Worst Wedding Reception Ever?

[TheShellBeach]

I am still trying to get my head round this one.

It was a friend's wedding last week and they happy couple invited twelve people to their reception.

After the ceremony (which was lovely) we went back to the couple's house.

There was no wedding cake. No drinks. We made ourselves cups of tea and coffee.

Then the groom handed out menus for the local curry house. Once we'd all picked what we wanted, he asked us to transfer the cost of our orders to his bank account, before he phoned up and placed the order.

After we'd eaten and tidied up, the newlyweds asked us to leave because they were tired.......................no speeches, no fun, no dancing, no music and NO FOOD provided.

AIBU to think this was the worst wedding reception ever?

I went to a wedding where the reception was described as an Italian Extravaganza yum yum

They had gone to Iceland and bought a load of nasty pizzas.........AND microwaved them
The blessing was it was only one per couple to share.
Tbh I would sooner have bought my own curry

Well, that's obviously all that they could afford. Show some compassion, could be you down there looking up [so to speak] one day. Life can change in an instant.

These comments reek of entitlement. Who gives a fuck about "bad manners" or being "tight". Who created this bloody etiquette about HAVING to entertain your guests and provide them with meals and alcohol and dancing. Everyone has different ideas of what they want and can afford. If you don't like it, you could have gone and grabbed something from a nearby shop. I remember seeing someone say "if you can't afford an open bar, don't have as many guests"... I would be bloody mortified if my friend said "I'm really sorry you aren't invited, I really wanted you there but we can't afford your alcohol or your food or a bloody DJ." If you don't care about them enough to just watch them get married and not pay for you then don't go.

I’m not sure how you think this sounds great ….. it’s the worst idea of a wedding reception. Ever!

maybe a gathering it’s fine but , pay for your own own dinner , at a wedding reception , no that’s odd .

There are worse things going on in the world. ... I just hope neither of them read this and identify themselves, or you! I've been to similar nuptials and it was all about being there and sharing that moment, not about how much they spent.

Fine if they wanted low key, but to ask
your guests to pay for their own meal is definitely not. My friends would have called me out straight away if I'd have tried that!

One of 12 guests mean they think you're very special, bit weird you had to pay without warning though

I was a guest in very similar circumstances, 3rd wedding for the Bride
Ordered pizzas for everyone then asked for payment after we'd eaten, 1 bottle of wine for 8 people and the song 'Cuddly Toy' by Roachford on repeat, the most bizarre experience I've ever had!

www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/20855580/worst-wedding-reception-ever-no-drink-dinner-music/amp/

It's pretty obvious reading the above that this thread is literally a load of Bull 😉

I can't believe some people on MN are under this delusion that it's somehow fine to ask people to any kind of event and expect them to pay. When did this become in any way 'acceptable?'

Ouch! Hope this couple don't read the sun. Even if they were completely stingy with the meal, you've got to feel for them if they didn't realise their wedding was that bad! I think they'd be sad to read it!

Gawd how miserable

That’s one of the rudest and ungrateful wedding couples I’ve ever heard of! If they had wanted a quiet wedding, they should have buggered off to the town hall with a witness.

There is an expectation with weddings that a celebration will follow the service. This sounded like a confusing chore. With only 12 guests they could have at least provided a buffet and champagne.

They’re lazy and odd. I’d be inclined to distance myself. Can you imagine anniversaries and (if appropriate) baby celebrations?

There is nothing wrong with a low-key celebration, but asking guests to pay for their own food is hardly in the spirit of hosting guests at a wedding However, if that is what they wanted to do they should have made it clear at the time of invitation.

If you read subsequent posts, they weren't on the breadline (and received £50 gift vouchers off everyone)

👏 well done you!

Maybe in your opinion it is but it's their wedding and they could be having financial problems which many are now.
A wedding is not about impressing guests and spending thousands

It seems more like everyone else declined

Difference is that food is usually prepaid. The caterers will have made a certain amount. When it's gone, it's gone (though in my experience, there's usually loads left). With an open bar, you'll always get an arsehole or 4 who think it's a good idea to down a bottle and a half of vodka.

‘Experience’ - a cup of tea and paying for your own curry? Come on 😂

Receptions don’t have to be big and this could have been made a great reception with a couple of tweaks - small glass of bubbly when you got in. Pay for your takeaway. Job done! Don’t ask guests to come to your special day if you don’t want to provide a meal for them.

You said you've not met them much so how do you know how well off they are? Don't be fooled by assets I've know many who've been in debt up to their eyeballs and in dire financial state.
I knew a couple who had lavish holidays and a lovely house, husband had own business etc.
Turned out he was in serious debt and sadly took his own life by walking into the sea.
It was only after this dreadful event his wife discovered the truth

It sounds nice in a way but unless they’re skint it’s a bit odd not to pay for the food or provide drinks.

It seems Ok actually and I would have been happy with that as a guest, however paying for your own takeaway curry is a stretch too far maybe.😕

I don't think its weird but it would have been polite for them to warn you in advance about paying for your own food

YNBU at all. How can a person invite people to a wedding and not provide food at all, no matter how simple/ basic the wedding is?

ok, if he wants to feed his guests a takeaway fair enough as not everyone has the ability to do catering for 12 guests but at least pay for it.

Here is the scenario: you invite people to your wedding - often people honour you by attending (another words, doing you a favour) the guests also provide you with a wedding gift, then on top of that you tell them to pay for their own food!!!! What a joke. How shameful can a person get??!! This is serious CF behaviour. I have never know anyone to have the balls to behave like that!!