To ask the bed in front to keep it down?

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There's a baby in the bed opposite with their mum and dad

They are playing something really loud of their telly they've rented, or phones. I don't know which

Trouble is, it's not just loud. It's frightening me. It's a TV series I've seen bits of before and it frightened me/freaks me out

Would I be unreasonable to ask a nurse to get them to keep it down?

It's just my baby daughter on the ward with me, otherwise. No other patients

AIBU?

I feel we all need to call these sorts of comments out!! Why comment if you just want to say something that will likely upset the OP! So much of this on mumsnet. What happened to be kind?!!!!

Thank you @EmmaAgain22 .

I must admit that I was pretty bad - lack of sleep, stress, emotion all came out in a blast, the air was blue with Fs. My mother didn’t actually die until the early hours of the following day but that didn’t really make it any better.

Just ask the nurse again. It's really inconsiderate of that family. I was on a ward one time with my son when he was about 3 and someone was watching something that was not age appropriate for the little kids on the ward. I felt really uncomfortable mentioning it to the nurse but she was great and very apologetic that she hadn't noticed. She very firmly but very nicely got whatever it was switched over or turned off. No drama.

Some of the rude comments towards op are awful. Expecting a decent level of quiet in hospital is completely acceptable. The family are being arseholes , I’d have been fuming the dad had told me he would ‘try ‘ to turn it down. If it continues tomorrow I’d be suggesting to the nurses that either they deal with the tv volume issue
or they arrange to move you and your dc to another ward/room.

Bad enough in a restaurant/public transport etc but in the hospital?! I'd be boiling with rage!

I find it hard to believe we're in an age where we're going to need to start telling people they can't watch tv/ipads etc without headphones so as not to disturb others but it's plain as day it needs spelling out in B I G L E T T E R S ! When did people become to immune to others around them?

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Hell is other people

OP I think you have tremendous restraint.....after they failed to turn it down after a polite request I would have be

....been tempted to blast some terrible music out of my phone directly pointed at them, with my arm extended towards them to simply demonstrate how u pleasant life is if everyone acts like a twat and listens to stuff at full volume!

I would be tempted to pretend that I was hormonal and start screaming and shouting at him.

what the fuck

yer but....this is a bloke who knows he looks intimidating and if you call him out he'll make sure you regret it.....hence people just meekly go away when he sneers at their requests
@Soothsayer1 you’ve totally made that up though as OP has said he doesn’t look like that at all. Christ.

so sorry user147, I neglected to add that it was a guess based on the persons attitude towards the OP🙏

Can we not be f asswholes and kick the ops when they are down.its like people purposefully come on these threads to dig in.
Who the hell says what we are or aren't allowed to be creeped out or afraid by.
She's not sat there saying she shaking,frantic,can't breathe,crying.but she has said she doesn't like a program.that ok.its ok for things to frighten us.fear is often irrational.thats often the worst bit about it, that it's non sensical but we still feel it.
Lay off.
She's scared.thats ok.

This is the only way.
Cunts who play stuff through speakers in public are relying on everyone else being considerate.

I’d have marched straight back over and growled “try harder…”

I cannot abide selfish shit like this. Not only that, from adults on a paediatrics ward. No. Fuck off. Unbelievably selfish.

This.
They need to be told. If no hospital staff around to do it then might have to put big girl pants on again and say they need to put headphones on or turn it off. I totally appreciate not easy thing to do, but they're being utter c**s. People are pretty unbelievable. Hospitals are places to supposedly convalesce but that's impossible to do with people like that around.
Either that or I'd be asking to move. Not that there's likely to be any space :-s.
Good luck OP.

What he looks like is irrelevant! The most mundane looking person is just as likely to kick off and the most aggressive looking person is just as likely to be a pussy cat. I speak from experience.

Why?

Its not just the father playing the loud program, such an odd comment

I second this , you sound pathetic saying your scared of a program you can’t even see 😂

Most pawds Wards have a one parent rule outside of visiting times - not sure why it necessarily has to be the dad who goes though.

We alternated when our girl was in... Even that's a bit dodgy since covid, most high risk areas still trying to limit the total number of contacts.

If you are a healthy adult in hospital with a sick child, I think you should just walk up to the other parents and explain to them you would very much like the noise turned down thank you please. It's what you want, not the (probably already overworked) nurse's responsability.

My oh was in hospital last week, there was a man in the bed opposite who had the tv/radio on all the time although he spent most of the time asleep, it was driving me crazy when I visited never mind oh, some people are so selfish and have no thought for anyone else

Play random tiktok some of that shit is insane