To be happy about breaking up a week before Christmas

[ThePriceOfSugar]

It's over! I had a whole thing planned for Christmas, I'm very good at making things feel special. However, he chose to pick a fight with me last weekend in the middle of an otherwise nice afternoon, and annihilated my character, insulting everything about me, from my style of texting to the way I cuddle and making sure he got in jibes about our intimate life. He managed to say "I don't love you or have loving feelings towards you" in the same breath as "everything wrong in this relationship is your fault".

He thought I'd cry and acquiesce and try to make peace, as usual, because I didn't want my plans ruined or to feel scared. But instead he finds himself single. And the last few days, I've woken up calm, knowing I've followed my instincts.

I'm going to eat Chinese food and get drunk on champagne with my Jewish friend on the 25th. AIBU to ask for your BEST breakup survival techniques and tips?

Ho ho ho 🎄

How long were you both together for? Lucky escape.

Make peace as usual? Has this been a frequent theme of your relationship? Anyway - well done you for not accepting any more BS and yes of course if you need to break up you should do it when it needs doing, Christmas or not.

As for survival techniques - carry on living your best life, and fake it till you make it always worked for me.

Good on you OP. I hope you have a fab day.

I bet you have a brill time!!
Play some games maybe buy each other a sexy secret Santa.
I did this with my friends at the start of December we were dying of laughter!!

Gifts have to be naughty, played adult related games too

Well done Theprice - I hope you enjoy your Xmas free from that negativity and stress! Life really is too short.

Thank you for the solidarity ✊️we were together almost four years, and now looking back, he was emotionally abusive for the last year at least.

His greatest weapon was calling me "juvenile", because I was 14 years younger than he was. Ironic.

More like this please - well done OP 🤩🤩

Amazing news OP. Well done you!

Congratulations! All the best for a happier 2023.

If you feel yourself waining then just remind yourself of the nasty words he spoke and how good you feel right now.

Also listening to Martha wainwright's bloody mother fucking arsehole on repeat whilst shouting the lyrics

Brilliant!!

I hope you have a wonderful xmas OP.

That was an incredibly satisfying read OP. Enjoy your chinese and freedom!

Well done! It doesn’t actually sound like you need break-up survival tips, the excitement shines through your post.

i left a 20+ year marriage earlier this year and I am ecstatic about it. Especially as Christmas is approaching and I get to spend it with who I want and how I want.

I'm so happy to have your (strangers on the internet) support! And to have given myself the gift of freedom & backbone 😁

Do throw me your tips though, this burst of happiness might not last!

Enjoy, OP! In the sea of misery that is most of the Relationships board, this was a good post to read!

Now that is pure Christmas joy! Well done OP

Wear the clothes he hated you wearing
Eat all the meals he wouldn't choose
Watch TV he can't stand
See friends he didn't like
Go places he wouldn't go
Laugh maniacally at how much fun you can have and how much better your life will be

Yes!

I am insanely jealous of Chinese food and champagne plans...

You've got this. Just remember the calm feeling you have waking up each morning. That's you being in control of your life

Have a fab time and we'll bloody done on escaping (in lieu of a champagne icon)

This. You’re probably doing better than most people on here! And it’s only going to go up from now on. Do you live together? Will it be hard to untangle yourself from him? It sounds like he’s done a good job of battering your confidence, I’d hate for him to be given the opportunity to suck you back into the relationship. He’s a disgusting little rat 😡

Well done! Your Christmas day sounds great by the way. I think I would rather have Chinese and champagne than my MILs Christmas dinner 😂

Well done! Love your power. Have the most amazing Christmas 🎅🏻

Oh bloody well done!!!

Luckily we don't live together. He does own the building I live in (my lease is watertight, no worries) and has a "security" camera in the lobby.

This may turn out to be to his detriment 🤭

Wishing you a fab Christmas, OP! You are well shot of a horrible partner - enjoy your Christmas x

Ooh, the calm feeling of waking up is the best! I used to dread going to bed where I had to listen to him snore and being woken up by his movements, then waking up still tired from the lack of sleep in the mornIng. Since I left I sleep like baby (does wonders for your skin too), and actually love going to bed.

I am insanely jealous of Chinese food and champagne plans...

That's Christmas 2023 sorted in this house 😃

Well done! He sounds awful - you're definitely well rid.