I have had the flu type bug going round for almost a week now. The first few days I had it my partner was off work anyway so helped with the kids. The baby is also ill.
The day he returned to work I was absolutely ill, could hardly move, couldn't talk without coughing so much I was nearly sick and my temperature was sky high. I asked him to stay off and look after the kids but he wouldn't. He doesn't work in a particularly important job and they sell themselves as a flexible and family friendly company, although we've never really been in this situation before as I'm rarely ill and usually have a lot more of support options than I currently do.
My only other option was to ask my mother, who is also a carer for my father who has dementia, which I seriously wanted to avoid in case either of them catch it from us. She came and got them happily.
When he got home yesterday and I stewed and stewed and eventually lost it with him (as best I could between coughs).
Apparently I am unreasonable expecting him to look after his own kids when I am unable.
Am I?
Just to add, I usually also work 5 days a week and am the one to take time off when the kids are ill.
AIBU?
Partner refusing to take time off work while I am sick
Songbird54321 · 04/01/2023 14:15
MilkyYay · 05/01/2023 12:13
All employers have to give emergency dependants leave
True but this is usually just one day to give you time to make other arrangements.
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CalistoNoSolo · 05/01/2023 12:35
I think you're being unreasonable actually. You'll get a ton of colds, sicky bugs, coughs etc as you have little children, you cant expect everyone else to take up the slack while you languish in your sick bed. You need to just suck it up and crack on.
You do need to address him not taking time off when you are both at work and your children are ill. That's really taking the piss.
bigbluebus · 05/01/2023 12:50
Sorry you're feeling ill but unless you were actually in hospital, I fail to see how your virus becomes your husband's employers problem.
I've had to manage with 2 disabled DC in the past. I would never have dreamt of asking DH to take time off work. I just dosed up with paracetamol/ibuprofen and got on with it as best as I could until DH got home.
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