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Next door neighbour wagging his rope about

137 replies

Shouldisayorshouldino · 16/01/2023 15:26

I'm honestly going demnted and can't decide if I just need to suck it up because of the length of time, or if I should say something and nip it in the bud now.

Next door are detached from eachother but share a path each down the side of our gardens, each a gate width wide. Next door is into fitness and has installed one of them big whopping heavy ropes on their side, so about 1.5m max from our wall. He's wagging it about making a constant banging noise when he's using it. When we came home and first heard it I honestly thought someone was upstairs in our house going hell for leather in our bed! (Luckily DH was with me or I'd probably have ran up all guns blazing). Anyway he was at it twice yesterday latest being 7pm and he's at it again already today. I'm aware this is only the 3rd time, but the noise is so loud and repetitive it's already driving me up the wall!! Do I say something? Or am I being unreasonable?

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Baconand · 17/01/2023 13:35

I think I'd be compelled to go out in the dead of night and cut them in half.

That would drive me crackers but I suspect that it wouldn't be seen as a nuisance noise unless at it all day and night. I'd probably make a polite comment about them being quite noisy if an opportunity arose though.

321user123 · 17/01/2023 13:40

Im sorry OP but I think you’re slightly unreasonable.
he has a right to enjoy his house as he pleases the same way you do.
realistically… how long can he be going for? I struggle to imagine that it lasts for more than 15 mins at a time…

Think about what you can compromise and discuss maybe a more suitable time slot say 10-2 or 3-6 or whatever.
You don’t know, but maybe he tolerates some noise from you without ever mentioning it? Kids crying/screaming/running/banging, music, animals, whatever?

ilovecardigans · 17/01/2023 13:40

MmeDefrag · 16/01/2023 17:32

Damnit now I’ve got that scene from the Blues Brothers and “Rawhide” going round and round in my head.

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Yep, me too!

OP - sympathies. We're detached from our neighbours too, but they've converted their garage into a gym, complete with punchbag. When Joe Bugner the bloke starts walloping the damn thing the noise and vibrations carry through into our living room, which isn't even on the side facing their garage!

I pray that one day (soon, please make it soon) he'll break his bloody hand...

silverbubbles · 17/01/2023 13:43

It's mid jan. Hopefully he will give up soon and get back on the sofa

Bananagirl23 · 17/01/2023 13:49

FFS why can’t he join a gym like a normal person. It might be worth making sure he isn’t going to cause structural damage to your properties with all that floor banging and the vibrations

unclebuck · 17/01/2023 13:54

I'd sing the theme from Raw Hide constantly and whoop at him.

rwalker · 17/01/2023 13:54

Battle ropes it’s a fad give it a few weeks

smooththecat · 17/01/2023 13:57

Is it one of those big heavy cotton ropes? Surely it will get wet outside. Hopefully it will rot and he will rot too.

Seaweedandsalt · 17/01/2023 14:02

Yes we had a lad down our road jumping on his trampoline and the trampoline was touching the back wall of his house so the noise was reverberating through to us four doors down.

We also had the same lad violently kick a football into the side of our house (we are end terrace) as well as a wooden bin store outside our house trying intentionally to cause damage, so much so he broke the side of the store a couple of times and someone from the housing association had to come out and repair it. His parents seem totally oblivious or are unable to parent him properly, not sure which.

We were going to say something to his parents not that it would have done any good but he stopped in the end and he's not been a problem since.

LadyAstor · 17/01/2023 14:05

I'm quite disappointed - I thought this was going to be about extreme exhibitionism! 😆

TheOrigRights · 17/01/2023 14:09

rwalker · 17/01/2023 13:54

Battle ropes it’s a fad give it a few weeks

I've been using battle ropes for years, admittedly at the gym or outside circuits. I don't think they're a fad.

JanuaryBlues2023 · 17/01/2023 14:14

If you get on well with them I’d say something like. Really glad your keeping fit and healthy in the NY and really admire your stamina with your new ropes but in our house it really sounds like X (something funny but really really loud). I am just wondering is their any chance you could please either move them or maybe put Y down to help keep the noise down a little?

CalpolDependant · 17/01/2023 14:17

Came here for penis. Seriously disappointed.

realmsofglory · 17/01/2023 14:18

He can do what he wants in his own garden! You will come across as a CF

Thunderpunt · 17/01/2023 14:20

MissingMoominMamma · 16/01/2023 15:31

When I saw the thread title, I thought it was a euphemism. I’m quite disappointed…

Same here Blush

Soothsayer1 · 17/01/2023 14:32

It sounds like he is using battle ropes, they have them in my gym, ridiculous noisy things I've never touched them myself!

MissMaple82 · 17/01/2023 14:33

You're being unreasonable. A couple of times a day isn't intolerable. He has a right to enjoy his space just as much as you.

Mammajay · 17/01/2023 14:44

I would mention it asap as he might be unaware of how noisy it is

NewHopeNow · 17/01/2023 14:48

Yanbu. Get him told, no way would I put up with that. One of the perks of being detached is no nonsense from the neighbours and nobody waking the baby.

Mammajay · 17/01/2023 14:48

Also whilst it is true everyone has a right to enjoy their space, that is not the case when it prevents other people from enjoying theirs. E.g an occasional noisy party ok. Regular loud music not ok.

Bornin1989 · 17/01/2023 14:50

If you are near Shrewsbury and your neighbour has a shaved head and a big ginger beard, it sounds like my cousin (who I know does this as he shares videos of this on an instagram account) and I can have a gentle word with him for you 😂 PM me if so!

Aloezebra · 17/01/2023 14:52

Not the point but I’m quite impressed how long he’s managing to go at it, battle ropes are hard work! Maybe start inviting him & his partner over for boozy takeaway nights so he’s a bit less bloody fit!

BigSkies2022 · 17/01/2023 14:52

Well, he's going to have to be some sort of superman to maintain battle ropes for very long. They are the most exhausting, intimidating bit of equipment in the gym.

Have you considered rushing outside when he starts up to cheer him on loudly? Perhaps encourage other household members to join you?

Sorry, facetious, but if asking nicely to muffle the noise with mats, and explaining the impact (which he might not realise) on your side doesn't change things, might be worth taking the piss-taking route?

ThreeblackCats · 17/01/2023 14:54

Op, they are called battle ropes and you need to let him know they are distractingly loud.
@GlomOfNit lots of ladies like to use battle ropes too. It’s not exclusively a silly mans accessory, they give a really good workout.

you have my every sympathy, and I hope you can sort this without falling out.

euff · 17/01/2023 14:56

When we came home and first heard it I honestly thought someone was upstairs in our house going hell for leather in our bed!

^^ tell them this is what it sounds like!