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WorriedWarrier · 2023-01-07T15:09:38+00:00

he cancelled first time as was feeling ill im starting a new job and was just hanging around at my home as starting a new job/everyone is broke lol (Meet point is quite close to where I live) so we never arranged a time or anything…. I said to let’s keep it open :/ he can’t be fucked right?

EmilyGilmoresSass · 07/01/2023 23:29

Rumpelstiltskinsmum · 07/01/2023 23:19

@EmilyGilmoresSass guys in my long experience and just look at any similar thread on here ... if they like you they will be texting you days before to lock you down for a date. You shouldn’t have to get to the weekend and still not know what’s going on.
She shouldn’t have to text sooner. He cancelled on her last and she left it to him to let her know what was happening as she told him she was free all weekend. Last text from her - ball now in his court. If you have to keep chasing a guy in this initial dating stage then throw him back.
He’s either not into you or extremely lazy.

I get what you're saying... in a way. Howev3r. I've never understood why the assumption is that it is up to men to make that call. As I said, she thought they were meeting up, he offered a few hours (as it was for Starbucks I don't think it's unreasonable that a few daytime hours wouldn't suffice for this) but she can't go because she has to wash her hair? Surely she'd have done that before? Why text him mentioning meeting up, he says he didn't know and is free a few hours then decline. If it no longer suited to meet him then just don't text. It's 2023, men don't need to make all the moves 🤷‍♀️

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WorriedWarrier · 08/01/2023 00:46

EmilyGilmoresSass · 07/01/2023 23:29

I get what you're saying... in a way. Howev3r. I've never understood why the assumption is that it is up to men to make that call. As I said, she thought they were meeting up, he offered a few hours (as it was for Starbucks I don't think it's unreasonable that a few daytime hours wouldn't suffice for this) but she can't go because she has to wash her hair? Surely she'd have done that before? Why text him mentioning meeting up, he says he didn't know and is free a few hours then decline. If it no longer suited to meet him then just don't text. It's 2023, men don't need to make all the moves 🤷‍♀️

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Its not “men need to make the effort”. We made the plans (after he cancelled for a cold that wasn’t long nor bad - his words) and we did it over a week before meeting.

I stated I had nothing on so could work around his timetable as I was back from holiday (two days before) and starting a new job….. he replied that I was kind for that.

His message came across to me that I thought you had forgotten…. How. And “I let it slip”. That I don’t understand.

this is nothing to do with him having a penis….

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BadNomad · 08/01/2023 01:04

You didn't make plans to meet, though. You made plans to make plans to meet, then didn't make them.

EmilyGilmoresSass · 08/01/2023 01:31

BadNomad · 08/01/2023 01:04

You didn't make plans to meet, though. You made plans to make plans to meet, then didn't make them.

Exactly what I thought. Sounds more to me like no concrete plans but I give up.

HRTQueen · 08/01/2023 01:54

Is all this angst worth it

strange a day and time soon next weekend or weekend after or one evening if he is interest anyone

HRTQueen · 08/01/2023 01:54

Pressed post too soon

if he is interest you will both find a time you are both free to meet

Patertater · 08/01/2023 02:23

I don't think he's very interested in you and I get the feeling you're a fall back girl to him. He may have cancelled the first time because he went on another date, and this time because nothing was arranged between you two. Dinner plans in a couple of hours sounds like he's arranged a date with someone else. You sound like you want the whole out-dated Prince Charming thing: a guy who opens doors for you and makes a huge effort, while you're coy and giggling away into a handkerchief. Just be direct, say what you mean and mean what you say. In this day of online dating, it massively skews the dynamics. Good luck anyway.

SoupDragon · 08/01/2023 09:23

It's the OP who doesn't sound very interested.