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Prostitute says she does wives a favour!

123 replies

Dinodigger · 27/01/2023 21:15

She controversially admits that while many have partners, she believes she's actually doing their marriages a favour.

AIBU to think that actually no, you aren't doing anyone a favour and are actually helping to destroying families?

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MaryEllenJones · 28/01/2023 03:59

HotPotInASpot · 27/01/2023 22:55

Of course it isn’t cash only. We’re well past the days of prostitutes hanging around streets to pick up punters. It’s all AdultWork and agencies these days.

Despite what that article would have you believe, it's not glamourous at all.

www.liverpoolecho.co.uk/news/liverpool-news/exposed-liverpools-new-red-light-13500510

YukoandHiro · 28/01/2023 06:09

Stop blaming the women providing a service that's in demand - blame the married men who are pathetic arseholes and destroy their marriages by using it

WednesdaysNameIsFullOfWoe · 28/01/2023 07:47

Dinodigger · 27/01/2023 22:48

@HotPotInASpot the prostitute in the article states she got into the sex industry because she loves sex.

As they say, find a job doing what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life.

Applesandcarrots · 28/01/2023 07:50

Tbf to her there are lots of women on here who seem to hate sex and/or their partners so she might not be that wrong....

MeinKraft · 28/01/2023 07:53

Applesandcarrots · 28/01/2023 07:50

Tbf to her there are lots of women on here who seem to hate sex and/or their partners so she might not be that wrong....

Wonder why, I'm sure they're all great blokes and wonderful lovers.

Applesandcarrots · 28/01/2023 08:02

MeinKraft · 28/01/2023 07:53

Wonder why, I'm sure they're all great blokes and wonderful lovers.

They must be. Otherwise the women would leave or at the very least use contraception, one would think🤷🏻

Beezknees · 28/01/2023 08:05

MeinKraft · 28/01/2023 07:53

Wonder why, I'm sure they're all great blokes and wonderful lovers.

Get rid of them then. I've been single for 15 years because most men are rubbish and I've raised my son alone. If we keep settling for less, men will never change.

Beezknees · 28/01/2023 08:12

No outside party can "destroy" a family or "take" your husband. If your husband goes actively looking for a prostitute, he's a scumbag and he does not care about you or respect you or women in general.

Prostitutes are being exploited, I don't buy all this "I love sex" stuff. A lot of people love sex, but as a woman in her 30s I would definitely not love sex with a pathetic balding married man in his 50s.

Calling · 28/01/2023 08:34

HotPotInASpot · 27/01/2023 22:29

How many prostitutes do you know? Not “sex workers” as in strippers or cam girls but actual prostitutes? I’ve worked with hundreds over the years and I can think of possibly 3 who were not being pimped out, on drugs, desperately supporting a child/ family member or had quite severe mental health issues. These are women right across the board from homeless women to high end agency girls.

This.

LlynTegid · 28/01/2023 08:36

Blame the men, not the prostitutes (I don't use the term sex worker as I feel it normalises something that never should be seen as such).

Calling · 28/01/2023 08:42

Dinodigger · 27/01/2023 22:48

@HotPotInASpot the prostitute in the article states she got into the sex industry because she loves sex.

I bet that part was written by the author of the article. The reality not the film Pretty Woman, the reality is pimps, violence, drug addictions, debts, stolen passports and mental health issues.

Dinodigger · 28/01/2023 09:06

OK I get maybe it isn't a prostitute's fault that a husband goes to her... but does she have to sounds so smug and self-righteous about it? Feels very unfeminsist to not only take money and have sex with our husbands but to say she is doing us a favour on top of it! Or maybe she is just trying to convince herself that it is a more glamorous service than just selling her body to old men.

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CantAskAnyoneElse · 28/01/2023 09:47

Feels very unfeminsist to not only take money and have sex with our husbands

Why is there suddenly so many comments like this on MN?

Feminism doesn’t have anything to do with men being unable to keep their dicks in their pants.
Why fo so many women ’care’ about ’feminism’ only when they want other women to behave certain way, or order them to stay away from ’their man’?

Men choose to fuck someone else, or leave.
Other woman doesn’t matter. Those men would have cheated or leave anyway, it could have been anyone…

Applesandcarrots · 28/01/2023 09:50

CantAskAnyoneElse · 28/01/2023 09:47

Feels very unfeminsist to not only take money and have sex with our husbands

Why is there suddenly so many comments like this on MN?

Feminism doesn’t have anything to do with men being unable to keep their dicks in their pants.
Why fo so many women ’care’ about ’feminism’ only when they want other women to behave certain way, or order them to stay away from ’their man’?

Men choose to fuck someone else, or leave.
Other woman doesn’t matter. Those men would have cheated or leave anyway, it could have been anyone…

"sisterhood" innit.
Aka "you be a good girl like i need you to be so i don't have to deal with my life choices"

Dinodigger · 28/01/2023 10:05

I don't mean being a prostitute is unfeminist, I am saying that bragging in a national news paper that when you take money of married men and have sex with them you are doing other women a favour is unfeminist and actually a bit spiteful and nasty.

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HRTQueen · 28/01/2023 10:12

The men she has sex with are happy to cheat on their partners and view women as commodity

it’s an exchange just for sex or they will have one night stands or use tinder or find sex outside of their relationship this way

it my allow for having sex outside marriage/partnership easier but he is still going to so for some there probably is truth to her statement

Badbudgeter · 28/01/2023 10:15

I think if your going to talk about it to a national newspaper of course you’ll say you love sex. It maintains the fantasy for men. I don’t really like sex / don’t fancy you / am only here for the money isn’t going to help them get their rocks off.

It maintains the happy hooker image but do you really imagine anyone is super thrilled to be sucking under washed cocks for a living. There was a AMA on here a few months back and the woman concerned said a good 80% of punters had hygiene issues. 🤢

CantAskAnyoneElse · 28/01/2023 10:18

Applesandcarrots · 28/01/2023 09:50

"sisterhood" innit.
Aka "you be a good girl like i need you to be so i don't have to deal with my life choices"

This 👆🏼!
Thank you for understanding!

IAmWomanHearMeRoar1 · 28/01/2023 10:19

She'd only have a point if the wife knows about it and is ok with it. Otherwise, it's deception and she's destroying marriages. But she clearly feels a need to justify what she does and has concocted this line to allow her to live in her delusion.

Dinodigger · 28/01/2023 10:21

I think you are right. A lot of it is just bravado isn't it? Hardly glamorous sucking old cheesy cock all day. I guess she needs to find a way to make herself feel good and not so sleazy. And what is she going to do as she gets older? Maybe at 31 she can still bring the punters in, but going to start to look a bit pathetic when she is 45 or so. What will she do then?

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HRTQueen · 28/01/2023 10:23

Well hopefully she has made enough money to maybe set up a business or has been able to study

the men paying to have sex with her will find another women to pay to have sex with then another because they want to

UWhatNow · 28/01/2023 10:26

Laiste · 27/01/2023 21:35

''Doing their marriage a favour''? A favour??

Oh thank you so much Miss Prostitute for accepting money off my husband to let him shag you. What a favour our marriage owes you !! And also, while we're here, what a favour prostitution is towards the perception of women and girls everywhere may i say.

It's like something out of Viz 🙄

What is like something out of Viz, is a woman who blames everyone else for the failings of her weak and cheating husband.

Applesandcarrots · 28/01/2023 10:27

Dinodigger · 28/01/2023 10:21

I think you are right. A lot of it is just bravado isn't it? Hardly glamorous sucking old cheesy cock all day. I guess she needs to find a way to make herself feel good and not so sleazy. And what is she going to do as she gets older? Maybe at 31 she can still bring the punters in, but going to start to look a bit pathetic when she is 45 or so. What will she do then?

That's a lots of snidey hate here.

Also you keep saying "old" but she says ages 25+.

She hit a nerve somewhere didn't she

CantAskAnyoneElse · 28/01/2023 10:34

Dinodigger · 28/01/2023 10:05

I don't mean being a prostitute is unfeminist, I am saying that bragging in a national news paper that when you take money of married men and have sex with them you are doing other women a favour is unfeminist and actually a bit spiteful and nasty.

It’s a fluff piece.
It’s popular and cool to print all things sex, sexual availability is strong currence, that’s all this is.
And it’s this attention seeking woman.
Who clearly has self-esteem issues, and has wrapped her worth around the fact men want to have sex with her (silly compliment, most of the men fuck pretty much anything).

Please, don’t take it so personally, I’m not from UK, but someone made a comment it being the sun in a way I assumed it’s not quality magazine, so take it as that.
Low quality, clickbait article, about - honestly - a really sad woman.
Who desperately has to convince herself (if she’s evev serious).

There was a article in my country year or two ago, she was on purpose an other women, only slept with married men.
If you had read it you would see how sad these women are.
She couldn’t have the man she wanted and her father was a cheat, so blamed it on all men, hated couples and thought she could prove loving relationships couldn’t be a thing, by having sex with taken men.
At the end of it all, she was a lonely, broken person.
I’m not making excuses for her, but it was eye opening.
Women like these have to come up with all kinds of lies, twist and turn to justify their actions.
That is a sad way to live.

Pyewhacket · 28/01/2023 10:52

housemaus · 27/01/2023 21:40

Why are you blaming a sex worker for operating within the misogyny men created? She's not responsible for the way women and girls are percieved: she's a victim of it (even if she doesn't feel like it). They set the boundaries - she's just operating within them.

Sorry, I don’t agree with that. Women must accept their part in the sex industry, its transactional and it simply wouldn’t exist otherwise. The driving motivation , of course, is money, as it has always been. You could even argue that they are exploiting male sexuality for their own financial gain. , whether it is topless modelling, Only Fans or online Escort Agencies. But you don’t have to go further than various popular mobile apps to see women pushing the boundaries of “community guidelines” on a daily basis. Not to mention the likes of the Kardashian’s, who are $billionaires.

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