Sorry Xenia...

[duchesse]

...for starting that thread when I didn't believe you existed (and I genuinely didn't). I've done some proper research now, and realise that you are real person with fantastic real achievement. I apologise unreservedly for my previous thread, which was genuinely not designed to get at you since I did not believe you existed. I am aghast and incredibly impressed at how much you have achieved, and look forward to sparring with you again some time...

Nobody has been outed, either in this thread nor in the other.

Nobody has hinted at who anybody is.

It is a fact of modern life that those of who use the internet leave traces. And in my work, as is the case for many people, I use the internet as a way of marketing myself irl, which means that my full details are online, including telephone numbers and full postal address. If anybody wanted to find out who I was, I would not liken any search they might do on me to poking through my letterbox or raiding that biscuit tin full of personal old photos. So no, I don't think it is a breach of confidentiality to find out who someone is using information they've posted in a public forum. It is a public forum after all, not our own sitting room. Which is why my MN, blog and professional identities do not overlap in any way except for people who know me already irl, I am pretty scrupulous about that. And that is the way I intend to keep it.

Strong posters - I can bench press 200lbs if that helps any? Probably doesn't.

Duchesse, it's about the etiquette of posting that you've discovered who someone is, surely you can see that?

I can eat three shredded wheat.

Why, that just proves you're a pig .

"i am probably seen as a strong poster"
pmsl!

Hercules passes Hunkmunker a weaning spoon to remind her of her 'strong' posting moments.

Well really, Hercules!

i fear i may be viewed as exceedingly weak

That'll teach me for trying to be Nigella.

The other thread's been deleted now.

Duchesse is actually a really lovely, sound person. She has apologised and has also been honest about what she has done (I don't believe she is the first person in the history of MN to try and work out who someone might be). Can that be enough?

Oh Beany, thank you! How the devil are you? Sprogged yet?

I'd be soooo easily worked out if I were actually interesting enough to bother looking for, theres only about four people with my name on google.

Yes thanks, last week - ds2 (Theo Daniel, 9lb 7oz).

Elective c-section so I look like a pot bellied pig who ran into Sweeny Todd

And we still have farking mice!!!!!

The other thread has been deleted......not sure if my post made it before it got deleted, however I think that as this is a public forum everyone has the right to give their opinion....whether others agree or not is irrelevant.....freedom of speech and all that...

Beany, I like your analogy! We do miss you in the Hut (although obviously glad you don't feel the need to be there any more). Any news from Seaside?

Ah Baroness, it's Victoria Nsqualor, no dot.

Seaside had a little boy, Cassius

I miss you lot in the hut too. My fingers reamined crossed that it will be demolished one of these days.

I haven't read the other thread... laughing as I type.... But I will go and look at it now. I am sure nothing anyone could ever put on line could ever hurt anyone who's lived in an abusive marriage etc. It's just words on a page. I don't of course want to be identified.

Sorry Xenia- it's gone. I asked for it to be pulled, and it just went.

Actualyl it's more a problem with men than this sort of site. Give them 3 details like - 5 children, XYZ and they find out who I am if they're clever quicker than I want so I don't even give my first name. It's partly because my business model has always been a lot of publicity I suppose and not being able to shut up, not able to read and just lurk.