To ask the bed in front to keep it down?

[lgcoopers]

There's a baby in the bed opposite with their mum and dad

They are playing something really loud of their telly they've rented, or phones. I don't know which

Trouble is, it's not just loud. It's frightening me. It's a TV series I've seen bits of before and it frightened me/freaks me out

Would I be unreasonable to ask a nurse to get them to keep it down?

It's just my baby daughter on the ward with me, otherwise. No other patients

AIBU?

He’s probably half deaf. My dad was like that -the TV was always blaring.

Wouldn't you call them when the people in question have ignored your polite request and turned the volume up?

Ask again and when cunt face replies “I’ll try” just say “I’m not asking you to try, I’m asking you to have some consideration for other sick people in hospital, turn it down. If you’re unaware of how your own phone volume works I’ll show you” … I wouldn’t be letting daft cunts like this play any games.

yer but....this is a bloke who knows he looks intimidating and if you call him out he'll make sure you regret it.....hence people just meekly go away when he sneers at their requests

nurses arent paid enough to risk being assaulted, she wont want to tackle him

People are so very selfish.

Tempting to say ‘sorry you can’t work your phone, can I help?’

On a lighter note, when I first saw the thread title: 'To ask the bed in front to keep it down?', I couldn't imagine what was meant and really didn't expect anything like this.

OP I hope things are a bit quieter now. I just don't get people who are selfish like that.

I would hate the confrontation too and really feel for you. You can ask nicely one more time and say you need quiet to rest as does your daughter. If they don't then you could ask the nurses how they usually handle this situation. My sympathies and I hope you're soon home

Stare him out, raise a quizzical eyebrow and tell him he needs to try harder.

I watched a zombie film on the ward in bed after giving birth (although with headphones which is standard protocol in hospital).

And?
So you like scary movies? Well done.

You wore headphones so no one could hear. So that is a totally different scenario to what the op is describing and not relevant.

When in a hospital you can expect the ward to not have very loud TV/music playing. It's a place to recuperate and rest, not a cinema.

You can definitely tell people 'what to do' if they are behaving in an inappropriate manner.

Think I would probably have lost the plot when he did succeed in turning it down and shouted across the ward at him ‘for god same turn it down like I asked’

didn’t succeed

For some reason people don’t like it. During covid it was 1 parent only but I’m autistic and so is my toddler so we needed dh to stay to assist and we had so much negativity from other parents and told it wasn’t fair etc

If they do it tomorrow you should just stare unblinkingly at them and do low voice growls. Maybe dart about a bit to unsettle them. With a bit of luck they'll feel a bit of fear and switch the offending irritating item off.

“I’ll TRY” 🤨 fucking hell. Sorry but at that point I’d be holding my hand out for the phone/tablet/whatever and saying “oh sorry, I didn’t realise it was so loud because you didn’t know how to work it - here, let me show you”. Selfish arseholes.

Stop asking the nurses, they have enough to do. You're an adult, politely ask them yourself if they could please turn it down a bit. If they say no, then ask staff for some ear plugs. They might even move you if it's really annoying.

YANBU OP.

You can't dictate what others do at 4 in the afternoon

You can when they're being inconsiderate arseholes in a hospital!

I was in hospital the day the Queen died.

I am not a royalist and I'm sure you can imagine all the patients had a lot to say about it. I just kept quiet.

However, I felt like slitting my wrists when the older woman opposite was playing hymns (loudly) on her phone in honour of the queen and singing along too. This seemed to go on for ages!

And the ward sister told you off?

Sadly many are not very effective. Noise pollution is bad for patients rest and wellbeing and can obscure sounds of distress as someone said. It's also not good for staff trying to concentrate. IMO the matrons and other senior staff,with the support of management and security should take this on and not be so lily livered.

YADNBU. Some partners are incredibly inconsiderate. I had one dad like that with my last birth. We were in an extra-care ward due to illness (mine and baby’s) and this idiot made no effort at all to be quiet. He’d walk in, see that 3 out of the 4 patients were trying to sleep and below across the room at his partner before sitting down and literally shouting down his phone or playing her music really loudly.

What was interesting is that neither of them were horrible people. They were perfectly pleasant to talk to but just had zero awareness. I used to lie there counting the minutes until he buggered off.

I hope you’re ok now, OP.

Below=bellow

I think there should be a warning sign saying that non-patients are only allowed in if they’re considerate - and explicitly spell out what that means eg use headphones. My ward actually had two ‘quiet’ hours for us to rest but unfortunately partners were exempt from the ‘no visitors’ so it was an utter waste of time.

@lgcoopers, despite all of the AIBU 'police' coming out to play, YANBU.