Teenagers outfits!!!

[Gabzz212]

So am I being unreasonable to be sick to the back teeth of my 14 year old outfit choices now. Just spoke to her after she has been to town with her friend to buy 'an outfit'. Asked her please buy something appropriate for the weather she also knows I don't like stuff too revealing anyways she has been and bought some £30 nike pro shorts and a hoodie. I'm pissed. I was supposed to take her trusted her on her own and this is what she buys? All the time we are arguing over her outfits she wears sports bras as tops and always has tiny short, tiny crop tops on and big lashes. I'm sick of it I feel like she has no respect for herself and really don't understand why she always wants to have so much on show. I think she's too young and it also sends out the wrong message. My stepfather actually said to my mum after we had been for a visit last week that he didn't even feel like speaking to her as he didn't know wear to look and felt quite uncomfortable. I try and explain its not good to dress this way all the time but get nowhere. AIBU to feel quite upset and stressed over this situation?

Not poor kids that have not been clothed appropriately through neglect which that poster is equating them to, so go back to worrying about nip slips and the other bizarre thoughts that crowd your mind

Your post is very silly, also shows you’ve not really read or understood previous posts as you’ve made some weird leaps.

Not everyone is comfortable with nudity, or revealing clothing, nor should they have to be, especially in their own home.

the grandad isn’t staring at her in a sexualised way, he is uncomfortable with how much he can see, many people, male and female would feel like this, and it be nothing to do with staring sexually at anyone.

You claimed neglected children don’t get Nike shorts, neglect isn’t the same as poverty.

@ClaretBarret why are you suddenly obsessed with talking about a 13yo's nipples?

Nobody's nipples were on display here, so it's a bit of an odd thing for you to fixate on 😬

@AbreathofFrenchair

Can you imagine?

"Yes, I'd like to make an anonymous report, please. My neighbour's teenage daughter has just left the house in Nike Pros and it's -1 outside."

🥴

Agreed - the fixation on and repeated mention of nipples is becoming odd.

Who is obsessed?

I also never said they were in this case, why do some posters refuse to look at the comment chain before jumping in.

Stop saying ‘claimed’ 🤭 I’ve explained what I was referring to, a direct response to another post in the same context they are describing. I don’t owe you a further breakdown that you can understand.

Someone asked me about it, I replied. Hardly a fixation

Agree ....
If my son in law was wearing very tiny revealing swimming trunks all day for example I'd feel a bit uncomfortable ..nothing sexual about it.

You mentioned them at least twice, very odd.

youd be fine with your father in law walking around your house in just his pants? Maybe with the odd testicle falling out as he walks down the stairs?

Crop tops and shorts are normal attire in a number of public places - gyms, on the street running for a start so is perfectly acceptable attire outside of a formal setting. There is no circumstance where underpants only with a testicle hanging out are acceptable in public - there's your difference!

My DD is 13. I had to Google Nike Pro shorts and they are basically underwear so I definitely wouldn't let my DD wear them outside the gym, and especially not paired with a crop top.
She wanted a corset she saw in urban outfitters but I just explained that while they were selling it as a top, it was really underwear, and that unfortunately some men would get the wrong message from it, and that she needed to be older to wear something like that.
As a parent I think it's ok to set boundaries and explain what's acceptable and what isn't.

But why would you?

Is your son in law a child?

How unusual.

Ok. Who are you? You have been quite bold and.. obnoxious. You sound like you have been drinking?
I would be concerned about the child. And parents have a responsibility for their wellbeing.
Why let someone youre responsible for make decisions that will harm their wellbeing?!

I mentioned them once, someone commented on that and I replied to reiterate the issue is what’s revealed not the item of clothing.

Hardly obsessed, fixated or anything else.

You really are pretty dense

Your poor DD, not having clothes banned that is your wont as a parent but what a terrible message to be feeding the next generation, beyond depressing. ‘Men can’t control themselves so you must police what you wear’ Just dreadful.

Weird leaps? How so? It's literally all there in the OP, lots of others have read it the same as me.

It all boils down to dated mysoginistic behaviour where females continually have to adjust and where we expect teen girls to carry the responsibility and to manage grown adult mens feelings.

You need to be asking yourself why teen girls dressed in shorts and hoodies or a crop top makes you uncomfortable but a boy in shorts and a hoody wouldn't?

Theres a world of difference between comparing it to teens in underwear to teens being dressed and you cannot distinguish between the two. Asking someone to cover up who is naked is acceptable, asking someone to cover up who wearing underwear is acceptable, asking someone to cover up because a grown man can't help but look at them is not acceptable. Someone needs talking to and and it's not the person who is dressed.

But tell me more how wrong I am and how right you are to defend this behaviour

ooh someone else unable to understand context.

No one has asked for a difference between those scenarios, I was replying to a poster claiming it’s all just body parts what’s the big deal. Goodness me.

If my son in law was wearing very tiny revealing swimming trunks all day for example I'd feel a bit uncomfortable ..nothing sexual about it.

It's not the norm to wear swimwear in public spaces that aren't a swimming pool. It is however the normal to wear sportswear - some men wear shirt shirts and quite clingy vests. That's fine in many public environments and in family homes

Once..

...not sure...I just would !?
Right or wrong I am just being honest

Ahem twice..

I’m not having a go, I just think it’s something that needs to be unpacked for a lot of people, the feeling not the trunks 🤭