Teenagers outfits!!!

[Gabzz212]

So am I being unreasonable to be sick to the back teeth of my 14 year old outfit choices now. Just spoke to her after she has been to town with her friend to buy 'an outfit'. Asked her please buy something appropriate for the weather she also knows I don't like stuff too revealing anyways she has been and bought some £30 nike pro shorts and a hoodie. I'm pissed. I was supposed to take her trusted her on her own and this is what she buys? All the time we are arguing over her outfits she wears sports bras as tops and always has tiny short, tiny crop tops on and big lashes. I'm sick of it I feel like she has no respect for herself and really don't understand why she always wants to have so much on show. I think she's too young and it also sends out the wrong message. My stepfather actually said to my mum after we had been for a visit last week that he didn't even feel like speaking to her as he didn't know wear to look and felt quite uncomfortable. I try and explain its not good to dress this way all the time but get nowhere. AIBU to feel quite upset and stressed over this situation?

Are you honestly advocating that you should take the same parenting approach with a teenager as you would a 4 year old?? Crack on.... if you want angry rebellion on your hands and a shit relationship where they can't talk to you and feel suffocated by you!

I was standing outside the house a few years ago when a girl in shorts walked past and an elderly (woman) neighbour said ‘And they wonder why they get taped’ 😨

If your stepdad can’t look at his grandchild without thinking about fucking her that’s his problem. Get a grip, she’s a teenager, this is what teenagers do.

I've a 12 year old, crop tops, nike Pros, hoodies, converse are what they all wear.
DD has a very well developed figure, but I will never make her feel self conscious about her body.
Thankfully though she doesn't wear the shorts with her butt cheeks hanging out.

I have children and have fun trying to communicate to your child when they get sick from being too cold and turn into a giant icecube.
Jokes aside, it's a welfare issue. Dont mock me

what a silly post.

No one is saying anything about her being at fault for sexual assault, or comparing her wearing a crop top with a man in underwear.

Many people also do moderate what their sons wear if revealing, tight or inappropriate, if my son walked down in skin tight shorts that showed off his junk I’d be asking him to change before visiting someone else, just as I’d tell my DD to change if her bits were out.

He happens to be a man, I’d also be uncomfortable and am with a similarly aged teen relative who dresses similarly and often has a nip slip due to how tight and low the crop tops are.

It's not the teenagers' fault you're uncomfortable with normal items of clothing 🤷🏻‍♀️

Both me and my sister wore some bonkers shite as teenagers. Our parents just said “oh you look nice dear, do you need a jacket? No? Have fun!” And that was that. That’s how I will be approaching this with my kids as it allowed us the space to be creative, to find our own style, to make some dubious errors in judgement and learn from them, and to have fun! Judging your kids clothes just gives them something to fight back against.

@refuge123

It's not a welfare issue to allow a teenager to wear what she chooses. I disagree 100%!!

Again, how would he cope at a gym, the beach or the pool?

male swimming teachers must be out of control being around girls in swimming costumes all day.

and lifeguards? Sitting in their chairs looking at girls in swimsuits!

we should ask the girls to all wear kneesuits. Baggy ones so shape can’t be seen. Stuff times and performance, more important that men don’t feel uncomfortable exposed to female bodies.

funny how men whip their shirts off at every opportunity though. Bit of sun, get a bit hot in the gym, shirt off. Tends to give me the ick though, rather than it being some sort of sexual stimuli….

And i didn't mock you 🙄

i don’t know many people who wouldn’t be uncomfortable if their 13 year old nieces nipple slipped out while they were having tea.

Its december, winter, cold, minus temps and the in teenager in question wants to go out wearing summer shorts and a crop top and youre saying thats not a welfare issue?

You are getting odder and your posts are suspect.

If anyone has the trick to make a trendy 14 year girl wear twin set and pearls rather than a crop top and named collective hoodie please share - I am all ears!

Cold doesn’t make you ill unless you are suggesting they have hypothermia

It is categorically 100% not a welfare issue.

A child having no choice but to be underdressed, with no access to shelter in minus temps would be a welfare issue.

I don't have kids

I was asked for directions the other day, by two teenage girls who had so much flesh showing, I was a bit taken aback. In a bar or nightclub I wouldn't even notice but at 10am at a commuting station, it was a bit jarring.

I will say my mum just told me "too much cleavage" as a teen if it was for a day out. When I hit nightclub age, it wasn't her business anymore.

equally, we're not on a beach. I don't suppose she'll listen but that's the approach I'd take. I'm also bugged by shirtless men in the high street in summer. I think I posted on here about my superfit neighbour who spent the whole heatwave in tiny shorts, posing. And he's a hugger.

he's cute but I still wanted to say "dude, put some clothes on".

Also neglected children don’t get bought Nike pro shorts, trust me on this one.

Many neglected children still get purchased nice things, what a silly and inaccurate comment to make

Its december, winter, cold, minus temps and the in teenager in question wants to go out wearing summer shorts and a crop top and youre saying thats not a welfare issue?

Correct. That's exactly what I'm saying.

Interesting how it's more important for you to moderate how your children dress as opposed to actually questioning the adults that are sexualising your children.

This isnt about your teen son coming downstairs in boxer shorts in front of guests or teens coming down in underwear in front of guests, this is about a Mom who feels uncomfortable because her teen is wearing a fashion trend and whose Grandad can't help but stare at her in a sexualised way.

My post isnt silly. Yours are plain fucking ridiculous if you think that a teen wearing underwear is comparable to a teen wearing a pair of shorts and hoodie.

Get a grip of yourself

My DD lives in Nike Pros and crop tops - she will agree to at least wear a hoodie if going outside but I’m under no illusion that she keeps it on longer than strictly necessary. She’s comfy dressed like that and feels confident so I’m happy. I used to wear hot pants with fishnet tights, DM’s and a crop top at her age so I can’t really see the difference. If someone said I should tell her to cover up because they are uncomfortable looking at her they’d be getting sharp words about not sexualising a young woman.

So what exactly do you think social services would do when you phone up and tell them that your daughter has gone out in shorts and a hoodie and its cold?

You really think they get involved?! Your actually hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣