Late picking up DD from nursery

[hellomynameissuzy]

I was 10 minutes late picking up my DD from nursery today. The educator that did hand over was not happy at all! She didn’t say a word to me, not even hello or goodbye to my 2 year old DD. She didn’t say anything when I apologised for being late so I couldn’t explain my reason for being late.
The nursery closes at 3pm, I arrived at 3.10pm.
I couldn’t ring ahead and let them know as my phone is broken atm.
AIBU to be upset about the educator being like this towards me? She has only been at this nursery since November. It makes me not want to send her back.

If it had been the nursery my DC go to, you would have been charged another £15.

You were 10 minutes late. You can be as apologetic as you want but you've eaten into her time. You do not know if she had to be anywhere herself. Plus, I can't even imagine having an unusable phone with my child at nursery. Maybe you shouldn't have been completely blanked but maybe she didn't want to say anything that she would regret. Be on time and if not find a way to call. You're the one on the wrong here.

Good luck with finding another nursery.

She was not rude. She did not humiliate you in presence of DD.

It's also good manners to turn up on time, or at least ensure you are able to make contact if you're not going to. Respect goes both ways.

Ffs they are human. You pissed them off! It happens. Sometimes you can’t hide how pissed off you are especially at the end of what might have been a difficult day. You need to suck it up and get over it ffs.

The child is 2, you presume that the mum would have a car seat, buggy etc to transport this child?

It is worth putting yourself in her shoes.. this may have been the 100th time over the years where a parent has been late and she may have run out of smiles to paste on her face and polite ways of saying your behaviour was unacceptable. Maybe the previous 99, said, I am sorry, there was a car stuck in the bus lane, traffic on the bridge, etc.. which all translate into I didn't leave enough time to ensure I wasn't late.. I did that 'just one last thing' before I left meaning I put my faffing time above your needs.

She is there to look after your child until 3pm.. it's not like she can shut the place and skip off home.

Wow! She is so rude! The very LEAST she should have done is a triumphant fanfare as you deigned to come to the door. Banner and bunting should be the minimum too!

Unbelievable.

It is ALMOST as if she isnt there for your convenience and has other things to do. Shocking behaviour on her part @hellomynameissuzy , absolutely shocking!

Not easy to arrange a back up when you have no phone... and back up doesn't have to take your child anywhere.... they just have to take them from the nursery worker and wait.

Typical MN, excusing the mother's rudeness in being late, whatever breezy 'apology' she made.

@ChateauMargaux your nursery hands over two year olds to "mum friends"?

It's ten fucking minutes, hardly the end of the world.

Not every setting charges a late fee, mine doesn't.

This

I work in a nursery and it drives me nuts parents late every pick up, I don't get paid for staying late and also have my own child to pick up!!

You do realise that sometimes people are unavoidably late.

My child wasn’t upset at all 😆she was just happy and excited to see me, a member of staff has a daughter who’s in her room so her child waits until closing time with her mum so she wasn’t the only child left.

The nursery closes at 3 or pick-up is no later than 3? My sons preschool shuts at 6 but they ask for no later than half 5 pick up. If you got there after closing time I’d be annoyed too.

The thing is OP, you know you were only going to be 10 minutes late. This lady had absolutely no idea if you were going to show up at all, or when that might be? That's probably the root of the annoyance and yes, it's on you to have a working phone.

You sound bruised by her indifference/annoyance but quite blase about your own lateness so I'm wondering if your apology was a bit perfunctory and you give the impression of 'no big deal'? It might well have been, you wouldn't know and it sounds as if you don't mind much either - just as long as you're smiled at and forgiven...

My god 🙄 they probably won’t be paid for that time and probably just wanted to go home after a long day at work! Get over yourself, OP. Take accountability too, doesn’t matter if your phone wasn’t working - how is that the workers problem? It’s not.

Interested in the ‘it’s only ten minutes’ responses.

You’re so right! Ten minutes is nothing. So fine for you to finish whatever made you late ten minutes earlier to be on time. Ten minutes that doesn’t make a difference to others couldn’t possibly make a difference to you.

That is shocking behaviour by the ‘Educator’
Iv worked in nurseries for many years and this is completely unprofessional and not acceptable at all

i run lots of kids after school activities, all voluntary out of our local church hall. I do it because there isn’t enough for kids to do outside school that doesn’t cost families a fortune.
parents being late is a huge problem, especially in the summer!
I try to be understanding but some times I’m just so tired when it’s 9pm ive been in work all day and running clubs from 5pm and yet another parent rocks up late, ive probably been guilty of giving them the cold shoulder myself. It’s probably not personal, I’d try and just draw a line under it if I was you.

Are men incapable of collecting children?

Op, why were you late?

Those things are not comparable. 1,3 and 4 are one off rare (ish) events. You can usually try to leave loads of contingency time for them to make sure you aren't late. So for instance if I were trying to leave for a flight. I'd try to leave about an hour's contingency on top of normal travel time. Similarly for weddings and job interviews.

You can't do this for nursery. Firstly it's an everyday occurrence so that would a huge amount of dead time out of your week that most people (especially working parents) probably just don't have and secondly, you are usually coming from work which has a set end time over which you may have little control. You can't leave loads of contingency, you can try and leave some contingency maybe 15 or 20 minutes but not everyone has even that much flexibility in the choice of working hours. And 15/20 minutes may not always be enough in certain circumstances such as a blocked road, issues with public transport amongst other issues.

You can do your best. But no one can ever guarantee they will never be late.

Have you even considered the person you have inconvenienced? How do you know she hasn’t other children to pick up herself or I don’t know, just wanted to go home? You are coming across as really immature.