence

I love the freedom of doing thinking and pleasing myself more,
Farting with gay abandon
Opening a rice tin and just eating from rice 🍚 tin with a 🥄 spoon,
Love being a slob in the house,
But allways dressing good outside, my house L.o.l
Love I can watch whatever I like not having to please anybody but myself,
Love not having an Arsehole Prick of an ex being just that,

I like idea I can buy whatever I fuckin ducking please ,
I can fuckin ducking 🤣 please No 1 as go off on mini adventures whenever and wherever I fuckin ducking like that's it

Oh I forgot to say I just love going to small cafes and restaurants on my bleeding own and just looking at my mobile or 📚 reading or glancing at whatever book or website I like really,
And just love staying in whatever guest house /hotel I like which matches my budget,
Total fucking bliss,
Like I have died and gone to heaven feeling on this side of 🌎 earth plane

Love this thread OP.

I hope it is ok to comment as I am happily married to a lovely man. Nevertheless there are definitely some things I enjoy doing when he's away and would be on my 'positive list' if I was single.

I would allow our hairy labrador on the sofa and on the bed because snoozing together brings me an enormous sense of peace and makes DDog happy.

I would fart with gay abandon and without saying 'excuse me' afterwards like I do now when I carefully break wind.

I would enjoy not having to be part of making sure we eat dinner every evening, and compromise on TV watching. DH and I share the cooking but if I was single I'd eat whether I fancied including rice pudding out of the tin.

I would have more cats.

I would embrace having a wild and natural garden. DH does the majority of the gardening so I can't argue with his approach of digging, cutting and clearing stuff.

Oooh I forgot not having to deal with DH 'tidying up'. His version of 'tidying stuff' looks like 'hiding stuff' to my Ahdh brain.

I appreciate that it is annoying for him but I need things to be stored in a sensible place and shoving them anywhere in the name of clearing up causes me big problems.

DP is away 2 nights a week. I love having him around the rest of the time but on my nights off I enjoy:

• starfishing/dominating the bed

• not using room spray if I've pooed

• the occasional takeaway without any compromise over what WE should get

• house looking exactly as I left it when I come home (he's good but it's not the same)

-wearing his dressing gown if I fancy being snuggly in it (if I was single I'd just buy myself a man sized one)

• doing things at my pace exactly as I like and only for me - eg only my taste in tv

• not sharing snacks or treats/not finding they've been snaffled when I look

-shutting the door and being truly alone.

I'd never swap him but if I was single again I think the only things I'd add to the list are:

• not having to share my cupboards/drawers etc (small flat, he moved in with me)
• not having so many bloody tools around; mine would live in the shed, where they belong (and my shed would be emptier).

I agree these types of Op threads on mumsnets is why I keep on coming back to mumsnet ,
I just love ❤️ them

❤️

Which is great for you or whomever...sadly or happily, depending on your viewpoint ...men, or women partners, aren't always what we expect, want or need.

Some have had abusive relationships or cheaters or just good old Incompatibility. Nothing wrong in rejoicing in the freedom that ensues, however you percieve it, after they're gone.

Lastly, for some, no partner, no matter how wonderful, is still a preferred choice

Even with the best of partners there is a need for compromise. You can never agree on absolutely everything . I am looking forward to the joy of compromise free domestic bliss.

Just woken up and I've got a day off work...did a few farts and stretches. Wouldn't compromise this feeling and freedom. 💪🏻

I think it's exactly in the spirit;single women can have these conversations,many have left relationships because they were not being treated right or were subjected to abuse whatever level that was on.

Are you a man or a woman wishing you could leave someone?

One of the joys of living alone and single life that I miss the most is having a full solitary weekend. I'd get a massive bucket of KFC on the way home from work on Friday, eat it on the sofa watching rubbish TV, fall asleep on the sofa, spend the weekend in my pj's, bake or cook an elaborate meal if I fancied it or eat whatever bizarre combination of leftovers I could find, read in silence, nap, work on my projects, watch more crap TV, just pad about doing whatever, whenever I wanted. The freedom of not having to consider another person is beautiful!

Or indeed the right woman. Yes, I think you may still be in the 1950s.

Thread for singles and all the married women just have to run here telling us just how married they are😁

Can’t the single ladies have one place without (your) men?

Anyway, things that make me love being single:

Bodily autonomy, this is so important (seriously just read how women are groped by their partners, and there are sadly some people here who say she must be nice and put up with it)

No one in my home, I need a lot of alone time

Can go and do, or not go or do as I please, it’s all my schedule.
Honestly this pretty much covers it all.
Who’s in my home, the food, sounds and smells, no one’s bad moon ruining things.

List is endless, I think we’re more of need what good is to be in a relationship at this point😁
Older we get, we really see that relationships weren’t the happy endings we were told.

I love windows open in bedroom especially in deep winter

I'm in a relationship but when my partner is not around, I have a 3 hour lie in while watching Emily and Paris and eating cake in bed for breakfast.

Its funny how we change over time - a couple of years ago I would have nodded sagely to every comment, adding in a 'Hell Yeah' every now and then.
Last week I had my elderly cat put to sleep - she was the last remnant (apart from 3 adult children) of a 20 year marriage which ended in 2015. Now I have no one who gives a damn whether I'm safely home or not and I cant work out if its liberating or sad.
Unlike most of you it seems, I hate not having anyone else to give an opinion on decorating, remodelling, furniture or white goods - even though the ultimate decision was always mine I miss the comfort of a second opinion.

@blobby10 I'm really sorry about your cat 💐 but I think you are missing the point of this thread. If I want a second opinion I will ask the sales assistant and listen to my inner voice. Try it.
I feel really energised and charged by this thread so I'm not letting anyone put a dampener on it! It's light hearted and one for the singles ❤️

Being able to chose furniture, wallpaper and paint without having to ask someone else’s opinion. One of the first things I did when dh moved out was decorate, I got rid of all his horrible furniture (was only ever allowed 2nd hand/free cycle), painted the walls in bright colours and put up some funky wall paper.

I love wearing what I like without anyone commenting, I am a bit of a hippy so like bright colours and like to stand out, ex liked to not stand out.

Doing the house work when I want to do the house work, leaving the washing up until the morning (ex could never do this) and just being able to be a slob when I want to be.

Being able to rest when unwell, without being told I am making a fuss.