I could shout at my 25 year old self, moving in with my now exH. I was dizzy eyed with romance and started behaving like my mother - took on all the laundry, the shopping, most of the cooking, the cleaning. That's what women in domestic situations did, even if both parties worked, you see. Never mind that my own mother was resentful and bitter and my dad was bone idle round the house. There aren't enough eye rolls in the world.
Yes, 22 years later now he's an exH partly because for him it all instantly became women's work. It was something which just got done without him noticing. If this was pointed out, then it was a case of "Well what do you want me to buy?" in an injured tone. Or he would list the things that he did on a day to day basis that I didn't - things that he did AT WORK!
After we split up, he told me proudly one that he had cleaned the windows of his flat, "inside AND out!" as though that was something which deserved praise. I just wanted to hit him, instead asked him why it never occurred to him to do those things when he lived with me. No answer. Twat.
The infuriating thing is, I now see him out shopping for groceries for his home with his new partner, or hear about the way he spent his weekend on jobs round the home (astonishingly we are still friends and work in the same place 😂). The woman obviously has more sense than I did at 25.