Married Couples with Children

[Aquarius1234]

Why do some married people act like being married with kids is better than being single?
That they are more well rounded and wouldn't be able to so their professions and whatever else if they didn't have a family?

My brother is a Doctor.

He isn't married.

He probably never will get married either.

He is gay and as camp as a row of pink tents. He's very happily single.

But you must have grown up seeing people being married and or with children.

Thank god for that! 🙂

Marriage is such an outdated thing.Surely loads less do it these days.
It depends whether the couple decide they wish to legally join their affairs and structure their life that way.
Some couples want the legal contract of marriage. Some couples don't. Some couples have misinformed ideas about what rights they have when being married/unmarried and cohabiting so don't make choices that are in their best interest, at worst leaving them quite vulnerable.

It depends on the situation and relationship.

I've actually found it the other way around, that my single friends exclude me from things because I'm married with a kid, they assume I'll not be able to get a sitter so don't invite me or assume the grass is greener and that being married with a child is much better than being single.

I'm sure there are plenty of people on here envious of the single life!

Either your drip feeding because you have issues or game playing

I dont want to sound unkind but this all feels a bit attention seeking at this point

Fewer people do it than used to. Many like me are divorced and would never marry again.

Why does it matter to you?

If you want to get married, get married. If you don't, don't. I really don't understand your issue?

What a load of bilge. I don’t know any married with kids people who think like this.

It was my reality men earn the bucks women stay home look after the kids.

🤣 Have you just stepped out of a time machine?

You sound like you’ve got a bee in your bonnet about someone. Let the bee out.

Marriage was a status thing 20/ 30 years ago and all about man and woman.
And all the stereotypes.

Should society still be telling people in their 20s to get married.

For non legal reasons.

There are plenty of happy, fulfilled single people out there in the world. You're just not one of them.

Just like an hour of reading MN threads will show you that there are many unhappy, unloved and disrespected coupled up people also.

Your posts posts imply that you are unwell, or need to lay off the cooking sherry for a wee while.

Everyone judges people when they see a ring on their finger whether they like it or not.
It's a statement.

How old are you Aquarius?

104
I feel its old fashioned to get married. Esp for a lavish party.

Not everyone does. I don't.

You, however, seem to judge married people.

50% of marriages ends in divorce. Why am i the only sensible one to realise its not worth it. I'm not stupid.
I got looked at as tho i was weird when i said its stupid to move in with someone after 4 weeks.
What's wrong with being bitter and cynical at times? When it always tends to be true.

I used to work in a hospital and not all doctors were married.

But it is easier to find a wife if you want one when you have a decent salary.

104 ....

50% of marriages ends in divorce. Why am i the only sensible one to realise its not worth it. I'm not stupid.
Because when relationships end, for whatever reason, how your affairs are structure legally makes a huge difference.

To be honest you seem to have limited understanding of what marriage is and a warped view of long term relationships.

You're not going to improve your own situation by endlessly moaning about other people's situations.

its not worth marrying someone that you could potentially spend 60 years plus with because it’s out dated? Lots of couples get divorced but lots don’t, it seems very sad to not even bother because it may or may not fail. I’ve got married friends and I’ve got single friends, depending on the time in my life or particular day. I envy both

What has been said to you that has sparked this debate in you?