My boyfriend quit his job ...im paying for everything aibu?

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My boyfriend who I live with quit his job over a month ago,he was having issues with higher management.
Over a month later and no sniff of a job.
He has zero money and I mean not even 50p
I pay the rent -the bills -food etc
His dad lives 5 hours away and is going home for two nights for a funeral.
He refuses to ask his dad for money (his dad has a lot of money ).
He is going home for his aunts funeral and said it's inappropriate.
I have told him I'm struggling with all the rent /bills etc
He has no car now as he can't afford to get it fixed.
It's my birthday Christmas Eve and he's already told me he doesn't have a car.
I have him the money to buy my Christmas present and he has said he will give me it back when he gets a job.
Surely he should ask his dad for some money?
I bought his coach tickets home too

I will get nothing for my birthday /no meal out or even a Christmas drink

Aibu ?

hes using you OP - you said he couldnt move in but then relented?! and now your paying for him too?
Op wake up, hes a cocklodger - dump him and move on, keep the cats!

Yeah get rid. Sorry sounds harsh but I had a sponger and it gets really stressful and you will become resentful. On to the next

Not sure how his dad is relevant, take that out of the equation. He shouldn’t have quit his job knowing he had nothing to go to, clearly no savings and that he’d have to sponge off his girlfriend

only give cash to travel to the funeral if he applies for uc

It's all online so thats bullshit.

He's a cocklodger and why the fuck are you still with him.

Also. No. His dad should not "offer" to help, and your "D"P should a million % not ask at a goddam funeral for money.

Kid needs to sort his own shit out. Unless he's literally 15?

In the nicest possible way OP..... you're a mug!

Then leave him

@Whattodo182 the claim is made online but appointments then need to be attended at the Jobcentre.

You were warned. He is a blatant cocklodger, he has not even had to come up with a plausible story.
You know that you need to message him now telling him not to come back. You won’t and I expect you will be back a year from now complaining that he still hasn’t got a job and won’t look after the baby.

God I hope she doesn’t have a baby with him. Just reading these replies makes me feel like an idiot I’ve had a relentless cocklodger I didn’t let him move though thankfully. He is a serious bum though, shameless sponger. I’d be ashamed to live like that. Sponging off other people especially women and claiming to be in love just for money. It’s so low. I couldn’t ever respect a man like that again.

Maybe his dad has or maybe he is sick of him.

As others have said OP it's besides the point. Get rid

If he refuses to get a job kick him, and his cats, out.

Kick him out, keep the cats

He saw you coming

What are you going to do about it?

Change the locks whilst he’s away! I’m sorry, but he’ll take advantage of you, for as long as you’ll let him. He just wants an easy life and to piggy back off someone else’s hard work, yours unfortunately.

Any positives about this manchild?

Is his aunt really dead? He might be gone home to beg for some money. Sorry if she is gone, I couldn't help myself.

He won't claim JSA because he was sacked and must wait a while before claiming I think.

Got a peach there honey, and he knows a good board and lodging arrangement when he sees it.

I think I remember that post. Everyone told you he was a wasted and not to let him move in. Why did you?!

Tell him you can't afford to support him so he must stay home with his Dad.

Call him and tell him not to bother coming back.

Oh FFS.

Keep the cats.

Get rid of the cocklodger.

Seriously, what other advice could there be...

Oh come on don't be such a mug, he's taking you for an absolute ride.
If you darent kick him out, just STOP giving him money/ paying for his things. Say you're out of cash. He'll soon move of his own accord on I'm sure.

But why did you let him move in when you weren't ready?

He changed his mind about his job and is sponging off you.
You change your mind about him, show him the door and don't let him sponge off you.

We all make mistakes. I think she knows she’s been a fool, think she needs advice now on how to get rid of the sack of shit. i can’t judge I’ve been a fool in the past. Naïvety, low self esteem it doesn’t matter it’s done now. She needs help with undoing it

A partnership?

In a proper partnership, one half of the couple doesn't just walk out of their job without discussing the financial implications with the other person.