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Husband labelling HIS OWN FOOD

334 replies

MrsWestox · 28/01/2023 18:37

Hi all
Now, am I being old fashioned here? Husband since 2014 has taken to labelling ALL the food he buys with a sharpie pen..which ironically I bought.. expecting no one to touch it. But when it comes to the food I buy..plus literally everything else from loo roll to bin bags to washing powder that I buy..is fair game for him to use or eat as he sees fit. So much for a shared household eh? Sharing is caring..( lol)! Has anyone else experienced this..? Am I being unreasonable to be totally razzed off by this?

OP posts:
MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 28/01/2023 21:25

I would hide it all and see his reaction.

That's crazy. Is he mentally well?

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MrsWestox · 28/01/2023 21:27

alania · 28/01/2023 21:13

You’ve said ‘ my kids’ so I assume he’s pissed off at paying for your kids to hoover up food. Maybe that’s the issue. Kids are greedy c*nts.

That's true andvther have always been resentments..

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knittingaddict · 28/01/2023 21:27

AnotherNameChangeYes · 28/01/2023 21:24

Very. There’s a reason for that..

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Indeed.

bumblebeemumma · 28/01/2023 21:27

He's passed away now but I once knew an elderly chap who used to do this, but would also write the date he bought it alongside his name. On everything. Even individual pieces of fruit in the fruit bowl 😂

Lesina · 28/01/2023 21:28

Has he been certified as yet or are you waiting for the diagnosis? Needs sectioned really.

AdventFridgeOfShame · 28/01/2023 21:28

With four adults in the house, do you take turns to cook and do the shopping. Or is it a free for all cook it yourself set-up?

PousseyNotMoira · 28/01/2023 21:32

Have you asked him why he’s doing this?

Have you told him to stop eating/using the stuff you buy?

Are you actually going to engage with what anyone is saying or asking or are you going to keep ignoring what we’re saying? If the latter, what was the point of this thread?

WickedStepmomNOT · 28/01/2023 21:34

You have separate finances - better check things like the house and insurance, utility bills. If he's separating stuff out could be an exit strategy. You married in 2014 and he's been doing this a year. Time to find out whats really going on.

Shoxfordian · 28/01/2023 21:35

He sounds very odd
Have you spoken to him about it? Are you happy being with him?

Batshitcrazy007 · 28/01/2023 21:41

WTAF

Soothsayer1 · 28/01/2023 21:41

this is a manifestation of the 'what's yours is mine & what's mine's my own' mindset.
I'd do it back to him, or just cut to the chase & get rid?

GerronBuzanDoThaWomwok · 28/01/2023 21:43

Get your sharpies in a row, OP!!!!😮

AudreyBabs · 28/01/2023 21:45

Sharpie your name onto his sharpies.

Hollywolly1 · 28/01/2023 21:48

Surely I read wrong that this has been going on since 2014,I think you are both mad

Snugglemonkey · 28/01/2023 21:48

BillyDeanisnotmylover · 28/01/2023 20:38

Do you snarf everything before he has a chance to enjoy it?
Do you take the hummus and double dip straight from the tub?
Do you eat all three magnums from the box of three?
Do you ‘finish off’ the entire block of cheese because you were worried it was going to go off?
If yes, then I understand.
If not, he’s a bit odd.

But he labels garlic and celeriac?

bonzaitree · 28/01/2023 21:48

Have you spoken to him about why he is doing that

GerronBuzanDoThaWomwok · 28/01/2023 21:48

Or is a larger gentleman on an exclusive and worryingly intolerant diet? 😬

Grumpusaurus · 28/01/2023 21:49

So sorry to hear about your late DH's tragic accident while you were spending time with us Mumsnetters...

PS Hope they were able to remove the Sharpie lodged deep inside his rectum!

Hollywolly1 · 28/01/2023 21:50

Just realised this has only happened in the past year,very weird

Confusednewmum1 · 28/01/2023 21:51

My mum once had a partner who was like this. No sharpie though.

we were a house full of teenager and would drink his “Cola” and eat his treats “box of 4 cream cakes, bars of chocolate ect left in the fridge.

My mum couldn’t understand it, she was like if it’s in the fridge it’s fair game- the girls don’t know it was you and not me that bought it. He then started keeping things in the bedroom - 😛

We used to call him out for it, he had 4 teenagers of his own and stated they would never eat anything without asking first. Bonkers - apparently his ex - wife was a tyrant though

Weenurse · 28/01/2023 21:52

If it only started a year ago, I would be looking at his mental health.
Is there any other sign of cognitive decline?
Is he wanting to retire and is concerned about finances?

Surroundedbyfools · 28/01/2023 21:56

I’d go out my way to eat or use everything he labels

Duckingella · 28/01/2023 21:59

I dare you to take all the labels off his canned food so he doesn't know what's in which can.

On a separate note;this is extremely weird behaviour.

katseyes7 · 28/01/2023 22:02

I think you may be married to my ex husband.
We got to the point of having separate food cupboards, shelves in the fridge, and freezer for a year, when we were separated but had to live in the house until it sold.

Before that, if we had 'share' bags of sweets he'd count them out into two dishes in case l got one more than him. Once cut a Jaffa Cake in half because there was an odd number.
Fight fire with fire, OP.

MonkeyMindAllOverAround · 28/01/2023 22:03

I know an excouple who did it, she insisted to buy her own food, have her own shelves in the fridge and the kitchen but when it came to home decoration she insisted he had to pay 50/50 even if he didn’t like what she wanted to buy and when she was earning twice his salary.

No wonder she has gone through 2 divorces now