Prostitute says she does wives a favour!

[Dinodigger]

She controversially admits that while many have partners, she believes she's actually doing their marriages a favour.

AIBU to think that actually no, you aren't doing anyone a favour and are actually helping to destroying families?

I tend to blame the paying partnered punters

Fundamentally wrong for men to purchase the rights to use women’s bodies. That said I’m sure there are men who stay in low sex/ no sex marriages and pay for sex. Justified as no emotional involvement. Women who will turn a blind eye. It’s all a bit awful and sad really.

I don’t know really. Personally if my oh cheated it’d be the end for our relationship and destroy our family but you will get wives out there willing to turn a blind eye if it’s easier for them.

Ultimately she’s just providing an age old service.

''Doing their marriage a favour''? A favour??

Oh thank you so much Miss Prostitute for accepting money off my husband to let him shag you. What a favour our marriage owes you !! And also, while we're here, what a favour prostitution is towards the perception of women and girls everywhere may i say.

It's like something out of Viz 🙄

Honestly, I can kind of see what she means in a way - instead of falling in love with an affair partner, these husbands are meeting a particular sexual desire with someone transactionally, with defined parameters and no emotional connection to 'take away' from the marriage.

Obviously it's not as black and white as the quote in the article (but then again, you are reading the Sun - fuck the Sun). Most women would prefer their partners not to meet a particular sexual desire they can't/won't fulfil outside of their relationship regardless of who it's with. Many people are uncomfortable with sex work specifically. In that sense, they're not doing wives a favour at all because they don't want their husbands sleeping with anyone else - but if they're going to (and if they're seeing sex workers behind their partner's back, then I'd say they were pretty set on that), then I assume her thinking is that some women might think "At least he's not in love with her"?

I don't agree with her but I can see how she's come to that conclusion.

This.

Don't be so dramatic OP, don't hate on the prostitute, hate the customer if you must. It's called supply & demand

I don’t criticise sex workers. They are earning their living in their chosen profession and, as long as they are paying their taxes, who am I to judge or moralise?

Why are you blaming a sex worker for operating within the misogyny men created? She's not responsible for the way women and girls are percieved: she's a victim of it (even if she doesn't feel like it). They set the boundaries - she's just operating within them.

The Sun put this in exactly to get this reaction from people and generate anger clicks.

Except for the vast majority of them, it isn’t a chosen profession. It’s either trafficking or to support some habit or other.

There’s plenty of men who offer a similar service, I don’t really see the issue.
It’s not something I’d ever use, but if the demand is there then someone will provide it.

There are plenty of marriages that wouldn’t appear to be going strong if the man wasn’t getting the sex he wanted from somewhere.

As an former sex worker and now as someone who supports current sex workers as part of my NHS role, I couldn’t and wouldn’t ever blame a sex worker for the decisions of a man who pays to see them. They owe the wives of their customers nothing.

She's conveniently skating over the fact that many prostitutes (as evidence by punters in UK punting) service "clients" back to back, often irritating them by keeping them waiting; and it's well nigh impossible to detect STDs before your next client - when they're minutes apart - it'll take a while to get symptoms and get treated (if possible) - if you get symptoms..... So they are (plenty of things condoms don't guard 100% against, also they don't tend to use condoms for oral sex) , along with their clients, disease spreaders.

Which isn't to the benefit of wives and partners or their unborn kids.

(Of course the ol sexless marriage line will be pulled out, but the fact is the majority of punters are also having sex with their partners).

They offer it to gay men and couples.

The market for women paying for sex from men is pretty minute.

Oldest industry in the world really.

I haven’t read it, but I agree with a previous PP. I don’t agree with the premise but can see how the woman got there.
The problem lies with the men who pay, but I will say that I do think our society has generated men who think they deserve it, and some women who use sex as a bargaining chip. Neither of these things help marriages.

YABU
No man needs to visit her. And I would bet the majority of women don't do that kind of work by choice, but either because they have no other option or are forced into it somehow.

I accept IABU for posting a Sun link.

The Metro have picked the story up too if you don't want to read The Sun.

Based on some threads, some people are happy to break up a relationship due to lack of intimacy, therefore to ask, if a partner was being serviced by other means, which is the better option for the long term stability of the relationship ?

Supply and demand.

Personally I’d prefer my dh was involved in this sort of stuff rather than an intense relationship with a colleague. if it’s a payg type approach, it’s a much more clinical option.

Does it really matter where the link came from? It's still a sad aspect of society that some men pay for sex. I don't blame the women they aren't forcing men to sleep with them. The women on the other hand are probably desperate, trafficked or addicts.

The women may chose that lifestyle, it should be an option for them.

It's the men destroying their families!

I understand where she is coming from although I don't agree with her

There are loads of threads on MN about women who have had a child, or children, gone back to work and are still doing all of the childcare and all of the housework whilst their other half's do nothing and then sulk when they don't get sex on demand with no effort to try to get their wife in the mood first

And there will inevitably be several posters who come along and tell her that if she doesn't have sex with him then he will get it elsewhere, it will be her own fault, she should just have sex even if she's not in the mood just to keep him happy

From that perspective, the perspective that if a man doesn't get sex often enough he will automatically go and find it elsewhere then (assuming he doesn't get caught) going to a prostitute is less likely to break up a marriage then having an affair

However I don't think having paid for easy to access sex is doing wives a favour because it feeds into the narrative that men should be able to get sex whenever they want it.

What would do wives a favour would be their husbands picking up some of the work and parenting. Being left to do all the work in a (for the woman) sexless marriage because you have no energy left to make an effort and your husband doesn't need to make an effort because all he has to do is pay for it is not a favour.

But the lazy husbands are the ones I blame, not the prostitutes.

Men have the option of where to put their cock. End of!!
If they can’t control their cock, they are not men, they are a child.