Friend asking me to sign an NDA

[Shinebrightinthenight]

Aibu to refuse to sign it? I don’t understand why people would feel the need to put a friend that they trust under an NDA. She’s asked all her other friends to sign NDA’s as well so not just me. She is quite well known (was in the public eye) but nothings happened recently to cause this so it seems quite random to now be wanting to put us all under NDA. The NDA’s are proper ones as well that have been wrote by lawyers.

Unless there's a massive dripfeed then the friend is bonkers.

Either she trusts you enough to be friends with you, or she does not.
I would not sign it. If the friendship is over that is her choice.

I would actually feel pretty insulted to be asked to sign it at all.

I signed one once - shared a house with someone famous. I didn't find it a big deal. He then told me all the gossip which was great

I would be a bit taken aback if a good friend asked me to sign one of these, but I would do so without hesitation.

I'd put her under a fuck off you pretentious twat agreement.

Bet she's done something cancelable that is about to resurface

I am not a fan of gossip anyway. But it sounds like you shared a house, not that this was a friend, so very different.

If you'd never sell stories on her anyway, I'd just sign it to give DF the peace of mind.

If you don't sign it, that's your choice but could cause some friction if all other friends have signed. Might mean you're not privy to anything new/major that happens in her life and she may longer view you as 'trustworthy'.

I can't say I've ever been in this position, but seems sensible for well-known figures to have them in place. I doubt any of us would like our personal lives been spread all over the tabloids by our 'friends' and would probably want some reassurance too, if there was any sort of potential that it could happen.

you typically ask people to sign an NDA before you disclose important info. so maybe she has something to share (pregnancy / weddings / family stuff) but wants to keep it from the press. so if she thinks an NDA is the only way to protect her privacy, then she can go for it.

if you don't want to sign, you'll have to get the gossip second hand and online like everyone else.

What else would the op mean? No need.

Who is she? Kate Wales or Kier Starmer's wife or something ? Unless we are talking national security then tell her to fuck off. Most so called famous people are Z list celebs ( says alot about the times we live in)and should get a grip.

I really don’t think it’s a big deal. She’s a good friend and she wants reassurance- do
it.

The UK media are vicious and are responsible for several deaths - it must be a terrifying position to be in. Not knowing who to trust, never having anyone to talk to.

do it - provide some comfort for your friend and carry on being the great mate you are.

Why would you?

If they are doing it to protect themselves then I think it's fair enough.
If you think the content is reasonable? And the terms are clear? the consequences of a breech are clear?

If you are a genuine friend who doesn't intend to sell stories etc. Then why wouldn't you sign it?

Obviously you should get legal advice before signing.

There's no way you should sign this. Unless she is paying you a large sum of money maybe. It's all upside to her and downside for you. It could land you in trouble as a result of misunderstanding or otherwise. I'd drop her as a friend as she's clearly horrible.

He was a friend - that's why we shared a house. I think it's totally sensible tbh.

I'd ask her if she's paying for the legal advice I'd need to take before signing anything.

How ridiculous!

Wow, I'd find that quite surprising, it's a real lack of faith in your integrity.
I'd tell her that you consider your friendship to be real and that you value it and wouldn't ever betray that, for money or for gossip. And it that's not good enough for her, then I guess she's disappeared up her own backside.

They possibly know something super juicy is going to come out about them soon?

Why wouldn't you sign it?

Friendships, like any relationship, do often end. Sometimes not nicely. So it's common sense for her to want an NDA, it's not personal.

If it was my friend, I'd sign it no problem.

There's two ways to look at it: she's your friend so you wouldn't divulge her personal or private information anyway so there's no harm in signing it (which is probably her view) but she needs to protect herself just in case.

Or if she doesn't trust you she shouldn't tell you anything worthwhile.

How much do you value the friendship?

Depends what reason they've given for asking you to sign. What did they say?

I'm guessing this has come from her management. Perhaps she's in the running for a reality show? Genuinely famous people probably wouldn't be interested in such moves but if it's tabloid type stuff she might be being pressured so they can control the narrative