Worst Wedding Reception Ever?

[TheShellBeach]

I am still trying to get my head round this one.

It was a friend's wedding last week and they happy couple invited twelve people to their reception.

After the ceremony (which was lovely) we went back to the couple's house.

There was no wedding cake. No drinks. We made ourselves cups of tea and coffee.

Then the groom handed out menus for the local curry house. Once we'd all picked what we wanted, he asked us to transfer the cost of our orders to his bank account, before he phoned up and placed the order.

After we'd eaten and tidied up, the newlyweds asked us to leave because they were tired.......................no speeches, no fun, no dancing, no music and NO FOOD provided.

AIBU to think this was the worst wedding reception ever?

I'm with you OP the least you do is feed people. We all love our food and we provide it at every opportunity!

We gave them a gift voucher which is what they asked for. £50

I do hope that's something you decided to do for yourselves, rather than requested by the B&G?

I’m just baffled what made the OP say

”oh yes, let’s attend the wedding of a very distant cousin a hundred times removed that we have met just once, at a wedding ages ago”

Yes, people like this couple are tight. No shocker there.

But I’m more interested in the OP’s motivation for accepting the invite in the first place!

Doesn't mean everyone else in their life avoids/abhors it. I'd remove this if I were you.

“We have only ever met them once years ago at a wedding, but hell yes… let’s accept, and I’ll buy a new outfit and a fascinator and set aside the entire day to attend and blow £50 on a present for them”

mystery!

Utter nonsense. There are social norms to which most people abide. This was a very unusual ‘reception’. You don’t just invite people to your wedding, expect them to bring a gift, dress up, spend the day helping you celebrate your marriage and then ask them to pay for their own dinner and not even bother to make them a cup of tea.

I'm not sure that their feelings about social media are entirely relevant, given that this kind of thing finds its way into the tabloids. I don't think you should have posted it.

The small affair is fine but asking you to pay was tacky. Especially if they expected gifts, which it sounds like they did.

The concept sounds nice but I do think it was tight not to pay!

Worst wedding reception I went to has wedding cake but that was it... I wouldn't have minded except I hadn't been forewarned and there was no option to get takeaway. I was ravenous and hangry. I'd have embraced the chance to buy my own curry!

Daily fail fodder

I've been to worse.

they asked for gift vouchers and cojuoldnt even provide a bit of food and drink

very tight

my sil had a small wedding about 8 of us but we went back to he ho9use where she had some food ready i brought some drink but were aware of it all beforehand-they could have at least said we want a takeaway but could yu all pay for yourselves beforehand

How on earth is OP sly? She's not the one who invited a load of people to a wedding reception and then made them pay for their own curry.

What the hell is great about it?

If you invite people back to a 'Reception' after a wedding, it is pretty normal to provide drink and a few canapes, nibbles or sandwiches fGS. A platter from Sainsbury's wouldn't have broken the bank.

It was extremely inhospitable.

I agree. It wasnt great at all- it sounds shit. If you host a party or a reception you dont then ask the guests to order their own food/drinks and pay for it. By that rationale, the guests could equally ask the host to pay for their own wedding gift.

Being invited to a wedding is a chore it isn't a honour and this one is terrible.

This is one of the reasons they are not short of money!

They sound tight . Worse than tight actually . You live and you learn .

This does sound strange - not the only having 12 people which could be nice if done well - but the not telling you in advance about paying for a curry and not providing any drinks and asking for gift vouchers.

They should have said something like 'in lieu of a gift, please contribute towards the cost of your curry'. They should have had a cake at the least. I like the idea in theory though.

😂😂

This is so ridiculous! Many can martyr on a budget but you give people a heads up! This was not a reception in any way. They were greedy lazy fuckers.

Trustworthy? She's not been asked to keep a secret. She had an experience that she's discussing anonymously.

Are you this ridiculous in real life?

An odd thread.

It started out as "It was a friend's wedding last week" and quickly morphed into "a distant relative of DH's" and "I have only met them once before."