He woke up with a cold…. First date

[WorriedWarrier]

Supposed to meet this lunch time…. He’s woken up with a cold.

He doesn’t want to meet, right?

@Macaroni46 Maybe because after a few years of OLD, experience has taught us that men cancelling for spurious reasons on a first date is a red flag.

This with jingle bells 🔔

Why so suspicious ?
it's decent of him to tell you,he could have turned up and given you a cold then the thread would be; first date and he turned up with a cold ...😀
just do the normal thing and reply sorry to read that we can rearrange for when you're better and leave it at that.

Just chill, idk why you would block him for having a cold! If it was an excuse, it was an excuse, but if he really has a cold you could be cutting something off for no reason.

If I had a cold and cancelled, but said I would like to reschedule, and the person blocked me, I would assume it was a red flag that hey were too uptight/high-maintenance/expected me to put their convenience ahead of my wellbeing.

and yet you are making a fuss about this man doing the same to you??

Yes I don’t know why I didn’t contact the other guy…. I don’t have his number anyway

I’m just spending too much time
thinking about it…. So if I don’t have his number I can delete

WTAF

I have a cold. On the first day I felt like a swamp monster and my bones hurt. I wouldn’t have gone on a first date if it had been Paul Mescal himself asking me.

I don't think you should go on a date anyway.
Your first thought is he is making excuses and laying

There's some horrible colds doing the rounds atm so I'd give him the benefit of the doubt this time. If he done it again though I'd take that as a hint.

*lying

You just occupy your mind with something else until he does reply.

A hobby, work, the gym, see friends …etc.

Dont obsess over this. You need to be independent and content with yourself before dating and getting into a relationship.

If you are obsessing over someone and thinking of blocking their number because they cancelled a date for having a cold …then I’m sorry that’s not normal behaviour.

I have a feeling its you who is actually not that interested and looking for a reason not to meet up with him.

I find your posts about you cancelling a date with someone else because of a cold weird.

Who says about blocking them? I said delete so I’m not tempted

I’d be really pissed off if some numpty turned up to our date with a cold! FGS keep your colds to yourself. It’s amaźing to me how many people think nothing of sharing their colds/coughs/flu/god knows what else with everyone else.

I wouldn’t have gone automatically to red flag, in fact I’d think it was quite thoughtful. But I appreciate that I’ve not had to deal with lots of shitty men on OLD.

Yell him you're willing to risk it if he is... but don't get upset if you get a cold :)

DH & I each had to take turns of cancelling our first few dates because we were both ill (it was around this time of year we first met) - we were engaged just over a year later and still very happily married

My 'cold' turned out to be covid so it could be that

Deleting someone who you barely know so you’re not tempted to contact them, when the ball is in their court, isn’t normal behaviour.

This! Especially if he knows you’re going on holiday, it’s considerate of him!

There’s colds and there’s colds though, I’m sure this year I’ve had mild colds and have met up with friends especially if I know it’s not covid and also if I’ve been well enough to WFH/in office. If I have a streaming cold, aches and pains then of course I wouldn’t meet anyone.

Agreed OP cancelling on the previous date because of a cold and now getting pissy as another guy has cancelled on her for the same reason is strange and hypocritical.

And yet you think it's a red flag when this guy has cancelled for a cold 🤦🏻‍♀️

I agree.

Are you ready to date OP?

Bin him. It's clear that he's messy you around (and probably seeing someone else on the side as well) to be disrespecting you in this way. Men like this are not worth bothering with. Block him now. You don't need him and are worth much more than this.

If you put up with this behaviour he will walk all over you.

Bloody hell!
That’s a bit of a reach!

OP if you want to delete or block him then do but I don’t really see the point.

Leave him be and the next time he messages you then decide whether you want to meet up or not.

Someone has to be a proper idiot and keep texting/ringing me for me to block them and I barely delete anyone, even dates that haven’t worked out, as if I get a text or phone call in the future then I like to know who it’s from.

Why are you overthinking everything with this guy?

Do you feel there is something special about him?

I would focus on your holiday and then rethink things when you get back.