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AIBU?

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I've zero perspective so over to you lovely lot!

121 replies

Mumof2amazingasdkiddos · 31/12/2022 15:00

Person A was at my house yesterday and I made us both a cup of tea, I was then needed upstairs by my DD so I told person A to help themselves to a bit of chocolate out the fridge and I'd be back in about 5 mins. In the fridge there is a drawer full of assorted chocolate bars, there was also an unopened galaxy selection box. Person A opened the selection box and had a chocolate bar from that. As per the title I've no perspective as I despise Person A who unfortunately has regular reason to be in my house and whom I have to be civil to 🙄 so am i being unreasonable?

Yes you offered chocolate and Person A had chocolate what's the issue

No clearly you meant out of the drawer and you don't open someone's selection box

I'm not seriously annoyed btw it's just to gain perspective as I think Person a has been a cheeky twat lol

OP posts:
Baddabingo · 31/12/2022 15:01

YABU for keeping chocolate in the fridge

Talaforniababe · 31/12/2022 15:01

I think you told them to grab chocolate from the fridge which is what they did. I don't think it's that cheeky.

DobbyTheHouseElk · 31/12/2022 15:02

I can’t see the problem here.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 31/12/2022 15:02

Yes YABU. A isn't a mindreader, they helped themselves to chocolate like you said. A bit cheeky, maybe, to open an unopened box but perhaps they didnt like the others on offer.

purpleme12 · 31/12/2022 15:02

Well I wouldn't open the box no however you can't really complain if you told them to take chocolate from the fridge and that was in the fridge

tirednewmumm · 31/12/2022 15:02

Sorry I think if you said something as specific as chocolate out of the fridge I would have assumed it was generic christmas chocolate. I wouldn't for example have taken a slice of cake or cheese but yea I would have thought this was fine Blush

Gronkle · 31/12/2022 15:02

Was the drawer obvious? If I opened a fridge and selection box was the only thing I saw, I'd assume that's what you meant.

LadyGardenersQuestionTime · 31/12/2022 15:02

it’s irritating, possibly passive aggressive, and the kind of thing that would stoke murderous rage in me if the wrong person did it.

icefishing · 31/12/2022 15:03

I don't think that you can be cross because they took one single chocolate from somewhere where they were told to go and help themselves from.

Many people aren't going to want to have a bar of chocolate.

I think your dislike of the person may be clouding your judgment a little.

CleoandRalf · 31/12/2022 15:04

YABVU you said help yourself to chocolate from the fridge, that’s exactly what they did.

AlisonDonut · 31/12/2022 15:05

If you dislike them, don't offer them chocolate in the first place.

Want2beme · 31/12/2022 15:05

No, I definitely wouldn't have helped myself to an unopened selection box. As far as I'm concerned, a selection box is a very personal itemGrin. Does this person frequently encroach on you personal space?

LaurieFairyCake · 31/12/2022 15:08

Depends

Unless it's very posh choc I only eat Galaxy so I'd have also helped myself to a galaxy bar

BMW6 · 31/12/2022 15:08

I think as you don't like this person to start with, you find fault with pretty much anything they do.

It's natural but in this instance YABU.

I'm curious who this person can be that you have to put up with to this extent when you really can't stand them! 🤔 MIL?

declutteringmymind · 31/12/2022 15:09

Well you did offer and they did take. of course they took the one you didn't want them to. Tbh I would politely take the one that there are a few of and would open something new if I didn't need to. But if you say anything you will be petty. In fact you are being petty. Rise above it and don't let them get to you.

reallyhatewinter · 31/12/2022 15:09

I thought you were going to say they ate the whole selection box!
I think YABU. You said help yourself - they did.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 31/12/2022 15:09

Does this person frequently encroach on you personal space?

OP said help yourself to chocolate from the fridge. Person A helped themselves to chocolate from the fridge. How is a fridge a person has been invited to take something from encroaching on a personal space? is a fridge like a handbag, sacrosanct to its owner to rummage but no-one else?

CantFindTheBeat · 31/12/2022 15:14

Sorry OP, YABU.

I thought you were going to say they took the lot!

Hugasauras · 31/12/2022 15:14

Why the heck were there multiple bars of chocolate in the fridge? Who keeps chocolate in the fridge?! That is more upsetting to me tbh.

Hankunamatata · 31/12/2022 15:15

Don't see the problem. You said help yourself to chocolate in the fridge and the selection box was in the fridge.

Bestcatmum · 31/12/2022 15:17

From a good manners persepective I would never open an unopened box of chocolates without asking. If I really wanted something out of that box I would have waited until you came back downstairs and asked.

FlowerArranger · 31/12/2022 15:18

Well, this is probably about you having to interact with someone you can't stand - it's not really about chocolate, is it

GlitteryShinyShit · 31/12/2022 15:20
  1. Chocolate in the fridge (nooooooo)
  2. Giving person you don't like chocolate
  3. Telling someone to get some chocolate and then being miffed that they did just that

Maybe include the T&C's next time 😉

Windtunnel · 31/12/2022 15:21

They probably thought you were making a generous offer of chocolate from the fridge. Oh hang on....

Soozikinzii · 31/12/2022 15:21

I don't see any wrong since you said help yourself to any chocolate in the fridge so they did !