Aibu to think Mumsnet is full of people just wanting an argument?

[gloss234]

As the title says really.

Some commenters can offer advice, support or submit their differing opinions and move on.

But more over there seems to be a lot of people hell bent on destroying the original posters. It doesn't seem to be a constructive environment for discussions to take place.

I have seen alot of posts today where OP has posted something, some people have given opinions and others have focused on one minor detailed and been passive aggressive about everything and just not picked there way to an argument with OP and when OP has relented Mumsnet have closed the thread.

Yet do not seem to stop these relentless mums betters who are clearly just commenting for an argument rather than giving their opinion.

OP has disappeared - I am wondering if they are the person who started a thread that got deleted earlier when the OP of that thread got upset and started calling people names. No doubt it's entirely coincidental.

I wasn't aware AIBU was a pit for the wolves, maybe that should be made clear to new posters 😂

I think it is strange and have had it on a previous thread that someone looked back through my other threads to try and build a picture of my life which was unnerving.

I can accept not everyone will agree and I think that is the beautiful thing about debate. Some people are sensitive however It's very different to not agree and then give your point and continually pull someone apart even when they are not replying to you. Some of these people will even reply to others on the thread to form a kind of mob mentality on the OP this is where I think Mumsnet should step in as this can border on bullying and it shouldn't get to this point. Yes it happens in everyday life but that doesn't make it right!

Sorry dear I was busy doing something else!

I haven't started any threads today but you have just kind of proved my last point!

I'm sorry what point have I proven?

Absolutely not ;)

I could be wrong (i often am) but i'm sure there used to be a sort of warning on AIBU that it was a 'robust' part of MN.

I've been hanging about here since 2007 though - so my brain is probably addled and i could be imagining it 😂

What does an earlier post today that you clearly had an argument on have to do with my OP? You're just looking for an argument

You've picked the wrong person 😂

Yes, especially on a weekend some comments are quite harsh and people seem to take great pleasure in being obtuse.

Then again some of the posts are equally ridiculous.

@gloss234 i think you're doing just fine here 😃

Not just Mumsnet - the internet in general....no different on Twitter, FB etc

I think on all social media, you just let your yes glide over the pointlessly agressive posts and interact with the genuine human ones

I'm not following your logic - earlier on in the thread you posted -

@WatchoRulo from what I've seen on other posts, you may be one of these people! Why do you do it?

So who is looking for argument exactly?

As I said, it's obviously just coincidence that a thread got removed. In that case I and various other posters were simply pointing out some pretty big factual inaccuracies in the OP.

I will confess I do enjoy highlighting things that are posted that are obviously bollocks - but that isn't to belittle the poster - it's my one person campaign against inaccurate bollocks being spouted online.

There's a benefits thread running at present (I haven't posted on it) where the OP is very obviously posting nonsense - IMHO people should be "called out" as the vernacular has it for posting rubbish.

Ostensibly to support parents. The 'spirit of the site' is to be supportive. The site (MNHQ) is aware its main base is predominantly made up of female parents AKA mothers, as you can tell from the site's big league advertising deals and how they dovetail into the economic realities of household purchasing decisions around food and children.

@gloss234

Some of these people will even reply to others on the thread to form a kind of mob mentality on the OP this is where I think Mumsnet should step in as this can border on bullying and it shouldn't get to this point

You do realise that no-one's posts are pre-moderated here, aren't you?

Mumsnet - MNHQ community moderators - only see posts that are reported to them. So if you think someone is bullying another poster, or posting something that is 'Not In The Spirit', then report them to MNHQ. If they agree with your report, then they will delete the post and, possibly, ban the poster.

@WatchoRulo each to their own! I wouldn't take pleasure in "calling people out" you really have no idea of the OP is being dishonest and you never really will. Your absolute belief that you could know that you're absolute right startles me. However as other posters have pointed out this isn't that different to real life or other social media platforms.

As long as you're saying your peace and leaving it at that then I suppose it is harmless

I didn't know this!

Oh yes it is.

I only do it for things I am 100% sure of and which are factual, not opinions.

I'd never be so arrogant as to claim my opinions are facts.

I never resort to personal attacks - but I do vehemently attack opinions and ideas I disagree with, like "people should be made to work for benefits' - and I will opine that such ideas are stupid - but that doesn't mean the proponents are stupid.

Agreed. There's a lot of weirdness and anger on here.

Gosh yes.

I sometimes scroll through the first few comments on threads.
Seems to me like there are posters just sitting and waiting for the new AIBUs and Chat to come through, so they can blast the op immediately.

I agree WatchoRulo I think there are times when you have to point out when absolute crap is being spouted . Everyone has the right to their opinion but that opinion has to be based on correct information.

In a plot twist the benefits thread I mentioned has gone all weird - looks like it got deleted and the OP came back and posted stuff about being persecuted.

In my view the vindictive people and the martyrs mostly balance each other out.

Gosh yes.

Some people choose to interact with them. What on earth for?
Only for themselves really as the person who originally posted is hardly going to change course because of what some random on the internet posted back.

Yep. Anonymous keyboard warriors looking to (safely! lol) start a fight on any old subject. But, this exists all over the net.

Sad really. 😗

I have noticed it. I guess an anonymous forum is the best place to take out real life frustrations on a stranger without facing any repercussions.