To tell her to piss off

[Neuroillogical]

Apologies in advance for the rant…

In the supermarket with family. DH leaves store to nip across the road in car for extra bits while we finish shop.

He goes to inch out of parking space only to discover random lady was in his blind spot walking to the store with her trolley. Warning sensors beeped - he stopped immediately. Said lady then proceeds to bang on the window and demand he get out and speak to her and a whole shit show of drama ensues.

She claims he ‘touched her hip with car’ and threatens to call police. HIGHLY unlikely for various reasons but DH apologetic anyway/asked if she was ok/does she need anything. DH is a ppl pleaser (unlike me 😌) & being nice only seemed to spur her on. She gives him long lecture about how to drive(he drives for a living). Then demands to see disabled badge b/cos he doesn’t ‘look disabled’. (It was a disabled + parent child bay). Then accuses him of lying about having kids. (DH explains they are in store so she asks to see the car seats!!)

Anyway she starts taking pics of car, number plate (and DH!!!) for ´evidence’. Says she isn’t hurt in any way but she doesn’t feel DH apology is sufficient or sincere. He asks how he can resolve & she says it’s up to him to ´convince her he’s sorry’. Repeatedly threatening to call police. DH offers to call them himself & as soon as he dials she disappears off into the shop. Erm ok.

We reunite & he tells me what happened. By this point DH is shaken (he’s a nervous guy) & starts to worry he is going to be in some sort of trouble if she makes an accusation at a later date. As luck would have it we bump into her later at the exit & she is with a manager. She starts CRYING & saying she needs to be escorted to her car b/cos she was run over & is scared of DH. WTH!!

My thoughts-

1. She’s a drama queen
2. Even if and it’s a big IF DH brushed her with car(more likely she was startled) she is equally responsible for walking in a cars blind spot in the dark in the middle of a car park (and not on the designated walkway). also it’s an SUV and she was about 5 ft 2 on a good day
3. She wasn’t hurt so should have accepted apology and left it. If she was so tramautised & outraged she would have called police -not done her weekly shop after
4. She is outrageous for demanding proof of disability/children. It’s irrelevant and rude. (Ironically all our children and myself are actually disabled). She is neither the owner of the car park or J.Sainsbury.
5. she is a chancer who I suspect was hoping for an offer of cash or something similar (which is also why I think she complained to manager) Gift card anyone??

Anyway, I got tired of seeing DH grovelling to her so I may/may not have told her where to stick her trolley. 😏

Interested to know how other people would have handled it..

She isn’t responsible for walking in a cars blind spot, the driver should be checking the blind spot before moving.

Depends if he actually hit her. You don’t he didn’t so yabu.

I would have told her to calm down .
I mean yeah your dh should be checking his blind spot but you don’t start walking out in front of reversing cars ( she must of seen reverse lights ) . Unless you dh was reversing quickly without looking I’d be annoyed with your dh but how she behaves afterwards not accepting his apology etc was very much drama llama.
your dh unfortunately picked the wrong person to in her words run her over .
nothing will come of it tell him not to worry but look out for people in the car park next time .

Yeah, it’s totally her fault that she’s 5 foot 2 and also her fault that you have an SUV. Your husband sounds like an excellent driver and you sound lovely.

Surely he’d know if the bleepers made a continuous noise so therefore the car had made impact.

But yes bloody annoying, you start reversing and some dickhead practically chucks themselves behind the car - it happens frequently to me. People do need to take some responsibility for sticking themselves in the path of a moving vehicle.

I would have asked for the CCTV and called the police - she sounds like a chancer wanting to make a claim.

YANBU, I’d have done the same but I am a self confessed mamma bear over DH and the kids!

This is where you are better to reverse in to the space. I know it's harder to get to the boot, but it would prevent this type of scenario.

A very similar thing happened to me. The woman concerned was very uppity and i think thought I’d back down as she accused me of hitting her car. I hadn’t. Not even a bit. And there was literally nothing to see. She got out and said she was going to take photos. I said I would too then, and told her to
smile as I was filming her. I admit I got a bit excited and was all “that’s right love, turn to me, straight into the camera, now, look away into the distance, ohhh lovely.” I was also laughing. She told me to fuck off and I laughed harder, and said I was going now, but if there was any damage to my car when I got back, we would all know who did it. And laughed more. Bullying bitch.

Some people just live for drama.

And while pedestrians aren't required to not be in the driver's Blindspot its really stupid to walk behind a reversing vehicle.

YANBU.

She sounds nuts!

She sounds nuts. The only thing worse than people darting behind your car is people that turn into a row, see a car starting to back out, and slam on the accelerator to blast by you so that you have to hit your brakes to keep from backing into them.

Your DH had a ride on the drama llama. There's no pleasing them so you shouldn't try

She is a nut job and thought he might offer her some money or pay for her shopping to avoid a scene. Defo a nut.

I would have told her to piss off, refuse to engage further, getting my car and drive off

This sort of thing is one of the reasons I'm saving for front and rear dashcams.

My brother says his have already saved him a lot of hassle from an attempted "crash for cash" scam.

2: She is NOT responsible for walking in the blind spot, don't be ridiculous.

She is a drama queen of the highest order...but the responsibility in car parks is resolutely with the driver and don't be telling yourself or anyone else otherwise, no matter what height they are...that is dangerous, irresponsible thinking.

I once had someone in a wheel chair appear behind me when I was already reversing, fortunately I had parking cameras and stopped a good ft before I would have touched them as was driving very slowly and would not have seen them in my estate car had I not had the camera. They then started banging on the back of my car and shouting at me that I had nearly run them over and caused an absolute scene. I was so embarrassed until someone else made a comment about how I shouldn’t be allowed to drive and why didn’t I think of people in wheelchairs when they were perfectly capable of seeing my reverse lights and I was already moving when they went behind me and it was due to my careful driving I hadn’t run them over.

Some people just like to cause a scene. I like to politely ask people what I could do to make it better for them and then they generally out themselves for whatever they are after.

YANBU to be pissed off about it all

As a driver it’s my responsibility to ensure I do not hit a pedestrian, page 1
Your dh was apologetic as he was in the wrong as any Highway Code will tell you. Maybe the pedestrian was shocked and startled thankfully unhurt.

Your husband is a fully grown man he does not need a Mumma Bear! 🤢

DH should have got back in the car when she started her shit and reversed over her good and proper, really give ger something to complain about.

In all seriousness though, fair enough, she got a fright and may have had an angry outburst initially but the amateur dramatics would have instantly made me lose all sympathy for her.

As a PP said, call the police yourselves and inform them of the incident. They won't be interested (and if they are they'll request CCTV which will prove her claims are unfounded) and it'll put your DH's mind at rest that there will be no future repercussions.

In answer to your question, no, you WNBU to tell her to F off.

So do the trolley set the car sensors off or her body? Because if it was her body (must have been if it touched her hip) then she lust have already been behind the car when he started reversing, as if not the trolley would have triggered the sensor and he would have hit that, not her.

Did and must, not do and lust 🤦‍♀️

It is his responsibility to check his surroundings when reversing. However on hindsight he should have taken photos too to prove she was standing and not hurt.
Also made a point of asking the manager who the woman was crying to, to ask for cctv as he knows no harm was done.
This is one reason I hate supermarket car parks. Dickheads all over the shop.

I think she going to make an insurance claim.

1. Your dh is a shit driver, my dh is a HGV driver never hit anyone or anything,he certainly didn't pull out on someone.

1. Never heard of Disabled/Child spaces. Disability spaces are priority, child spaces are a convenience. He had neither reason to use them.

1. She sounds like a drama queen clearly shook up. But you don't sound like a peach yourself

Was he reversing OUT?