another childs birthday at school and ds being upset.

[meandboys]

There was a girl in ds's class who brought in party bags, but only 20, and there is 28 children in the class. So when i picked up ds from school, he was crying his eyes out, and would not tell me what was wrong until we got home! It was because he didn't get a party bag so i said did all the other children get 1 and he said that most of them did.

So am i being unreasonable for being very at the childs parent for not bringing enough bags in for this childs birthday?

Should tell the teacher that i was annoyed about the fact that my son was upset for most the evening, because of the parent not supplying the class with enough bags?

I feel stupid for being annoyed over something so petty, but it upset me to see ds so upset over it!

And the thing that annoys me even more is when it was ds's birthday, i baked about 60 fairy cakes, and this child was one who kept asking me for more when there was some left over, and i gave them to her to take home!

So what would you do in this situation?

I don't think a single person has disagreed that it was wrong to send in 20 party bags for 28 kids.

What we've been discussing is how you handle the situation.

Personally I wouldn't make it into a big thing. I would let it go and if it happened again then maybe speak to the teacher.

And I would definitely ensure that my child didn't get so upset about it.

I don't know. Children need to learn that not everyone will want to be your freind and also that it's ok to not want to be everyone elses friend. It was a mistake I hope rather than a deliberate exclusion so as a parent shouldn't you be able to explain to your son that it wasn't personal and that sometimes people do things without realising the hurt it can cause?

See I am mean and don't even send in a bag of sweets on DS's birthdays. I don't feel it is neccessary and tbh it bugs me when I see DS coming out with yet another sweet from school. I'm not frugal when it comes to treats, but if schools have policies like only water in their beakers etc, then why on earth are they handing out sweets willy nilly.

But I agree with the OP, it was mean of the mohter not to send in enough bags, if I did send in treats, it would be for the whole class. I would like to see our school banning the handing out of sweets on birthdays. (Does that make me sound really mean ?