Anyone else's DH do this?!

[tiredmama23]

Sort of lighthearted ....

When DH does the Tesco food shop he messages me about 10-15 times over the hour or so he is there. Sends me pictures of different shelves saying "do you want anything from here?" or "which nappies?" and a screenshot of the entire shelf of nappies in Tesco, for example 🙈

The whole point of him doing the shop instead of me is so that I get a break from it and get to chill at home!! Instead I'm spending the whole time answering his texts about what to buy so might as well be in the bloody shop with him 🤷‍♀️ I find myself just replying "honestly whatever you think, just pick one".

Anyone else or just my DH with this annoying as fuck habit?!

Or AIBU and I need to shut up and be grateful he values my input? 😂

Christ no,he just cracks on
All the habitual questions that’s too needy. Switch phone off ignore the fucker

Put your phone on silent til he’s home, he’ll soon work it out.

No and if he did I'd ignore my phone!

No! Does your DH not see the usual brand of nappies you get every time he gets one out? Just ignore him, he'll manage.

😂

I feel I'm being a bit mean as it's a nice thing he's doing when he takes a photo of a shelf and says "want anything from here?" In his own way he's trying to make sure I have everything I want/need I suppose. But man alive I honestly don't know how he gets around the shop with so many messages and photos being sent!

Just do online shopping and have it delivered. Much quicker and cheaper as you don’t impulse buy

Do you criticise if he picks 'wrong'

If you're honestly not bothered tell him before he leaves and tell him you're going to get in the shower etc.

Yes! Unfortunately.

He’s even been known to ring me and walk up and down the aisles saying what about this or that..

I put a stop to that; if you can’t go off a list just make a judgement call!

Absolutely not. If he did I wouldn't answer.

Just start doing it back. Message him several times every time you shop, asking which nappies to get, which milk to buy, which parking space to choose, which type of bread to get. Surely if he needs to consult you then it should be reciprocal.

I know it’s cute/semi lighthearted but I don’t like stuff like this. To me it’s the man half implying that all this stuff is the woman’s responsibility, and he must have her input because really he’s just helping out, it’s not really his job etc. But it is his job. Make him do it properly.

Yes we try to stick to the same brand of nappies but if they're out of stock we have our back up options. He has to defer to me if the first choice isn't available. I have no idea why he can't make this decision himself 🤷‍♀️

yes my dh does this he will send me photos asking me if the items ok message me about 10 times call me probably twice. it drives me insane lol

No I don't criticise. I'd only say something if he'd forgotten something on the list. But if it's not on the list I don't expect him to buy it. I think he just feels compelled to buy extras.

I stopped engaging with 'tell me what you want from the shops' a long time ago (I'm sure you can manage it, darling, oops, no, I didn't realise my phone was on silent) with one notable exception.

I had a phone call from the Feminine Hygiene aisle. Fortunately for him he understood the assignment once I'd said I didn't really give a shit what he brought back as long as it said Super Plus or did not say Fresh Scent/some other twee phrase for 'contains something that will make your outside burn enough to distract you from the feeling that your uterus is about to climb out of your body via your spine and strangle you' and came back with Tampax super plus, a packet of paracetamol and three Crunchies.

Glad it's not just me!

No but he does make me write a shopping list before he goes. 🤦🏻‍♀️

@NeverDropYourMooncup 😂

I've had photos of the entire shelf of tampons before now, with the caption simply: "????"

Apparently "just the ones you got me last time please" wasn't clear enough and yielded the reply "which ones were they?"

FFS! 🙄😂

My DH is exactly the same. I think he's just worried he will get it wrong if he doesn't call/send photos to check. I actually hate when he goes "off the list". We have so many things on the list that are repeated each week but the one week I don't say the exact brand of the thing we always buy, he will get the wrong one. What a taskmaster I am!

Great reply, had me in stitches 😂😂😂

More annoying to come home with incorrect item or to have forgotten something so I cope

I know you said 'light hearted', but honestly, I couldn't be with a man this incompetent.

@Kanaloa - you've nailed it. He is signalling that this shopping is woman's work, beneath him to know how to do it, so he will keep making it OP's work with all the texts. Totally sexist.

Clearly you didn’t read my thread from earlier today 😂I wish my DH were competent enough to ask! Good luck!

This would drive me batty. Thankfully my DH isn’t totally inept. However if he goes shopping when he’s hungry that is problematic for a very different reason!

Never does this, but thank God. Except if I've asked for something g very specific and out of the norm for something special and it's not there he checks with me for alternatives.

i always have a little giggle when I hear old blokes doing the shop virtually guided by his wife at home who is literally remote controlling him via phone!!