To tell her to piss off

[Neuroillogical]

Apologies in advance for the rant…

In the supermarket with family. DH leaves store to nip across the road in car for extra bits while we finish shop.

He goes to inch out of parking space only to discover random lady was in his blind spot walking to the store with her trolley. Warning sensors beeped - he stopped immediately. Said lady then proceeds to bang on the window and demand he get out and speak to her and a whole shit show of drama ensues.

She claims he ‘touched her hip with car’ and threatens to call police. HIGHLY unlikely for various reasons but DH apologetic anyway/asked if she was ok/does she need anything. DH is a ppl pleaser (unlike me 😌) & being nice only seemed to spur her on. She gives him long lecture about how to drive(he drives for a living). Then demands to see disabled badge b/cos he doesn’t ‘look disabled’. (It was a disabled + parent child bay). Then accuses him of lying about having kids. (DH explains they are in store so she asks to see the car seats!!)

Anyway she starts taking pics of car, number plate (and DH!!!) for ´evidence’. Says she isn’t hurt in any way but she doesn’t feel DH apology is sufficient or sincere. He asks how he can resolve & she says it’s up to him to ´convince her he’s sorry’. Repeatedly threatening to call police. DH offers to call them himself & as soon as he dials she disappears off into the shop. Erm ok.

We reunite & he tells me what happened. By this point DH is shaken (he’s a nervous guy) & starts to worry he is going to be in some sort of trouble if she makes an accusation at a later date. As luck would have it we bump into her later at the exit & she is with a manager. She starts CRYING & saying she needs to be escorted to her car b/cos she was run over & is scared of DH. WTH!!

My thoughts-

1. She’s a drama queen
2. Even if and it’s a big IF DH brushed her with car(more likely she was startled) she is equally responsible for walking in a cars blind spot in the dark in the middle of a car park (and not on the designated walkway). also it’s an SUV and she was about 5 ft 2 on a good day
3. She wasn’t hurt so should have accepted apology and left it. If she was so tramautised & outraged she would have called police -not done her weekly shop after
4. She is outrageous for demanding proof of disability/children. It’s irrelevant and rude. (Ironically all our children and myself are actually disabled). She is neither the owner of the car park or J.Sainsbury.
5. she is a chancer who I suspect was hoping for an offer of cash or something similar (which is also why I think she complained to manager) Gift card anyone??

Anyway, I got tired of seeing DH grovelling to her so I may/may not have told her where to stick her trolley. 😏

Interested to know how other people would have handled it..

I can tell you from a legal point of view it’s highly likely that your husband is at fault.
The woman knows if she was hit and she says she was. You weren’t even even there so you definitely have no way of knowing.
As i said above injuries are not always immediately apparent, you must have experienced that in the course of your own life, have you not? She may well not be injured or it may be a minor injury that resolves within the space of a few weeks and is not something she could or would want to pursue. The fact remains your husband would be extremely likely to be found at fault for the incident if she did.
Also people should never, ever rely on parking sensors, they are a guide only not a get out of jail free card. You are still required to carry out all the normal checks before reversing a vehicle.
You were incredibly rude to tell someone to stick a trolley up their arse when your husband nearly ran over them.

Can you tell me where disabled people or people with children are supposed to park if they are with an able bodied person who is driving them?

I think your dh’s only mistake was to say sorry.

He didn’t hit her so what was there to apologise for.

Saying he wasn’t sufficiently sorry is code for bing us £50
People like that are only after money.

She is probably known for doing his sort of thing.

Probably falls down sometimes

Probably went to cry to the manager because you she didn’t get anything from your dh

😂 cringe

Your in a supermarket car park.im sorry people are going to be walking behind the cars.
And the size of suvs nowadays,Hagrid could be walking behind and you would miss him!

I once bumped a lady with my car. I think I got her hip/leg and went over her foot. She was upset, I was upset. I got out of my car and apologised profusely and while she was initially angry we both broke down and cried and hugged. It was a massive overreaction on both our parts. I think we both had a lot going on that day. She was physically fine. She was uninjured and not scratched.

She had walked behind my car which was parallel parked - so she was in my blind spot but I absolutely know I was distracted.

Anyway, you absolutely know if you hit someone with your car - even if it’s just a bump.

The lady in the shop had mental health issues. I’ve encountered weird people shopping before. I don’t make eye contact and I don’t engage.

Your DH really needs to understand that that’s lady was batsh*t crazy.

Show him the DSM extract of histrionic personality disorder and tell him that her behaviour was not normal - there’s no need to over analyse it though (which you’ve already done in this post).

It may be worth it for him to sit down with a psychologist and learn de-escalation techniques.

I’ve had to do this with a previous employer as my colleagues were getting assaulted at work and we needed to recognise when we were in danger and what we could do to keep ourselves safe. This is especially necessary if your husband is dealing with the public. Not all
psychologists offer this service.

I would ask for CCTV or a copy just in case the woman decided to pursue this. Do it today before the tape is wiped.

I've genuinely never seen a combined child and parent and disabled space in a sainsburys car park in Ireland.

I must check this out on Thursday because I'd say that's a if European Union law and you and your DH would be advised to take legal advice on this.

Sorry "that's a breach of"

I had an incident in my 20s where I was edging out of my driveway and as I was looking to the right and inching out an older man walked in front and I only saw him as I looked left again. At this point he’s chosen to go in front of my car and then threw himself on my bonnet like I was going at least 30mph. Really upset me and shook me up. He said he was going to the police. Never heard anymore about it. Some people are just unhinged I’m afraid.

Moral of story and biggest lesson OP - reverse park, always!

If she was still standing and able to rant off like that she sounds like a bunny boiler desperate for attention to me TBH.

Taking pics etc is totally irrelevant - no damage - no injury and no witnesses?

Tell your husband not to worry and in future, reverse park!

i never drive into spaces, always reverse in and drive out. It’s easier to park well that way too but shame we don’t all have old beetles with the engine in the back and the boot at the front

This.

Mountain out of a molehill.

The woman has not sustained any injury, your DH didn't touch her with the car and there is no tangible evidence.

i wouldn't add fuel to the fire by telling her to piss off, just let it go.

in this situation there is no need to report anything to your insurance company because it was a non-incident. If she tries to enact a claim, deal with it at the time by being firm that nothing happened and no damage or injury occurred to either the car or the woman.

Tell the truth and she will be the one to tie herself in knots over nothing.

if he drives for a livng, he should hae reversed in
problem solved
i hate car parks in supermarkets

My DH had an encounter with a cyclist last year where he signalled to turn left and as he was doing mid way, a cyclist overtook him from the right, went into the left into DH who was turning left where my DH nearly hit him as he was exiting the main road despite the cyclist being further back but as Dh slowed down to turn, the cyclist tried to overtake him turning to the left as well . DH immediately stopped and didn't touch the cyclist not even close, there's sensors everywhere, the cyclist stopped and hit DH's front bonnet with his hands and started to push his bike and forth into DH's car. Dh got out, went what the fuck. Cyclist shouting all sorts of abuse filming Dh with his phone, then Dh went and slapped his hand where the phone flew and got smashed into pieces., the cyclist was left shaking and backed off immediately and dh drove off and never heard from him. We looked at the dash cam footage and dh was more than a metre away from the cyclist when he stopped. It could have been a lot worse but you don't overtake a vehicle when his path is clear to turn and then jump infront of him into the turning into the same road.

When you apologise, people think they are right. When I'm in a supermarket I always look at reversing lights and stop for the car to pull out because I take personal responsibility and don't expect cars to take that responsibility for me even if it means I'm right but I'm in the blind spot and not every car has a parking cam and sensors. I've had few minor encounters in the past and when they start shouting abuse, I get out the car and shout back even if I'm not proud and then they back off. Your DH most likely nearly touched her trolley as her trolley would be in front of her anyway and she's trying her luck. Next time reverse park but don't apologise and most sensors will beep beep beep for warning and then beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep if you've touched. I always stop at the first beep and I'm sure your DH has anyway.

Sounds like a scam to get a payout, especially including the store manager as she did on the way out. You/your DH should have called Police anyway, it's telling that she didn't ring them and walked away when he dialed. Smacks of she knew it was bullshit and knew the police would offer advice and go on their way and you would've had a record of no injury occurred.
By not contacting police, you are in danger of her going to one of those abhorrent ambulance chaser style claims people. It may be an idea to alert your car insurance company.

DH should have got back in the car when she started her shit and reversed over her good and proper, really give ger something to complain about.

That's not even vaguely funny.

how was it resolved?
pretty bad that she took photos

I would have completely called her bluff. Phone the Police, they would likely call for an ambulance to check her over, checked CCTV, etc. Give her enough rope…If she is making it up or exaggerating, her lies would likely come out.
Agree she sounds like a possible chancer.

OP says the lady was walking to the store with her trolley, so if he did hit anything while reversing out of his spot it would have been her trolley and not her hip.

I think she was after some $$$.

It may have genuinely shook her up but once she realised your DH was nervous and apologetic, she took advantage of that.

Keep an eye on your local newspaper!

I would ring the police and report it now just in case and contact your insurance company too