My MiL is worse than yours...

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Okay, I do fully believe mine is the worst creature to roam this planet, but I'm interested in your stories.
I believe I could write a book on mine without any exaggeration and it would be an unbelievable read.
To clarify we're NC with her now, it was just impossible to have her in our lives in any way.
But if you'd like to tell me something about yours that sounds unbelievable please do.
I couldn't choose even 20 top things that are frankly mental, but my personal favourite is telling anyone who'll listen we stopped her taking her dgc to the park, when in fact she would arrive past 8pm during winter and expect to take my 6 month old daughter out. When I suggested we did daytime at the park i was both controlling and unreasonable.
She doesn't work or have daytime commitments.

Mine turned up to her grandchild's funeral (not my child, Dw had a loss before we met) absolutely stinking of weed, then turned to the friend of the family who was a police officer and asked if he would arrest her because she was a bad girl.
She never remembers DW's birthday, or her living Grandchildren's birthdays.
She forgot we were getting married, despite several reminders, and a week after the wedding called DW and angrily demanded to know why she didn't remind her the morning of the wedding.
Once called to brag that despite being on PIP for mobility issues, she works in a job which requires a lot of walking/stairs/handling...and also lives with her OH whilst she rents out her council rented property.

Mine was great except for that she reacted hysterically to any insect anywhere near her and managed to instill the same reaction in DD.

Please stop, yeah going for a walk at night during winter is the same as going to the playground at night during winter lol.

Ignoring the fact the mother has already taken the baby to the playground earlier in the day and has told you but you still choose to ignore and get upset.

Hmm let me think-

When I lost my baby at 22 weeks pregnant she told my DH that 'she didn't really want it anyway',

Told my DH that my 8mth old baby was morbidly obese and needed to go on a diet

Told my DH that my DD was being abused at nursery as she had a bruise, same woman when looking after my DD allowed her to fall off her bed bang her back on the bed side table resulting in a massive bruise on her back

When I started becoming a decent cook she bought my DH a cook book

MIL took no interest on our third baby as she, FIL and my DH had fallen out, She didn't see him until we attended the same wedding when he was 6 months old and was frustrated and angry that my baby took no notice of her, funny enough FIL was the same

MIL told my children when their dad was diagnosed with cancer and heading for major surgery that she was disappointed in them as they didn't jump out of bed at 6am to say farewell (they had done the night before) she shouted at them and said your father could die in surgery and you will be left with no money - she thinks I am a low earner and her son provides for us.

I could go on

I don't want to break the internet but our walk was to a playground, not every time but we did, I could draw a diagram but no one in the world could be that interested and sometimes the ILs came with us

Hating MIL is a sport I get that, I don't hate my own but if the MIL game works for others sure great keep it up

And no I am not aiming this at the OP just the general point scoring MIL bingo hobby thing, I do wonder if they give out badges

My son is married to the most wonderful girl in the world and their two young children are a delight. I am close to my son, but I know my place and realise his wife and children come first now. I do what I am asked to do and don’t do what I am not!

Well my DM is a overbearing, but I find my MIL (soon to be ex) worse because she's so bloody subtle about everything in front of everyone else.

Her precious DS (soon to be exDH as soon as I get the divorce papers signed) totally destroyed our lives and left us penniless - she refused to help pay for DS2s braces which were really needed - they do payment plans so apparently I'll be fine. Meanwhile has paid for ex's flat and is happily subsidising him while he doesn't pay any child support.

Oh and apparently she would understand if I didn't allow her and FIL to have anything to do with my DSs. I'm happy for them to have a relationship but it seems that I have to do all the running around to facilitate it - she won't EVER ring either me or her DGSs to arrange something. And I'm the bad guy cutting her off......

I suspect your MIL is worse than mine as mine is genuinely delightful. I bloody love her.

Well, you are supposed to have only one, so she automatically qualifies for the worst and the best right? I could think of one or two lawsuits, but I don't have time for that. Life is very short. Perhaps she will turn round one day. Her call.

This. .!!! What is it with mumsnet and MILs. Yes there are some horrendous stories but honestly....enough already.

@Thomasina79

I think that’s lovely!

My MIL is fine, there’s worse. Obviously she was delighted to get a grandchild but when she was pestering DH to make a big announcement when I was still in hospital, constantly messaging for photos and with demands for days out, and then wanting to take baby out alone to ‘show her off’ to friends, it made me feel like I was nothing more than a vessel really when I was struggling with PND. She still doesn’t even realise I was unwell and nearly admitted to M&B unit as she was just so baby blinkered.

Funny enough for those going on about being a MIL one day ourselves - I have 4 DC and get on very well with my eldest girlfriend and have got on well with all of his previous ones. As I am not an opinionated asshole who sees my children's partners as competition.

I actually enjoy these threads because my own MIL winds me up like crazy but she is fundamentally a good person who means very well, and these threads remind me to be more patient with and kinder to her.

I think there are so many of these threads because it IS a tough relationship. Families obviously have the potential to be very annoying. When that's blood family, or your DH and DC, I find it's much easier to just roll your eyes and let it wash over you. It's also easier to just call them out. There are a few things that my MIL has done that have genuinely upset me, but I'd never say that to her. But then I'm absolutely sure my MIL finds me intensely irritating at times, and no doubt I've upset her and she won't say.

@Cliff1975 Interesting question. I can think of a few people that have good relationships with both their Mum and their MIL. For my part, my Mum is dead, and I really struggle with the ways in which my MIL is different to her. I know that's ridiculous, and irrational, but there it is.

Me. I have a close relationship with them both. My mum in law is now dead, but she was amazing as is my own mum.

How unfortunate to have not just one but TWO awful MIL's 😂

The main demographic of MN is mums of school aged and younger children. So obviously there is a lot of my DH/Mum/MIL’ is a nob posts and treads. There’s no conspiracy to suppress older women. DIL MIL relationships are often difficult and people should be allowed to vent.

I had both, a great relationship with my own mum and a lovely mother in law. She died relatively young so never met my kids but I know she was a lovely gran to their cousins.

My MIL is bonkers so we limit interactions. I’ve tried to spend time with her but we just don’t click, she’s too mental for my liking (and DH’s quite frankly, thankfully). I think she has a mental illness like bipolar although nothing is diagnosed, she isn’t a ‘usual’ person anyway.

She once parked her car in front of the bus I was on with DC so the bus couldn’t drive away so she could jump onto the bus to give DC a birthday card… never been more embarrassed in my life. That isn’t something a regular person would do but this is just one example. She sends porn to DH too.

MIL 1. Hated me from the start, her precious boy was HERS and hers alone! Managed to get rid of me within two years, literally nothing i did or said was good enough!

MIL 2. Compulsive liar and probably one of the most self centred people ive ever met. However was very easy to get along with and have a laugh with and absolutely never involved herself in our relationship. Still get along fine now.

MIL 3. Textbook Narcissist! Never had a nice word to say about anyone, was all sweetness and light to your face and vile behind your back. Even did this to her own family members! Completely cold and dead inside and never showed any emotion unless you we're talking about her favourite subject.....herself! Absolute shell of a person!

I myself am a MIL now and try to be a good one. I offer help but don't insert myself into situations, the same with advice!

She sends porn to DH too.

Awesome. What kind?

I do hope that one day my daughters or sons in law would have a good relationship with me.

My first mil passed away and her and I were terrific friends so I know good mils exist, my one like many others simply is a rotten person.

My MIL is great. Wished she lived nearer as she’s nearly 400 miles away. We don’t have the same interests and wouldn’t hang out together, but she’s kind and generous with her time, and loves being with DC. She comes on holiday with us when we go away every other year, and never expects to stay when they visit us, which is good as we have no room! I hope to be a MIL like her when DC have their own families.

I really hope that all the spiteful MIL moaners will have a dose of their own medicine when their themselves become one, there are some very unpleasant daughters in law on here.

I’m a MIL and get on great with my two dil, I love them both very much and just want the best for them, they in turn are very kind and thoughtful to me. These things do tend to work both ways!

My mother is a nightmare MIL to my partner. She spent most of our first year trying to split us up and cried to me that she was afraid i wouldn't 'reach my full potential being with him' and how she 'hopes I meet someone...' whilst I am with my partner! She wanted me to meet an accountant or a solicitor or something more aligned with my career. Didn't take into account that I am incredibly happy with my partner.
I had a miscarriage there not that long ago (pregnant again now, 20 weeks!) and whilst she's excited about this baby when I had the miscarriage she starting saying I have no morals and my turning away from religion is my issue.

My mil has finally admitted after 2 years of harrassment that she doesn't like me ... because I'm taking her sons money away from her.

For context she's an alcoholic and FIL is a gambling addict. Between them they've lost multiple houses and businesses but refuse to see a problem. Before I came along my partner bought their current house to stop it being repossessed, now they live rent free in a nice big warm house with all bills paid by him. He even gave her £100 for her birthday because the chocolates and flowers bought originally weren't good enough. When I was pregnant they demanded £2k from him as a Christmas gift from them to his siblings. Theyve even stolen money from him in the past when he lived with them.

As a mum I can't imagine expecting my child to fund me ... but apparently I'm the gold digger 🤷‍♀️.