To think that caring about what is fashionable is childish?

[QuertyGirl]

Or at least portrays a massive lack of confidence?

I can understand it in teenagers- you're still developing both physically and as a person and conformity is safety.

But for adults? Why would an adult choose clothes because they're "in" as opposed to whether or not you, personally suit them?
That they make you happy, comfortable or make you comfortable?

See plenty of threads on here asking exactly that.

I have no interest in fashion, hair or nails. It’s never been a thing in my family. But I have confidence and luxury of not worrying about what people think of my ‘look’.

I really feel for some people on here who see their ‘looks’ fading with age, or feeling the need to spend lots of money they don’t have to look a certain way.

Fashion is also art. Vivienne Westwood, was cutting edge, defiant, brave and rebellious. The view that fashion is childish shows a real lack of aesthetic awareness. Almost an ignorance. Someone’s aesthetic education was severely neglected.

Don't feel for me! I make my own money and love buying clothes and having my hair done. My dds say I'm a "queen', I'll take that. I'm equally happy in filthy track pants and a ratty fleece having just walked the dogs. It's all good.

@QuertyGirl would you extend your judgement to home decor too? If not, why not, as fashion isn't restricted to clothing?
YABVU and what YOU think has no validity when assessing the maturity, or otherwise, of people.

Ugh. Such a goady OP.

It's "childish" to care about fashion. Honestly what a patronising and ridiculous view. I don't particularly care about fashion, and certainly don't follow it, but I'm not naive - of course it impacts my decisions on clothes. I challenge anyone to look at photos from 10 years ago or to dig through some old things that are just sitting in the cupboard and deny that you don't wear them any more because they just look out of date. Even if your'e not a big fashion watcher, you know this.

The comment re "all looking the same" is also ridiculous because actually, the people I know who follow fashion tend to stand out. If bright colours are in - they'll turn up wearing a complex outfit with contrasting brights. The rest of us are in our usual boring uniform of a t-shirt and jeans and at a push, might let fashion have some input by adding a brightly coloured scarf or buying a jacket in bright pink.

the fashionable women on the school run are the ones who stand out. The rest of us are usually wearing jeans, boots/trainers, jumpers and a black/blue coat. There are two mums in particular at our school and I'm always in awe of how their outfits and styles adapt. And how they look amazing at same time (both do, admittedly, have fantastic figures).

It's not for me I'm no dedicated follower of fashion. Feel it's a bit wasteful too and strikes of keeping up with the Jones'.

I basically pick a look I like and stick with it until I'm bored.

There’s a lot of misogyny (internalised and overt) in the dismissal of fashion as childish or shallow. I very much doubt the OP would say the same about people who are interested in the visual arts or architecture, but they are all part of the world of design, just like fashion.

People who stress a lot about their looks fading as they age can often turn to tweakments like botox and fillers. Which I kind of see as trying to fight a losing battle, as there's no procedure that can hold back the march of time. But in my experience the people who are most into clothes aren't necessarily the vainest with regard to their looks. If that makes any sense at all. They're more concerned with having fun with clothes than trying to look forever 27. Like the late Vivienne Westwood for example.

You’re totally right. It’s foolish to follow fashion. That’s why my DC all wear togas and I’m currently sitting here wearing a crinoline dress and stitching new ribbons onto my bonnet,

I don't see it as childish. Some people are just really in to fashion. It's an interest. I am NOT! I mean I don't want to be obviously very unfashionable but I just buy clothes that A) look nice and B) flatter my figure. I don't care if it's in fashion but I want to look nice.

I agree @SpaceOP as you get older, being fashionable and well put together is not the norm. The mums at my kids school are all in puffer jackets and jeans. The few mums who look stylish really stand out - they're often wearing trainers too but they're trainers that are on trend or paired with a stylish coat.

Yes actually.

Decorate your house to make yourself happy and comfortable. What does it matter what's fashionable?

"Decorate your house to make yourself happy and comfortable. What does it matter what's fashionable?"

But if someone decorated to be happy, comfortable and fashionable?..... still judgey?

Why would fashionable be relevant? What's the point?

But you could extend this to choice of -

Car
Home
Foods
Leisure habits

We're a pack animal so find comfort and safety to a degree in conforming.

Except yourself obviously as you'd never be so dull as to do what everyone else does.

Others who don't know you may infact think your going out of your way to be "different " or "unique " so much so that you aren't expressing your true self

Otherwise it wouldn't occur to you to be so adamant to the contrary ...

I live in jeans baggy ones no longer skinny t shirts bomber jackets denim in warmer weather I’m 56 and stopped caring years ago, love bright colours as well. For winter I’d love neon puffer jackets.

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I don't go out of my way to be different. I pick what I want. Whether it's different to others or not isn't relevant, but it generally is.

I just find hard to believe that thousands of people have the same tastes in certain things. It's following fashion. Hence theads on here almost asking for permission to wear white trainers or whatever.

Decorate your house to make yourself happy and comfortable. What does it matter what's fashionable?

Becuase it’s embarrassing for your kids if your decor is 30 years out of date. And out if interest your you were decorating it now, how would you make it deliberately unfashionable.

When certain styles have passed it becomes uncomfortable to live in a really dated environment. Decor is about ambience as well as comfort.

😁l quite fancy wearing a crinoline. Dd wouldn’t wear a toga though!

There are probably just as many people though who buy a sweater/shoes whatever not because it's in fashion but because it's there. On the shelf at the time. No more than that

Why would I go out of my way to make it deliberately unfashionable?

Because you’ve rejected fashion!

Arse (I love I got to write that!) unless you immediately ditch the lot and redo in cheesecloth then you're a conformist numpty!