Husband labelling HIS OWN FOOD

[MrsWestox]

Hi all
Now, am I being old fashioned here? Husband since 2014 has taken to labelling ALL the food he buys with a sharpie pen..which ironically I bought.. expecting no one to touch it. But when it comes to the food I buy..plus literally everything else from loo roll to bin bags to washing powder that I buy..is fair game for him to use or eat as he sees fit. So much for a shared household eh? Sharing is caring..( lol)! Has anyone else experienced this..? Am I being unreasonable to be totally razzed off by this?

Oh..he does this! Except he doesnt touch fruit so the vegetables get the sharpie treatment..

Mental health issues perhaps?

How did he respond when you first brought it up? You have brought it haven't you?
Maybe start labelling the things you buy and see how he reacts to that!

Is he quite well?
Maybe he should be signing divorce papers with his sharpie?
I take it you don't cook for him

… Or he is just checking out of this relationship, when the “we” is replaced by “me first”

What a horrible thing to say!

This lol

I’d be marking teabags sugar milk , bread potatoes oh carrots . Dickhead
Notsure if anyone suggested but a label on front of pants bras iyswim,

You shoukd sharpie his dick with a sad face 😔 as well

@MrsWestox What does he say when you challenge this, quite frankly, bizarre behaviour? Why didn't you challenge it when he started doing it? Why don't you just remove the labels?

And why are you only replying in monosyllabic short sentences?

He labels the cabbage?

This cannot be real.

Just remove the labels.

Even better hide the sharpie pen and the labels

What does he say if you point out the unfairness of you not able to touch what he buys, while he helps himself to yours? And that you buy the household stuff like loo rolls and detergent that he needs? Has he given any kind of explanation as to why he started doing this?

Or ignore the lables and use and take what you need.

Ha ha!
No..I don't snarf everything in sight..although from my weight it probably looks like I do!
No..I try and buy stuff for everyone to use as ..well..its a home. I try to make sure every one has stuff they need and like. I'm.not averse to sharing anything..well,, except underwear..but who does. Right? The MINE behaviour is very peculiar and I cannot trace this back to any particular trigger moment, other that my son perhaps hoovering up literally any food deemed to he fair game for scoffing. As MY kids ( not sharpie labelled!) live under the same roof..there is clearly much resentment here about my supporting them, and why should he " pay out" to feed them. I did notice when HIS children came to visit. He would make a special visit to the supermarket to buy extra special food..but only then. And 'slum it" with my provisions for the Monday - Friday non visit days. Cos..it saves money, right?
I am bothered ..very bothered and now that is has got to squabbling about food..there isnt much point in continuing the " marriage".. which was behind my wanting to share as a post on here. Sad..but very true..and I'm an idiot for hoping the problem would pass.
It hasnt, needless to say.😭

Start charging him for the food you have bought. Include labour costs for cooking and prep of course. Make sure you charge Gordon Ramsay prices.

You should not be fully supporting adult kids. Even if they are on ESA, UC they should be coughing up enough money to cover the basics, i.e. £40ish quid.

If they are paying nothing, I can see his point (a bit).

I have a second husband and two adult DC at home. When it starts to go pear shaped we sit down and have a meeting. Living with buried resentments does not work. Life has to be reasonably fair.

Ah, crap. This seemed quite lighthearted in a weird way, at first. I'm sorry that it's actually real, and grim, aand a crossroads for you.

I hope the house is yours.

He wants to be the king and so HIS children to be treated like royalty, you are merely the serving class and so your children are treated accordingly.
Maybe it's time to get rid, see how he likes doing all his own chores?

She could label his doings too.

What sid he say when asked why?
Also how come all your food is fair game,?

Now..dont get me started on post it notes..we've had a plethora of those in circulation too.!!

Do you actually talk does he explain his actions?

No..we barely talk. Unsurprisingly really given the nature of my post..does it show??🤣