To tell her to piss off

[Neuroillogical]

Apologies in advance for the rant…

In the supermarket with family. DH leaves store to nip across the road in car for extra bits while we finish shop.

He goes to inch out of parking space only to discover random lady was in his blind spot walking to the store with her trolley. Warning sensors beeped - he stopped immediately. Said lady then proceeds to bang on the window and demand he get out and speak to her and a whole shit show of drama ensues.

She claims he ‘touched her hip with car’ and threatens to call police. HIGHLY unlikely for various reasons but DH apologetic anyway/asked if she was ok/does she need anything. DH is a ppl pleaser (unlike me 😌) & being nice only seemed to spur her on. She gives him long lecture about how to drive(he drives for a living). Then demands to see disabled badge b/cos he doesn’t ‘look disabled’. (It was a disabled + parent child bay). Then accuses him of lying about having kids. (DH explains they are in store so she asks to see the car seats!!)

Anyway she starts taking pics of car, number plate (and DH!!!) for ´evidence’. Says she isn’t hurt in any way but she doesn’t feel DH apology is sufficient or sincere. He asks how he can resolve & she says it’s up to him to ´convince her he’s sorry’. Repeatedly threatening to call police. DH offers to call them himself & as soon as he dials she disappears off into the shop. Erm ok.

We reunite & he tells me what happened. By this point DH is shaken (he’s a nervous guy) & starts to worry he is going to be in some sort of trouble if she makes an accusation at a later date. As luck would have it we bump into her later at the exit & she is with a manager. She starts CRYING & saying she needs to be escorted to her car b/cos she was run over & is scared of DH. WTH!!

My thoughts-

1. She’s a drama queen
2. Even if and it’s a big IF DH brushed her with car(more likely she was startled) she is equally responsible for walking in a cars blind spot in the dark in the middle of a car park (and not on the designated walkway). also it’s an SUV and she was about 5 ft 2 on a good day
3. She wasn’t hurt so should have accepted apology and left it. If she was so tramautised & outraged she would have called police -not done her weekly shop after
4. She is outrageous for demanding proof of disability/children. It’s irrelevant and rude. (Ironically all our children and myself are actually disabled). She is neither the owner of the car park or J.Sainsbury.
5. she is a chancer who I suspect was hoping for an offer of cash or something similar (which is also why I think she complained to manager) Gift card anyone??

Anyway, I got tired of seeing DH grovelling to her so I may/may not have told her where to stick her trolley. 😏

Interested to know how other people would have handled it..

that is an american link.
anyway, he did hit, or at least, touch her, with his car.

So what if it’s an American link? It’s still a known scam.

How do you know she was hit?

She claims he ‘touched her hip with car’ @Chickenly

Do you live in a land where people can’t lie? That’s the entire premise of the scam…

You are right. Much more likely than a man reversing a big car in to a small woman when he hasn’t checked his blind spot. Call interpol

Definitely a scam, she wanted money from your DH.

Hitting someone with your car and not realising even though you have parking sensors is definitely less likely than a scammer carrying out a known scam. Obviously.

Her behaviour is tell-tale of the scam.

• no injury
• doesn’t want police involved at the scene
• Tried to get her version with a “witness”
• Hysteria to cause fear and confusion
• Gathering “evidence” that doesn’t prove anything
• Refusing to accept an apology

The naive belief that no one lies about things is why so many idiots get scammed.

OMG, how many accidents do you think are caused by people reversing and not looking where they are going every day? It’s a HUGE amount. Of course it’s much more likely than a scam. Parking sensors are not a defence dear, neither are they infallible. You must check your blind spot before reversing.

Further, precisely none of your points above
‘proves’ anything. Please note:

1. Parking sensors are a GUIDE. You cannot say well I didn’t bother checking there was no one behind me because I have parking sensors. The OP DH did not check his blind spot. You cannot rely on parking sensors
2. The woman did not report an injury at the time. There is not a doctor on the planet who will say that means the woman is not injured. It is very common for muscular injuries in particular to only become apparent later.
3. The police would not attend this incident. Plus how long do you think you would stand around waiting for them? This does not show anything. The police would only record what the parties say happened. They aren’t going to clamp irons on the woman and blue light her to an interrogation cell down the nick. A very bored officer just listens to the he said, she said, writes it down and more than likely cautions the OP DH that he must check his blind spot before reversing.
4. By ‘witness’ do you mean the shop manager? He/she isn’t a witness, they didn’t see anything??? Was the OP DH’s trying to get a witness onside by telling her what happened?
5. Hysteria!!!! What, telling someone they weren’t hit, they weren’t injured and to shove their trolley where the sun don’t shine? Oh that’s what the OP did. LOL. No one sounds afraid of this woman. They couldn’t possibly be confused either because she told the exact same thing to everyone she spoke to, that’s even according to the OP who admittedly isn’t the most reliable of narrators as she is DESPERATE for everyone to say her DH wasn’t at fault (he absolutely was) and this woman who was almost run down was on the make.
6. What ‘evidence’? The woman was correct to take a picture of the registration of a car she says reversed in to her. I was a passenger in a car recently which glanced another car. Of course I got out and took copious pictures. That’s the sensible and sane thing to do.
7. Refusing to accept an apology? M A D. What do you think this establishes? Impolite? Maybe. Depends how the ‘apology’ was made. Thrown in your face, called a liar and harangued by the OP? I wouldn’t accept it either.

It is without doubt FAR more likely that the OP DH did not look where he was going and reversed in to the woman. How do I know? Because the OP says he did not look.

The OP’s DH is very lucky he didn’t cause serious injury through his negligence. He could have easily killed this woman. You do realise you only have the OP’s second hand version of events on what happened. There is nothing to say the OP DH slammed on his brakes as soon as the sensors started. Far more likely again he stopped because he hit the woman - have you ever been in a car park reversing in a car w sensors? They start beeping as soon as you move, because there are obstacles all around you. I would be very upset if someone kept reversing an SUV in to me despite having the benefit of sensors, which I was likely able to hear, and I had to bang a back window to stop the moron killing me.

If we are going on flights of fancy (which you have), I would also say it’s much more likely the OP DH DOES know he hit the woman, that’s why a fully grown man was shaking and quivering until his bolshie wife turned up to try and shout her way out of the situation.

The naive one here is you. The woman hasn’t even made a claim for injury!!!! All the Miss Marples crowing on about well she was able to push a trolley round Sainsbury so CLEARLY wasn’t injured…I walked around on a broken bone for a week, I suspect many people have, doesn’t mean it wasn’t broken.

I don’t know how half the people on this thread get out of bed in the morning with all the SCAMS they must fear operating all around them, not to mention their total failure to apply any reasoning at all.

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