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Asked to move from relatives house

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OrangeBlankets · 14/01/2023 09:32

I've been living in a relatives house for more than 2 years. When I moved in the relative was in a care home but the person who had POA for them agreed for me to move in and said it was ok for a short time and that I didn't have to pay rent.

Now the house owner died and so did the POA. The executors want me to move out.

I don't have anywhere to go, can they evict me?

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HandsOffMyCarrierBags · 14/01/2023 11:10

They have been very kind to allow you two years rent free. It’s time to do the right thing and move on. Staying beyond your welcome is quite selfish.

ChungusBoi · 14/01/2023 11:11

@WinterFoxes idea might be a good one, although if you want to keep your new job, it would be contingent on finding a place nearby. This is a recent article about the platforms people use to find house sits if it’s an idea you want to explore.

PupInAPram · 14/01/2023 11:11

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OP sounds young, vulnerable and alone. Go bully on another thread.

HandsOffMyCarrierBags · 14/01/2023 11:12

They will have plans for the house or cash from the house sale. They will have responsibilities and worries this cash will help with

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OrangeBlankets · 14/01/2023 11:12

Yes I have a copy of the tenancy agreement and there is a gas certificate. I don't children living with me, I'm on my own with the dog. I got the dog because I was lonely. Thank you to the kind people who have posted suggestions.

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OrangeBlankets · 14/01/2023 11:12

Yes I have a copy of the tenancy agreement and there is a gas certificate. I don't children living with me, I'm on my own with the dog. I got the dog because I was lonely. Thank you to the kind people who have posted suggestions.

What does the tenancy agreement say in terms of notice?

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OrangeBlankets · 14/01/2023 11:13

My children are grown up now

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TangledWebOfDeception · 14/01/2023 11:14

@OrangeBlankets It’s scary but when you sort things out for yourself you will become stronger and more resilient each time. Honestly, as scary as it is, do it. Most of us can cope with far more than we think we can, we just need to practice.

It also feels good to be in control of your own situation. Wishing you all the best!

freyamay74 · 14/01/2023 11:14

Christ your level of entitlement is mind blowing OP. You've had the massive advantage of living rent free for two years; sounds like you haven't even worked for most of that time ... of course you'll have to leave, it's not your house. The executors have a duty to ensure the will is acted on. The fact you have a dog is irrelevant. (Did you get a dog thinking it would give you some sort of 'claim' on the house?!)

Try to drag things out at your peril... if there end up being legal costs because you're dragging your heels then you will be liable - which will screw your chances of getting somewhere decent to live

Goldilocksmother · 14/01/2023 11:16

Do you have a copy of the tenancy agreement?

Have you been paying any money for rent and what does the tenancy agreement state about rent?

*Is there a gas certificate for the property?

Have you read ANY of the thread?

SpaceshiptoMars · 14/01/2023 11:16

@OrangeBlankets A combined house/pet sitting role might suit you. You'd need to rehome the dog, but if you are good with animals, this might be your saviour. Do you drive and have a car, because you'd need to travel quite a way from home to next home.

ChungusBoi · 14/01/2023 11:17

OrangeBlankets · 14/01/2023 11:12

Yes I have a copy of the tenancy agreement and there is a gas certificate. I don't children living with me, I'm on my own with the dog. I got the dog because I was lonely. Thank you to the kind people who have posted suggestions.

💐 you will find a solution. Ignore those being nasty, well done for identifying the first steps and keep the end goal of a secure place to live in your mind.

growgrowinggrown · 14/01/2023 11:18

Surely this is a reverse? No one is this entitled

PupInAPram · 14/01/2023 11:20

OrangeBlankets · 14/01/2023 11:13

My children are grown up now

So not young, but still alone and struggling with mental health so deserving of support not unnecessary aggression.

purpledalmation · 14/01/2023 11:20

Have you been saving while living in the house for free? That would have been a good plan for the future.

knittingaddict · 14/01/2023 11:21

PupInAPram · 14/01/2023 11:11

OP sounds young, vulnerable and alone. Go bully on another thread.

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Op has grown up children. So not young, may be vulnerable, probably not alone or at least has adult children.

Theluggage15 · 14/01/2023 11:22

Oh ffs. All those ‘don’t be mean’ ‘be kind’ posts. The OP isn’t being particularly kind. They’ve been living rent free which was meant to be for a short while and now thinks they should be entitled to stay. And doesn’t think granny was nice but has been happy enough living in her house for 2 years.

Thoughtful2355 · 14/01/2023 11:23

Of course they can, how are you so entitled!

You should have been saving for the inevitable. Surely your saved enough by now!!!

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 14/01/2023 11:24

OP you’ve come to the wrong place for advice, as is hopefully evident to you now from the snarky comments here. Please call the Shelter helpline or online chat helpline ASAP then things will be clearer.

Mynewhome · 14/01/2023 11:25

OrangeBlankets · 14/01/2023 11:12

Yes I have a copy of the tenancy agreement and there is a gas certificate. I don't children living with me, I'm on my own with the dog. I got the dog because I was lonely. Thank you to the kind people who have posted suggestions.

Ok so if you have a tenancy agreement. And they want you to leave they have to give you a section 21. If you have not had that then you have every legal right to stay there. So if they want you out they Need to give a section 21.

You need to take that section 21 to the council. Where you can make a homeless application. You must be very clear about any mental health issues , medical conditions, vulnerabilitys. The council will often help you to find somewhere to live under homless intervention.

They are also likely to tell you not to leave after the section 21 but to wait fir eviction day /bailiffs. If you don't council will say you have made yourself homeless them will not help you.

ThinWomansBrain · 14/01/2023 11:26

two years?
what was your interpretation of a short period?

And you've been paying your bills while living there rent free - that's so generous of you

Robinni · 14/01/2023 11:28

Yes you will have to leave.

How, after saving on rent for over two years, have you no means to go anywhere else??

Florissant · 14/01/2023 11:30

FlatWhiteExtraHot · 14/01/2023 11:02

The OP has already stated that she has mental illness. How is anyone supposed to save thousands on disability benefits?

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Where did the OP state that they were on disability benefits?

Notarealmum · 14/01/2023 11:30

OP, I have no suggestions to make, I’m afraid, but I hope you find somewhere for you and your dog to live soon. People on this thread have been unnecessarily cruel and judgmental in my opinion.