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to do the school run in my pyjamas?!!

292 replies

conversebootmum · 07/02/2008 17:32

come on!! Be absolutely honest. how many of you have thrown that fleece over the top of your jimmys and done the school run?! I have many a time, in fact did it this very morning, but bit embarassing when the teacher came and asked me a question about DS and noticed the winnie the pooh sticking out the bottom of my jeans!

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NKF · 07/02/2008 22:11

That's rather terrible to hear, CM.

expatinscotland · 07/02/2008 22:11

i think i've pieced together what i find bizarre about it.

it appears rather immature to me.

oh, look, i wear my kids' clothes, i drive them to school in pajamas and feed them in the car, it's so different and just like a novel or a film.

Lauriefairycake · 07/02/2008 22:12

None of what you have said in that post thankfully applies to me expat

cory · 07/02/2008 22:12

Can I just remind everybody again that the OP was about pulling a fleece on over her clothes. In other words, nothing to embarrass your children- nobody would know.

I don't think there is any call to group the OP with the great unwashed- where did she say that she never washes?

In my own case, I do everything to get my children into school on time, even when I've turned up in tears of exhaustion carrying my dd on my back because her legs gave suddenly. Because being late is embarrassing to children. It also gets you into a lot of trouble with the authorities. And it is inconsiderate to other people.

On the other hand, no embarrassment or inconvenience will ensue if I am hiding a pyjama top under my jumper. And I doubt they can smell me coming down the road, seeing that I do shower and change my pj's rather frequently.

Of course, it's wasting 20 seconds of my life after school run. But then, once the school run is over, I'm not dealing with a hysterical child in spasms. That does actually make a difference.

I just find the tone of this thread very judgmental. I used to judge a friend of mine who was frequently late for school- until I found out a bit more of the details of her family life and what her mornings were like. She was suffering badly from depression among other things, and I suddenly realised that she was actually doing very well to get her whole family out of the house at all.

I find it fascinating that people get less flamed on this forum for confessing to infidelity or to hitting their children or screaming at them constantly. All clearly lesser crimes than slipping a fleece over your pyjama top. Interesting.

I've only actually committed the fleece crime a couple of times myself, during a particularly difficult period, but I had no idea it was such a heinous offense. Doubt that dd is scarred for life- I don't for a moment suppose she noticed.

VictorianSqualor · 07/02/2008 22:13

Maybe the difference there is laziness and mental health issues cory

NKF · 07/02/2008 22:14

But she isn't depresesd or having a difficult time. And someone else thinks wearing your pyjamas in the day time is psychologically healing.

alfiesbabe · 07/02/2008 22:14

Lauriefairycake - that's an interesting point. I find it revolting when I'm going round sainsburys and see women wearing skimpy bikini tops and men going topless with flabby bellies spilling over their shorts! And I dont just think 'Oh dear they've got bad taste in clothes' , I think 'Yuck you vile smelly person, I dont want you near anything I'm going to be eating in the near future!'

Quattrocento · 07/02/2008 22:15

This is not about the occasional fleece over a pair of pyjamas

This is about regularly not getting washed, pulling jeans over pyjama bottoms (!!!!) fleece over tops, children not knowing what it is to have a clean or groomed mother taking them to school....

conversebootmum · 07/02/2008 22:15

yeah and i home educate one of mine, jump on that one while you have the chance!

Hygeine issue? If you are asking if i brush my teeth and hair before the school run then the answer is yes and yes!

What does the psychiatric hosp have to do with me on run in pyjamas?

If you worked on one, you may just see that there are a whole lot more important things in this world to really worry about than what you wear in the car on the school run.

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Lauriefairycake · 07/02/2008 22:15

I don't go to work in pj's because then my clients might think I'm depressed or be judgy about it and then they would want to talk about what I'm wearing. I'm a counsellor so the sessions about them so I try to dress neutrally.

Outside work I wear what i like even if its sometimes pj's or a skirt tucked into my knickers like I did accidentally the other day

chubbymummy · 07/02/2008 22:16

Touched a nerve cory?

NKF · 07/02/2008 22:17

Groomed isn't necessary for the school run but washed and dressed is.

Lauriefairycake · 07/02/2008 22:19

I think its really funny that on this thread its two mental health people who do this

conversebootmum - I'm also doing psych nursing (mature student)

CoteDAzur · 07/02/2008 22:19

Occupational hazard.

Lauriefairycake · 07/02/2008 22:19
Quattrocento · 07/02/2008 22:19

That's not a coincidence

conversebootmum · 07/02/2008 22:20

Not really chubby, just when you try to have a bit of a laugh, it turns extremely personal, talking about filthy unwashed mothers, and neglected children, completely the opposite of what it was all meant to be about really.

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alfiesbabe · 07/02/2008 22:20

Cory, I dont think anyone has said they think wearing your pjs is worse than infidelity or hitting a child! I think you're imagining things!!
Most posts seem to say they don't think it's terrible, just rather odd as it doesnt seem to save much (if any) time and it does seem strange that someone who's clearly able to hold down a job (she works a couple of nights - see i read the thread properly!) apparently can't get dressed in the morning. I think it'a a weird message to give out to your kids - that the day has started, they're off to school all, but you can't be arsed to get up properly.

conversebootmum · 07/02/2008 22:24

Hi Laurie, thats great about your course, best of luck with it too!

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chubbymummy · 07/02/2008 22:28

Converse. Being a mum is about setting an example to your children and teaching then personal and social skills. So much of a teachers time is taken up having to do it instead as so many parents are more bothered about an extra 10 minutes in bed than teaching their children simple life skills.

ghosty · 07/02/2008 22:30

I would rather eat glass than go on the school run with my pyjamas on.
I (a WAHM) get up at 6.30am, shower, do hair and make up ... THEN I come down and sort everyone else out. That's me. I can't do it any other way.

lou33 · 07/02/2008 22:32

i think it's a bit ott to be picking your kids up in the school playground , with your nightie still on, but i dont see the harm in driving in your nightwear with a coat over it, in the mornings

ghosty · 07/02/2008 22:33

And I can't help it but I do have a bit of a judgemental moment (I try hard not to, honest) when I see mums coming to school looking like they have just got up and children looking like they slept in their clothes - "Can't you brush your child's hair FFS?"

NKF · 07/02/2008 22:34

The afternoon nighty wearers probably think it's okay not to get dressed all day. And everyone else is being stuffy.

Anyway, the original post was asking people to be honest. And I can honestly say I've never worn my pyjamas to take the children to school.

Twigy · 07/02/2008 22:38

God I feel embarresed even going to the bin in my jim jams.

Oh the shame