Pushchair fight on bus

[Partygal]

After picking my child up from her child minder today, I arrived the bus stop to find two women with buggies waiting.

Knowing that the driver wouldn’t let three of us on, I walked round the corner to the previous stop and got on there.

When it arrived at the next stop, sure enough only mum was allowed on - the other was told to wait 30 minutes for the next bus. I was screamed at and called a cunt and a queue jumper by one mum who tried to shove me off the bus.

I don’t think I did anything wrong, nor did the police when they turned up after being called by the driver.

What the fuck is wrong with people?

Part of me thinks that was quite clever of you and part of me thinks it was a dick move and you were sneaky and selfish. I agree with both sides of me tbh.

I think you should've folded your buggy. You did what you did fully aware that you'd be depriving someone of a place who had been waiting longer than you. The behaviour of the others that came after that clearly wasn't acceptable but I can understand why they were upset.

I think you were more in the wrong than the right basically.

That’s a failing of the driver. It’s not up to passengers who can and can’t get in and wheelchair users have priority. Weird that you’d ban babies from being on buses!

OP did not queue jump she formed another queue and joined the service earlier. Yes it is a technicality but I would have done the same thing.

OP saw a problem and devised a workaround with brainpower. Something all too lacking in todays society.

Generally going to an earlier stop isn’t an issue, nor is going to an earlier stop to get a better seat etc. When you know it’s the difference between someone being able to board or not it becomes unethical imo. I don’t know what I think the solution is but I wouldn’t have been able to do that in good conscience.

---- this all the way.

I think it was a mean spirited thing to do, especially in this weather. You should have folded down your pram. Karma is a bitch though, and maybe you'll be wishing people were not as shitty as you if you ever find yourself in a similar situation.

Or its because its possible for both sides to be in the wrong.

You say the police didn't speak to you? Yet you were the one supposedly assaulted? I call lies!! They would have 100% spoken to you

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with what you did. They could have gone a bus stop earlier if they’d have been so inclined. I often do this so I can avoid crowded bus stops (though I don’t have a buggy any more!).

I'm curious ... what would people think if OP did this to them? Would she still be clever?

Yes wheelchairs have priority. You honestly think that would bother mums who fight over the buggy space? 🤣🤣🤣

@SamuelDavies how can you tell this from appearance? 🤔

Clever but underhand. What goes around come around. How would you feel if someone intentionally fucked around with you and your child’s day on purpose?

How long was she on the bus for after assaulting you?

How long did the police take to arrive?

either one of those other mums could have walked to the previous stop, as literally anyone can at a bus stop. It's not queue jumping given that the option was open to any one of you.

Anyway, people get on and off buses all the time. There are too many variables to predict! It might have had no buggy room left for you at the earlier stop, or two buggies might have alighted at their spot, making room for them. you weren't guaranteeing a spot for yourself nor were you in control of whether there would be space for them. You were just maximising your chances. You should have folded if you could though.

I think banning them is harsh, saying they have to be folded would be more reasonable.

I'd ban buggys from busses altogether myself. All too often selfish entitled mums refuse to allow wheelchair users on. It's disgusting. They'd soon be shouting if their child was a wheelchair user and they couldn't get on.

It's up to the bus driver to ask parents to fold down buggies. One could argue that a young baby in a pram that was "there first" is just as entitled to the space as the wheelchair user. You don't know if mum is disabled and would have a hard time folding/unfolding the pram.

Guess what. Children are part of society and belong in it. The animosity towards mothers and children across all parts of society is horrendous.

I’d think I should have thought of that first.

And I’d fold my buggy.

I somehow missed the bit about the police at first - did that REALLY happen?

@SamuelDavies wrong! How judgemental are you! You have no idea of their backgrounds 🙄

I’d have thought it was dickish of you (especially given you knew what would happen and could have helped prevent it) but I wouldn’t have kicked off, I’d have wished you a horrible day in my head and got over it

50 years ago all the mums had enormous pushchairs and must have travelled on buses.
I think there’s too many ridiculous regulations now.

Um….it doesn’t matter if it bothers them or not, they don’t have priority. If they’re in a position where they’re ‘not letting wheelchair users on’ then the driver is failing at their job. I highly doubt this even happens anyway. I HAVE known mums with buggy’s to be kicked off to let a wheelchair user on though.

Fail to see what the laughing face are for - nothing you have said is remotely amusing.