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Husband labelling HIS OWN FOOD

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MrsWestox · 28/01/2023 18:37

Hi all
Now, am I being old fashioned here? Husband since 2014 has taken to labelling ALL the food he buys with a sharpie pen..which ironically I bought.. expecting no one to touch it. But when it comes to the food I buy..plus literally everything else from loo roll to bin bags to washing powder that I buy..is fair game for him to use or eat as he sees fit. So much for a shared household eh? Sharing is caring..( lol)! Has anyone else experienced this..? Am I being unreasonable to be totally razzed off by this?

OP posts:
Teaandtoast3 · 30/01/2023 15:12

Have you decided what you’re going to do @MrsWestox?

Rollingaroundinmud · 31/01/2023 10:27

Do your son's work and contribute to the house. You haven't mentioned this you speak about them as if they are children with no responsibility. Cleaning up after grown adult men would pee me off too and you watch your DH do this.

I change my mind YABU. If you had put that information in your original post that your children are in their 20's I would have voted differently they are not babies anymore. You should leave him really the other way around you and your children are taking the pee out of him.

danblack87 · 31/01/2023 13:40

That is weirdest behaviour I have ever heard. I would be SOOOOOooo angry. Marriage is a joint venture as is the shopping it it not? I went to the fridge once to get a cheese sandwich ... my reaction was sure over the top ...BUT, we were both working from home .. he would make his own breakfast (didn't offer me). He would make his own sandwiches (lunch time) didn't offer me AND this one day I went to get the cheese and it was mouldy. His response was that it had been like that for 4 days (he didn't tell me, he didn't buy any more and he hadn't been to the shops to get any more and THE WORST SIN OF ALL he hadn't even bothered to 'bin' it). Men are so inconsiderate. That was just the tip of the iceberg. We are now divorced. Don't even get me started on loo rolls (angry)/dirty clothes on the bedroom floor when the basket for washing was right next to. Fumed.

KettrickenSmiled · 31/01/2023 18:02

ttcat37 · 28/01/2023 21:06

Take a bite out of everything. Then cross his name out on everything and write PRICK. Then ltb

😍 Is it Bad & Wrong to enjoy this advice for its gleefully structured approach?

Ttcat, you work in process management, & I claim my £5.

KettrickenSmiled · 31/01/2023 18:29

Rollingaroundinmud · 31/01/2023 10:27

Do your son's work and contribute to the house. You haven't mentioned this you speak about them as if they are children with no responsibility. Cleaning up after grown adult men would pee me off too and you watch your DH do this.

I change my mind YABU. If you had put that information in your original post that your children are in their 20's I would have voted differently they are not babies anymore. You should leave him really the other way around you and your children are taking the pee out of him.

Where to you think OP wrote about her H cleaning up after her sons at all, let alone her watching him do it?

Have you posted on the wrong thread by mistake?

Because you seem to be either mistaking the DC's behaviour for the H's, or you are applying a very odd double standard to the H's own pee-taking:

But..and this is a big one, he is quite happy to hoover up stuff which isnt his " property" and he has not contributed to.. which does PROPERLY razz me off in the extreme. He does this quite blatantly. So what's mine is everyone's..but what's his is HIS with a red sharpie saying so.

I did notice when HIS children came to visit. He would make a special visit to the supermarket to buy extra special food..but only then. And 'slum it" with my provisions for the Monday - Friday non visit days. Cos..it saves money, right?

Yes..he cooks ( for himself).does ( his ) washing and puts it out to dry. Nothing is properly shared except utility bills. In the past a 50% contribution has sometimes not been forthcoming either.

KettrickenSmiled · 31/01/2023 18:34

MrsWestox · 29/01/2023 00:04

Yes..he cooks ( for himself).does ( his ) washing and puts it out to dry. Nothing is properly shared except utility bills. In the past a 50% contribution has sometimes not been forthcoming either.

The atmosphere he creates for the rest of you must be horrible to live through day to say - what with the banging & thumping on walls if you dare make any noise in your own home.

I dare say what you've posted so far is the tip of the iceberg @MrsWestox Flowers
What is the housing arrangement - rented/owned, & who is named on the tenancy/mortgage/deeds?
Are you, or could you be, self-sufficient financially when either or both of you have moved out, to set up separate households?

KettrickenSmiled · 31/01/2023 18:36

day to say - sorry - day to day

GerronBuzanDoThaWomwok · 31/01/2023 19:52

katseyes7 · 28/01/2023 22:02

I think you may be married to my ex husband.
We got to the point of having separate food cupboards, shelves in the fridge, and freezer for a year, when we were separated but had to live in the house until it sold.

Before that, if we had 'share' bags of sweets he'd count them out into two dishes in case l got one more than him. Once cut a Jaffa Cake in half because there was an odd number.
Fight fire with fire, OP.

😭crying!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!😂

VeraMay · 17/06/2023 19:30

Sorry that your husband has issues.
We have a joint household account for all bills and shopping, therefore nothing "belongs" to any one person. We share the cooking, although it's more often my husband who actually cooks once I have prepared the ingredients.

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