to be fair to Meghan harry sold her a dream, as said previously he was bigging her up even in the series, about how she was the new Diana, better at the job than the rest, they were all jealous of her, she was going to revolutionise the family, he’d married a super star etc, so if it’s anyone’s fault it’s Harry’s for selling that shit and I guess meghans for being deluded enough she believed the hype he was giving her in terms of her future role .
meghan was never going to revolutionise the royal family and throw out centuries of tradition, she was never going to be the new Diana, no one really thought he was marrying a super star, the royals were never all jealous of her, which is just the line harry used to explain why his batshit bigging up didn’t happen.
Just like they were never going to be allowed to monetise their titles, collaborate with the queen and go half in half out. Christ as soon as he announced it everyone knew that was never going to happen.
it’s why living in Nottingham cottage was an issue for them, they were going to be bigger than William and Kate, bigger than the queen. So they deserved much better accommodation
what is it that palace leaked, they had to be told they were not bigger than the queen? She was the star. that should never have had to be said.
so for me, I think the blame is primarily on harry. For being so jealous of William and Kate that he went this route, and then on Meghan for believing she was getting that role. And of course for William and Harry’s parents and grandparents , for ever allowing this dysfunctional dynamic to occur between the brothers. This sibling rivalry and jealousy. Which is at its base.