To bring a fizzy drink to a meal?

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So, I visited my boyfriend's family for the first time on Sunday

His mum cooked for us all. Lovely meal. When I arrived, I came with a bottle of lemonade. I said this to his mum ''I've got this, can I pop it in the fridge? Please help yourselves''

When having dinner, I asked for a glass (there were only small wine glasses on the table).

His mum said 'but we're having wine?'

I said no thanks, I'll just have some of the lemonade please'

She seemed really at me!

We had a nice meal and then my boyfriend mentioned to me today 'Mum was really confused about your lemonade! Maybe don't do that next time '

AIBU to think it's fine? It wasn't just for me. Anyone could've helped themselves but it was so strange. It was as if I had placed 10g of coke on the table and told everyone to help themselves to a line

Very odd indeed surely?

Or Pam from Gavin and Stacey....I can just imagine when they left....

"Mick, Mick Michel......she brought lemonade, lemonade"

So she should be forced to drink alcohol? Not everyone drinks?

Of course it’s not world-ending. But it’s a bit lacking… Even if you were eating in a pub, you wouldn’t drink those drinks with an actual meal. They’re fine with a packet of crisps. It’s irrelevant that the OP wanted lemonade - and I don’t think 7Up is lemonade, by the way - it’s not the done thing. It’s like wanting ketchup all over the food that’s been made for you. You just don’t.

It does seem a bit rubbish that BF didn't mention it to his Mum that his GF doesn't drink so could they get some lemonade in. Let's blame him.

I occasionally bring cans of coke to my sisters as she rarely buys it.
Only cos I don't like wine regularly and might not only want tap water.

And they'd be wrong.

@Eyerollcentral haha, you are funny. You think me bringing a bottle of soft drink = 'I clearly don't give a fuck about making a good first impression' 😆

Not sure why you are saying 'assuming you're not a troll'. What a boring thing to troll about!

It was worse than that, they could only afford Rola Cola

Agreed. Always take something.

And if you take chocolate, you don't take it "for after". You bring it as a gift for the host that they may or may not choose to open while you are there

you'd ban your son's girlfriend from the house for bringing lemonade? are you quite highly strung?

You're not someone I'd want to be friends with them. How utterly ridiculous.

Since when did soft drinks have their own class system?

Fentimans or R whites, Bolly or Blue Nun it all comes out the same.

Even our rough-round-the-edges working class clan would raise an eyebrow at a new girlfriend being invited to a nice family dinner and plonking down a 2 litre bottle of pop on the table.

…But fair play for being your ‘authentic’ self right from the off. Megan did that with the Windsors and that worked out ok didn’t it? oh hang on…

I've seen teetotal people bring fruit juice which I thought was cheap and weird.
This was to a summer party.
Buy flowers if nothing else.

Totally reasonable not to drink wine if you don’t want to, I don’t like drinking wine with a meal so would always decline. However, I think arriving with a bottle of 7up is a bit weird, you wouldn’t bring food that you wanted to have with a meal to someone else’s house and I think soft drinks fall into the same category unlike alcohol which is seen as more a gift for the host. If I was the host it would slightly imply to me that either you were unreasonably fussy or that you thought I wasn’t going to provide adequate refreshments for you.

That said, I would try not to be weird about it and wouldn’t complain to my son, it’s hardly a big deal.

Haha, so no one in a pub has a fizzy soft drink with a meal?

You do if it's something that ketchup goes with and it's on the table.

There's nothing to suggest this was a silver service 5 course meal and OP dipped her oysters in brown sauce.

But she brought a gift for the host / for all to consume the chocolates....the 7up was for her although she of course was happy to share if others wanted some.

I don't see the problem...I'd be relieved if someone brought Thier preferred drink if it was something I didn't have in.

😂 maybe you should start a competition for the most disgusting bottle you can find?

I drink squash or fizzy drinks. And I don't really drink alcohol, would always need a soft drink with a meal.

So many people don't cater for those of us who don't drink - and if they do it's usually water or one of those 'fancy' soft drinks absolutely filled with sugar. (In my experience anyway!)

However, if meeting someone for the first time or going to someone's house for the first time, I wouldn't take my own soft drink. I don't know why, I just end up drinking whatever soft drinks they have, even if its just water. I figure it's only 1 meal and I can cope!

I always take a bottle of wine for the hosts, I usually try and find out what they might like, red white, sparkling etc. I wouldn't just take a bottle of 7up and then ask to drink it.

All those who think there's no right or wrong drink to bring to someone's house, what would you think if your son's girlfriend turned up for Sunday lunch with 2l of milk or a jar of Bovril? Surely 'a bit weird' would run through your head, and you'd possibly mention it to your son afterwards.

In most households 2l of pop would be an unusual accompaniment to Sunday lunch. It would raise eyebrows, which is seemingly all his mum did at the time.

It’s irrelevant that the OP wanted lemonade - and I don’t think 7Up is lemonade, by the way - it’s not the done thing.

Bizarre.

It's hypothetical for now. I hope it stays that way.

Yeh I don't get the working class thing. Middle class ? people can love wine and the occasional can of coke or lemonade too.
No need to drink to get drunk.

Nope, I just said so with no take backs. 😙

@ChardonnaysBeastlyCat good luck to your future DIL, bless her