Why do people keep having kids?

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This isn't judgemental. I've got 2 DC and all I think about is having a third.

I have a DH who is rubbish and I think about leaving him on a weekly basis. A 5 year old with ASD who doesn't sleep. And a 1 year old who is the easiest child in the world. I work full time and have a very stressful job.

But all I can think about is a third child. I'm nearly 37 so have to get a move on. I'm finally getting some sleep after years of being totally sleep deprived. I'm finally saving some money again.

WHY WOULD I HAVE ANOTHER CHILD???

But it's all I can think about.

What is this weird psychological thing where you want to keep having kids even though life feels like total chaos already?

Is it ever a good idea to have a kid if you aren't happy in the relationship but you know you'd be a good mum to the kid and have comfortable life/stability in other ways?

Any thoughts/reflections v welcome.

I have a feeling OP that if you left your husband you’d have a happy messy busy house you crave. I think your broodiness would suddenly subside too.

Youd then look back and realise that the pregnancy and baby you wanted was actually a s coping mechanism to distract from other things.

instead of solving your relationship issues and leaving which is a monumental task your looking to the one thing that makes you happy and gives you focus and distraction. But it won’t solve the underlying issue.

I think the resolution is right in front of you.

Ah yes, so easy for women to just leave relationships in todays cost of living crisis, why didn’t OP think of that! /s