What makes you jealous of other people?

[Cuppasoupmonster]

Just wondering. I’m jealous of people in good health with high energy levels. I want to be that kind of person so badly 😫

I seem to somewhat lack the 'jealousy' gene.

I don't think I've been jealous of anything that I can recall.

There are times I think 'ahh I wish I was good at xyz', but I've never thought, god I am so jealous that Joan isn't scared of flying/is a confident driver etc., I am more likely to think 'how great for Joan that she can do xyz'

Sorry if I sound like a twat.

People who decide to TTC and 9 months later get a living baby and haven't spent 10 years of their life in the constant limbo of infertility and miscarriage.
People who are close to their parents and do things together because they like spending time together.

Those

• with ability to do life with so much more energy and enthusiasm than me - I would love to be in the ‘great job, do everything domestic, have kids, undertake extracurricular hobbies, look great’ group but am in the totally exhausted and depressed whilst just about managing work and having lots of help at home from our nanny as well as dh
• Without mental health difficulties
• whose kids are more straightforward and have things they are good at rather than have SEN/anxiety

@ShellyOverSeas I find parenting very hard too and definitely find myself wishing I’d not had kids or had different ones.

Parents and in laws that want to look after and spend time with their grandkids
Thin people
People that don’t get tired and have lots of energy

People who’ve paid their mortgage off when I still have forever to go!

People who are shorter than me who can wear amazing heels with confidence, at 5ft 11 all I get is stares and comments that make me self conscious

People with children.

I'm generally not a jealous person, but two things get to me:

People who are naturally slim/naturally have a moderate appetite. I am fairly slim, but have the appetite of an 18 stone rugby forward and I am never full EVER. I have to work at being slim every single day and I'm always thinking about food.

People who have easy pregnancies and enjoy being pregnant. I'm on my second horrible pregnancy, and I am absolutely green with envy over anyone who doesn't feel like death the whole way through. I hate every single second of it - even the scans and the kicks - and I'm wretchedly miserable from start to finish.

People who are likeable and popular. I have crippling social anxiety and really don't know how to make or keep friends

People that can eat anything and stay slim
People who are naturally academic
Those with high flying careers but still manage to retain their work/life balance

People who had parents who gave them a good foundation in life - love, healthy habits, nurtured their hobbies, a good education, practical career guidance etc. - and who showed a genuine interest in their lives as they grew up.

When I was a child, I was also jealous (but in a curious and longing way) of any friend who had a good relationship with their siblings.

My sister bullied me brutally for the whole time we lived together and I so desperately wanted a loving relationship with her. I can’t explain the feeling I had inside whenever I saw my friend and her sister. It was was like it was a great honour to witness it; I felt joy for them both that they had such a close bond with each other, and at the same time, I felt such a terrible loss inside that I would never have the same for myself.

Women with thick, glossy hair. Mine is fine and wispy and just looks meh. To add insult to injury I also have hair loss and need to take medication to keep it looking on the thin side of normal.

People who are tall - I'm 4ft 10 and hate it.
This is awful but people whose kids don't have issues - 2/3 of mine are ND and DS1 also has a genetic condition which can cause a range of different things, and means he is in pain a lot of the time.

People who have good hair.

Mums who find the motivation to get up before the baby has woken up and find the energy to work out! My god I don't know how they do it but would love to and Im very jealous of them having the motivation and will power.

People who are motivated to do a lot of exercise & be controlled about their diet.

People who don't procrastinate

I’m Australian and wish I had been born in the UK! Guess the grass is always greener.

People who make friends easily
people with white teeth

People who keep their homes clean and tidy

@Sasha07 I live an a so-called amazing location and most of the time it's doing prosaic things like going to the supermarket and walking the dog against a very dramatic backdrop.

Ha ha, SafeMove, we are opposites! I took myself very seriously as a teenager and wish I had loosened up and slept with unsuitable boys and snogged people I fancied. I was so boring and restrained!

I am jealous of people who had a fun rebellious youth with the stories to tell and cringe at!

It’s funny, because people with the things written here might not always have been like that.

I have quite a few of the things here - my own home (a small London flat so not to everyone’s taste) a decent career (not amazing/famous/six figure earning but I “chased my dreams” and succeeded) a loving supportive partner, I travel a fair bit, iI don’t wear make up and I like how I look, I’m naturally slim although that’s harder to maintain post-30, I’m confident and social with good friends and I’m generally happy in life.

If you’d met me four or so years ago, I was suicidally depressed and on the brink of being sectioned, not earning enough to buy even a garage, constantly being dumped and treated horribly by men, in therapy to deal with the impact of my dad’s emotional
abuse and the fact my mum enabled it, feeling like I had no friends and no purpose. I’ve also got BPD and chronic fatigue and to this day I keep my parents at arm’s length and don’t have a big close family. I grew up poor. I will say though, therapy and medication was a life saver. It gave me the ability to set boundaries and brought me out of the slump enough for me to not just dream resentfully about the things I wanted, but to do them.

It isn’t too late to grab life by the balls and do the things you want. I am jealous of people younger than me who’ve had books published though!

People who aren't anxious
People who don't have social anxiety and can easily make friends

One person specifically, my friend whose husband sold his business for alot of money. There’s virtually nothing she can’t do or buy now

I feel bad saying this, my husband, friends and family are all so wonderful and we are all in relatively good health so I am so grateful and thankful for that.

But I’m jealous of people who are on the property ladder, especially friends of ours who have had houses bought for them. We are both self employed but I’m the main earner, have to be in London for my Husbands work. All deposit savings will be used for my maternity leave now so the dream of owning a house feels pretty out of reach.

I’m just jealous of people who own and have a nursery for their child. Our baby will have to share our room and we can’t even put pictures on the wall let alone decorate.

But as I said, we are happy and healthy and on the whole so consider myself hugely lucky and my life is good.