Husband keeps taking my car

[BlueLiz]

My husband decided to buy a two seater sports car a couple of years ago. I bought an estate/family car 4 years ago so we could take the grandchildren out. My husband shares lifts with his colleagues and often takes my car as it has more room and his is awful in bad weather. I work part time and look after our grandchildren a couple of times a week. He feels it’s ok to take my car when he thinks he will, but I’m fed up not having my car.
(I drive his as a last resort but don’t like driving it, and I can’t get a big shop or the grandkids in it, so I tend to avoid it) AIBU to want him not to use my car? He chose the sports car so I think he should use it, it’s not my fault it’s rubbish in the winter and lacks space for his larger colleagues.

Hide the keys?

Have you told him that you needed to use the car that day and he massively inconvenienced you?

He sounds so selfish, I'm afraid.

Hide your keys.

Or have a teeny scrapy incident in his sports car.

Tell him.

If he doesn’t listen, take the keys away from him, and hide both sets so that he can’t just take the car without asking. Then when he asks for the keys you can say “I’m using my car later for x y z so you’ll need to take yours”.

Eventually he’ll get the message or change the car to something practical.

Talk to him and if he doesn’t listen, keep your keys hidden. It’s not on that he takes your car without asking when he’s bought a ridiculous and impractical sports car.

AIBU to want him not to use my car?

No, but have you actually spoken to him about it?

Just tell him not to. Tell him what you've told us.

I am in the same predicament as you are.DH decided to buy a fancy impractical BMW after he wore me down.
Now he is forever taking my car.When I am home he assumes I don't need it and just takes it uses and sometimes leaves it with next to nothing fuel.
I am sick of it and as others have suggested,I shall take my keys and hide them!!!

Hide the keys just after he's home from using it. Then it's him who's "mislaid"them, don't forget the spare.

Or even better, report that he has stolen it. That'll stop it.

Please don’t waste valuable police time on your arguments. What an awful suggestion.

op just tell him. Use your words.

It''s not a waste of police time to report a stolen car.

thats exactly why the police exist.

I don't really see the issue, me and my husband swap cars consistently. I drive his Mercedes and he can drive by run around.

We let ago of such single possessive / ownership once we married. What's mine is yours and all that jazz

But it isn't actually stolen is it, her husband is using it and the OP knows that. A complete and utter waste of Police time.

He needs to ask in advance if he can borrow it.

I don't see the problem, but I would see it as a problem if I needed the snigger car and he's taken it talk to him, and I'd all else fails take him off the insurance and hide the keys

Only on Mumsnet would someone suggest involving the POLICE . Incredible

What nonsense! He is inconveniencing her regularly. How is she to be expected to drive a two seater sports car with grandchildren in tow? If he wants to be the good guy and ferry his colleagues around, he needs to buy a car to accommodate that.

Tell him either he only borrows it when you don't need it (and finds out by asking) or he trades in his sports car for something he actually wants to drive.

That doesnt work when one car is a 2 seater so the OP cannot use his and do days with her grandkids.
He can use his, he just prefers the space of a normal car. But he can use his.

My understanding of "stolen" is that somebody takes something that doesn't belong to them.

I take it you didn't read the post properly!!

The OP needs to use her car so she can take the grandchildren out in it. She can't use her husbands car because it only has 2 seats. 🙄

Smear his sports car with sticky sweets and crisp crumbs because you've had to ferry grandchildren around in it.

I don't understand - why don't you just tell him he can't take your car when you need it? And if he does continue to take your car when you need it, then yes, start keeping your keys in a secret place.

Tell him not to take your car and remove the keys from his possession.

He could also sell his wang extension and get something more appropriate, or stop giving people lifts.

I would tell him very clearly he was not to do this. I need my car. Use your own.

And yes, if he did it again and I was left with his car he would discover jam/sticky sweets and spilt milk in his jazzy 2 seater sports car.

He would certainly regret inconveniencing me.