My MiL is worse than yours...

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Okay, I do fully believe mine is the worst creature to roam this planet, but I'm interested in your stories.
I believe I could write a book on mine without any exaggeration and it would be an unbelievable read.
To clarify we're NC with her now, it was just impossible to have her in our lives in any way.
But if you'd like to tell me something about yours that sounds unbelievable please do.
I couldn't choose even 20 top things that are frankly mental, but my personal favourite is telling anyone who'll listen we stopped her taking her dgc to the park, when in fact she would arrive past 8pm during winter and expect to take my 6 month old daughter out. When I suggested we did daytime at the park i was both controlling and unreasonable.
She doesn't work or have daytime commitments.

@Iwantmyoldnameback me too!

@Soubriquet I'm sorry for your loss x

My mil pretended to have a miscarriage because she wasn't getting enough attention when we first started dating, it was utterly bizarre.
Like you, we're NC because of the endless weird shit she did.

To be fair Mumsnet is built on posters choosing to moan. It would be a pretty quiet site otherwise 😂

I'm a MIL and a grandmother. Just got back from a night out at the 02 with my ds, my Dil, and the other grandmother. I thank God every day that I've got these people in my life.

Unless there is drip feeding I missed the worse thing you MIL has done has gone to a park at 8pm with a baby?

That was just one example but who in would ever think it’s appropriate to take a baby to the park at 8pm in winter!? If OP and her DH are NC now there’s obviously a huge backstory.

Mine turned up at our 1 bed flat 3 weeks after DC1 was born (CS), and lied about hotel bookings. As the day went on, we started wondering when she was going to check into her hotel. Eventually, around eight, she said, "well, I'm ready for bed."
So one of us said, "Great, which hotel are you at?"
To which she looked my husband in the eye and replied "I'm staying with you."
For. A. Week.
She tore apart my baby's nursery and insisted on driving to a shop to buy us an air bed and bedding we didn't want.
And she did not lift a finger to help. Every meal we cooked she took a bite then left it. Every meal we ordered, even though she picked her food, she took a bite then left it. Every time the baby cried she complained that she hadn't got to hold him for long enough and argued with me or DH that baby's nappy didn't need changing. She kept sticking her fingers in the baby's mouth even though we asked her not to and when the baby got explosive diarrhea and projectile vomiting (probably a total coincidence), she complained about the noise of the baby in the night while DH and I were run ragged cleaning up after the poor baby.
And she brought her own breakfast cereal. Because she didn't want to eat any of that dodgy foreign muck. On the Isle of Man.
The best part was, when she left, she went to the toilet one last time and wiped shit all over the toilet roll holder and bathroom door. 🤢

My ex mil was awful.

Called me a gold digger (there was no gold to dig), called me a snob because I asked her not to smoke around my baby, didn't speak to me at all at my wedding and she showed up in jeans and a jumper with stains all down it, told me my son couldn't be her grandkid because he was very clearly 'ethnic' (although I'm white passing, I'm not white but she refused to accept that), then the next time she met him she said absolutely everything about him was from her side of the family and couldn't see a bit of me in him at all 🤣 she also screamed obscenities at me when I refused to let her hold my baby because she was absolutely rat arsed, she was an awful woman.

My partners mum, however, is an angel, she bought all my kids Christmas presents before she even met them, she comes every birthday and Christmas, we visit her often and she has bought a whole basket of toys for my kids to have at her house, she is kind and generous and loves being a granny to my lot, I absolutely adore her.

My mum.... I could write a series of books about her and her shitty behaviour, thankfully we are nc and life has never been more peaceful.

My MIL and mum both have their faults but are fundamentally loving, good people.

@EarthPunchingBack mine too x

My mil is a sadist. She enjoys inflicting pain, but also gets pleasure from people’s misfortune in general.
She is dark.

@WandaWonder no, I didn't allow her to take my baby.

Actually the worst thing she did is wished my baby to die.

My mil is not awful and she’s not wonderful, just ordinary/average just like me in fact.

My MIL accused me of poisioning DD 10 days after she was born because I couldnt breast feed.

Shes a delight. fortunately DH is the scapegoat in the family so we dont see them much despite living 10 mins away. My parents that live 4 hrs away do emergency childcare instead

@ThatshallotBaby thats heavy, I hope you're safe from her now.

@CrocodileShoooooesCrocodileShoes I also have been called a gold digger.
My DH earns less than me and always has 🤣

Old people don't belong on MN. It is known.
/Had a great MIL (now passed)

We used to go walking at night in winter with a newborn, shock horror

I had a very kind, understanding, generous and loving mother in law. Sadly she died young and was not in our childrens’ lives for long.
In a few months I will become a MiL; I have a great relationship with my lovely DiL to be, as I do with my son.

My MIL is lovely and has a wonderful relationship with my children and she has helped out with childcare so many times. I love that my children love her. My mum died of cancer before my son was born so it means a lot to me that they have a nice relationship with their one grandma.

My ex mil said I lied about a miscarriage, tried to get her son to leave me and the kids.

God knows what else she's said about me but she's the most disgusting, toxic oxygen thief to ever walk the earth.

Quite.

It's likely, on MUMsnet, that most posters are female, and most will be mothers. Most of us, then, will be a MIL figure at some point.
So why the constant perpetuation of the 'MILs are awful' trope on here? It's like these bloody awful old comedians with their MIL jokes. It's senseless. Internalised misogyny.

Sure, lots of MILs are bloody awful, but then so are many BILs, DILs and any other family members, whether female or male, in laws or not.
But I've never, in 12 years on MN, seen a whole thread devoted to any other relation, never a "Tell me about your awful SIL" thread. It's only ever MILs. It's unbelievable and depressing that women do this to each other.

Oh good, just what we need, another thread to other and bash a whole group of women.

How original

Me too 😊 baby had a phase where she was wide awake at 8-9 ish, and it was lovely going for a little walk with the pram, getting some fresh air, and then getting her to sleep after. I wouldn't want an older baby going to the playground to get all excited at that time, though 😆

My MIL saved my life. Love her. She still annoys me sometimes though, as I'm sure I do her (that's family, innit?).

@ZeroFuchsGiven, I used that eg as my favourite because it's just so silly.
Hearing anyone, let alone your infants grandmother wish your child harm, let alone die is just so far removed from being a bit ridiculous.
But it was the point we cut off contact and of course she denies it, or says she just wanted the best for the family we had, but wished bad things on my child.
She was also incredibly cruel about my eldest son once contact was stopped, she mocked his physical appearance (he wears glasses and had freckles, the absolute horror, can you imagine?)