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To bring a fizzy drink to a meal?

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mapofthechicks · 10/01/2023 19:40

So, I visited my boyfriend's family for the first time on Sunday

His mum cooked for us all. Lovely meal. When I arrived, I came with a bottle of lemonade. I said this to his mum ''I've got this, can I pop it in the fridge? Please help yourselves''

When having dinner, I asked for a glass (there were only small wine glasses on the table).

His mum said 'but we're having wine?'

I said no thanks, I'll just have some of the lemonade please'

She seemed really Confused at me!

We had a nice meal and then my boyfriend mentioned to me today 'Mum was really confused about your lemonade! Maybe don't do that next time Wink'

AIBU to think it's fine? It wasn't just for me. Anyone could've helped themselves but it was so strange. It was as if I had placed 10g of coke on the table and told everyone to help themselves to a line

Very odd indeed surely?

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Eyerollcentral · 10/01/2023 20:51

mapofthechicks · 10/01/2023 20:48

@Eyerollcentral haha, you are funny. You think me bringing a bottle of soft drink = 'I clearly don't give a fuck about making a good first impression' 😆

Not sure why you are saying 'assuming you're not a troll'. What a boring thing to troll about!

Lol but you haven’t made a good impression? Your BF has had already passed on a message from his mum she wasn’t impressed and she handed the juice back to you at the door. You seem to be convinced you are right, you aren’t. Also as a working class person I really find it irritating that people seem to equate being from a poorer background with anything goes or not knowing how to conduct themselves. You’ve let yourself down a bucketful. Best to avoid beverages if you are invited again and stick to a bunch of flowers

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 10/01/2023 20:51

mapofthechicks · 10/01/2023 20:49

You're not someone I'd want to be friends with them. How utterly ridiculous.

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Feeling's mutual.

Sparklingbrook · 10/01/2023 20:51

What is 7UP, is it not lemonade? Is is different to Sprite? Not sure what that is either.
We just have Schweppes.

Stressfordays · 10/01/2023 20:52

I feel like I'm dog rough now 🤣 I just ate my hello fresh dinner with a can of coke! Everyone I know drinks pop or squash with meals?

Ninnynonnynails · 10/01/2023 20:52

It's funny mumsnet say they are definitely working class. And the snobbery that is coming out of this thread is hilarious and very revealing. Who really gives a shiny shit? 🤷

Ninnynonnynails · 10/01/2023 20:53

Careful was it full fat! I think diet coke is allowed in the clique 😁😂

Welpthereitis · 10/01/2023 20:53

Cuwins · 10/01/2023 20:50

😂 maybe you should start a competition for the most disgusting bottle you can find?

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Always seem to be the ones in the fancy bottles 🤣🤣 I’m going to see if I can find a worse one the competition is on 🤣🤣

roarfeckingroarr · 10/01/2023 20:53

Bit odd but not a big deal

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mapofthechicks · 10/01/2023 20:54

@Eyerollcentral if you are right and I haven't made a good impression because I had a bottle of soft drink with me, it's not a family I'd want to be a part of. It is upright, and so over the top. Why on earth is it a problem? It has no impact on anyone at all.

My own family would laugh their heads off that someone would be raising eyebrows because they dared take along a soft drink. How rude!

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Stressfordays · 10/01/2023 20:54

Ninnynonnynails · 10/01/2023 20:53

Careful was it full fat! I think diet coke is allowed in the clique 😁😂

Coke zero. Its January diet season after all!

Thisgroupneverceasestoamazeme · 10/01/2023 20:54

I would find it unusual if someone turned up with a bottle of 7up. It might baffle me slightly but not enough to be upset by it or mention it again. I guess it would just be unexpected. People do things differently…sounds as though you were expecting something more informal and friendly whereas perhaps they saw it as ‘entertaining’

I wasn’t ever offered a drink (as in cup of tea or coffee rather than booze) when I visited my now DH’s house or anything to drink with a meal when I first met his family. I assumed that his mum didn’t like me because in my home growing up that would’ve been considered beyond rude. Now 20 odd years on I just put the kettle on when we arrive and help myself to a drink at meal times. I came to realise they just do things differently to my family did. I wonder if this might be a similar situation?

roarfeckingroarr · 10/01/2023 20:55

I find it weird when adults drink fizzy drinks / squash with a meal. What's wrong with mineral or sparkling water?

Cuwins · 10/01/2023 20:55

LubaLuca · 10/01/2023 20:50

All those who think there's no right or wrong drink to bring to someone's house, what would you think if your son's girlfriend turned up for Sunday lunch with 2l of milk or a jar of Bovril? Surely 'a bit weird' would run through your head, and you'd possibly mention it to your son afterwards.

In most households 2l of pop would be an unusual accompaniment to Sunday lunch. It would raise eyebrows, which is seemingly all his mum did at the time.

Milk unless bf or family were vegan and she knew they were unlikely to have milk or unless it was a plant based milk then yes I would find that odd as it would be very strange to find a house that didn't have milk.
Bovril I would be surprised as it's a fairly unusual thing to drink but I wouldn't have a problem with it if that's what she liked. My mum only drinks fruit tea and often has a few bags in her handbag as quite a lot of people don't have them.

toocold54 · 10/01/2023 20:55

I don't know, if I'd spent time and care cooking something, and then someone drowned it in 7Up, then they won't be invited again.

But, each to their own.

Yet drowning it in wine is fine 🤔🤔

Ninnynonnynails · 10/01/2023 20:55

Well that stuff tastes like shit ha ha. I hate the diet range of most stuff. You need to up your kombucha game 😎

Eyerollcentral · 10/01/2023 20:55

mapofthechicks · 10/01/2023 20:54

@Eyerollcentral if you are right and I haven't made a good impression because I had a bottle of soft drink with me, it's not a family I'd want to be a part of. It is upright, and so over the top. Why on earth is it a problem? It has no impact on anyone at all.

My own family would laugh their heads off that someone would be raising eyebrows because they dared take along a soft drink. How rude!

Your family sound a right laugh… Hope sixth form goes well!

MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 10/01/2023 20:56

HoneyDragon · 10/01/2023 20:49

Since when did soft drinks have their own class system?

Fentimans or R whites, Bolly or Blue Nun it all comes out the same.

This is MN. Everything will have class dragged into it.

'oh your farts are high pitched and smell a bit eggy? that's so lower middle class. A good solid landed gentry fart sounds like a trombone and has a whiff of old beef about it'.

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mapofthechicks · 10/01/2023 20:56

@Thisgroupneverceasestoamazeme yes I did expect something more informal and friendly. It just felt very stiff and 'showy'

Not for me. I will have to have words with my boyfriend... I did text back to his message of 'don't do that again'

He says 'I was joking but maybe they think baby X is on the way 😋😘'

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Ivesaidenough · 10/01/2023 20:56

I must live in a parallel universe - I don't know anyone at all who drinks fizzy drinks. With or without meals.

Hidingawaytoday · 10/01/2023 20:56

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 10/01/2023 20:46

I don't know, if I'd spent time and care cooking something, and then someone drowned it in 7Up, then they won't be invited again.

But, each to their own.

I'm not 100% sure on this... but I'm fairly certain the OP didn't 'drown' her meal in 7up. Surely, that would make the food too wet and lemony, I'd say she probably put it in a glass and drank it.

Reminds me of the time we invited some friends over for a mince pie and mulled wine at Christmas a few years ago. She got a bottle of wine out to bring over, he didn't realise what it was for, opened it and had a small glass. They only realised as they got to our front door and handed it over with the words 'umm... so, there's been a mix-up, and the wine's been opened'

We found it hilarious 😂

toocold54 · 10/01/2023 20:56

Next time take a bottle of tequila and just get everyone to do shots, as it’s more classy to drink alcohol than lemonade apparently.

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mapofthechicks · 10/01/2023 20:57

I can't wait to unleash the horror when next time I arrive with my signature alcoholic beverage

WKD. Blue. Big fuck off bottle. 2 for £5.50 in Iceland Grin

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pelargoniums · 10/01/2023 20:57

I’d be confused by someone bringing a big bottle of pop to a dinner too, really. Bottle of mixer to a party or barbecue, understandable, but a dinner party? As a PP said, it’s like showing up with a bottle of ketchup, or a Findus crispy pancake and asking for that instead of what you’re served. They were hosting and chose to offer wine and water: an alcoholic and non-alcoholic option. So it’s not like you’d have gone thirsty. And they specifically said not to bring anything! It looks a bit like you can’t manage an hour or two without a fizzy drink, like a toddler.

This does remind me of the Diet Coke thread, right down to calling it fizzy.

Norberta · 10/01/2023 20:57

Don’t want to sound mean OP but I think this was probably considered a bit chavvy which is why you got a raised eyebrow. In some circles it’s seen as a faux pas to drink anything other than wine or water at supper.

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mapofthechicks · 10/01/2023 20:57

@pelargoniums I was under the impression I was just being invited round, and dinner was being served. Not a 'dinner party'

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