Horrible nasty friend

[friendorfoe22]

Names changed for this one.

I have a friend who is constantly and I mean CONSTANTLY rude about my life choices. It all started when I moved out with OH. Said the area I live in is boring, frequently mentions that she would buy a new build as they are badly built, my decor choice is horrible and just endless endless digs. She's a very bitter and jealous person, never praises or encourages anyone always puts people down. Constantly talks about herself, how she wants to travel the world, how much she gets paid at work and how her job is better than anyone. Also the other day, we went for a drink and all of a sudden she said any man whose name starts with D is toxic. Then she said her ex's name (Daniel) so it went 'all men who start with D are always so toxic even my ex Daniel, Doug, and the name David is the worst (David is my OH's name!) and I sat there and was like are you fucking joking? She clearly knew what she was doing and I said to her what's your problem and she said what? Everyone with those names are toxic and I was just disgusted. This is just a very small part of what she is like on a daily basis. How do I tell her to go fuck herself?

I make it obvious I can't stand her

How juvenile. Either act like a grown up, have an actual conversation (which from the sounds of it ought to involve some self reflection on your part) and resolve things enough to be on civil terms, or walk away and spare the rest of the group this silliness. Behaving like a 13 year old who’s trying to kick someone out of the friendship group is pathetic.

Brill post

Did you call her out on them "Men whose name begins with D" nonsense there and then? If not, why not? It can't be difficult to say something like ""You know perfectly well my husband's name is David. Why do you think it's appropriate to be so appalling rude about hm?"

Othersnhave answered this eloquently enough OP but two things to note

She isn't actually a friend you know. You're just convenient for her to have around but there's definitely no friendship there.

And just as a broken clock is right twice a day, her opinion on new builds is fairly accurate.