Married Couples with Children

[Aquarius1234]

Why do some married people act like being married with kids is better than being single?
That they are more well rounded and wouldn't be able to so their professions and whatever else if they didn't have a family?

Shes having us on

It's odd you even notice this when you meet people.

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My husband is my favourite person in the entire world. I mean, sure - we could divorce. But that seems like a sad reason to never give it a go (if you otherwise desire romantic love).

I feel a bit silly now. All those years spent studying for a law degree and professional qualification when I could have just nipped into a registry office.

Oh Lord not this garbage again. Didn’t you get enough drama when you posted a few days ago how all couples are “smug” at Christmas and that you felt you ought to be in a couple because Christmas tv films always portray loved up couples. Then you also said people look down on you for being single and then weirdly you said no one in their 20s should be single but in your 30s you get frowned upon by “smug couples”.

Maybe if you spent less time bitching about others private lives, paranoid that everyone is smug and more time going out into the world meeting new people you wouldn’t have such a bitter, mean spirited outlook. This is just sad.

🤣 this is ridiculous

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Oh yes, it was that thread! The OP complained that there weren't Christmas films about "single people running errands and just getting by". Made me chuckle. Sounded thrilling. 🤣

Are you ok? You have a few threads like this. Lots of focus on doctors / solicitors as well.

That's a shame.
I'm free if you ever want a catch up..

I was being generic talking about those professions. I'm generalising on purpose.

I can’t believe so many have never encountered either a man claiming he can only do it because of the support of his loving family or the idea that a man with a family is more mature/secure than anyone (male or female) without a family.

Quite extraordinary that people have never even heard of this.

Doesn’t have quite the same connotations for women with family responsibilities.

Yes I couldn't be bothered to type the cliché line about behind every successful man is a.....

Don't like being called bitter when I'm speaking the truth, even if it's only about a 3rd of husbands / wives.
The opposite of down to earth. Loud smug and arrogant. Is just one line.

But why does it matter to you so much? I have been married, and single, and partnered-up... I am happiest by far now, with a decent partner even though we are not married. I was terribly unhappy when I was married. My friend recently split from her husband, and she has never been happier.

Maybe you would be happier if you focused on yourself and what fulfills you as a person, rather than obsessing over partners.

"50% of marriages ends in divorce. Why am i the only sensible one to realise its not worth it. I'm not stupid. "

That's right. They do. But 1/2 don't.
And for those that do end, it's no shock, per mn threads, many women have such low self-esteem, and such poor personal skills and are incapable of spotting red flags that they marry men they shouldn't.

Whereas many of us can spot a good'un a Mile off. And have happy 20+ year marriages.

See thread below.

you've been together over 20 years - do you still spend time together? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4705671-if-youve-been-together-over-20-years-do-you-still-spend-time-together chat

Maybe OP is jealous that she isn't one on the thread above?

But if you want facts, being happily married is better. Most people want companionship. Being married with kids is better. For most. If you choose to be single, or child-free, fine

I don’t choose to be single. I do, however, choose not to be in an abusive relationship or settle for someone who lies and cheats or love with a cocklodger or anything else. Companionship shouldn’t have to come with that level of compromise.

FWIW, OP, I think lots of people - professional or otherwise - hide behind a facade of respectability that marriage, a spouse and children seemingly gives them. I do think being a single parent with children makes career escalation complex and ditto, being single which seems to mean you are unable to wine and dine clients and potential clients.

as a society we absolutely value married with children over any other kind of household. We shouldn’t. For as many reasons as their are people who don’t live in the idealised nuclear family set up.

I agree with this. My single friends are always doing this.

Lots of drink around Christmas.

Girls, you do realise we are responding to an OP who claims to be 104 years old?!

Could have been worse bitter could have turned into anal retentiveness

Wow, I object to that. Some women - me included - were screwed over by men who are incredibly good liars, over a very sustained period of time. You've not got some superior level of judgement, you were simply lucky.

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