This year we decided that DP & I would ask the family (parents and siblings) if they'd prefer to do a secret Santa instead of all of us buying each other presents.
Partly to save money. And so that we could focus on getting 1 decent present rather than lots of presents for everyone.
We put the amount at £50.
All family agreed. We're supposed to be meeting today to do the secret Santa.
2 members have messaged (they are partners) to say they can't come because they're not well.
I feel annoyed by this. Partly because I am not sure they're unwell. I think they didn't buy secret Santa presents therefore are just not going to come.
I feel upset that 2 people won't get their present today.
And I'm annoyed with myself because when DP suggested it, I just knew that these two family members would likely do this. But we didn't want to not include them and they said they were happy to do it at the time. And I felt guilt for being negative.
DP & I have these 2 members as our secret Santa's and we have gone to a lot of effort to get them really lovely and thoughtful gifts.
I'm not really sure what to do?
We are still meeting the rest of the family today.