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Would you feel concerned about this??? Feel scared

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Hohohoo · 10/12/2022 23:18

Hi

I was speaking to a guy on the next round earlier who I usually speak too if I see him. He was with another guy who ended up asking for my number saying he’d take me out. He seemed nice. I gave him my number and he messaged me asking if I wanted him to come round to my house tonight to watch a film and take away. I didn’t fancy it because I don’t know him but he wouldn’t take no for an answer. Kept texting and pestering. I asked him what he was doing and he said ‘outside yours lol’. Not sure if he’s joking but would you be worried ?

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Hohohoo · 10/12/2022 23:20

Meant to add. He knows where I live as we were stood near me. He lives down the road. Seen him around but I don’t actually know him. This was the first time we had spoke. I asked him what doing and he said ‘waiting to see you’

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Shannny · 10/12/2022 23:21

No I’d think he was a boring twat and would ignore him completely (whilst making sure my doors were securely locked before going to bed!)

Idontliketea · 10/12/2022 23:21

Have you given him your address? God, no don't let him in. He's probably after a quick shag.

ABigSalad123 · 10/12/2022 23:21

Sorry you feel frightened 🌺 do you have anyone with you at the moment, or can you ask a friend to pop round to be with you? And I would just ignore the guy. How does the guy know your address?

WednesdayFridayAdams · 10/12/2022 23:22

Yes, I would be concerned and I would instantly block him for pestering and being creepy.

CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson · 10/12/2022 23:23

"I said no. Is it reading or comprehension or both that you have a problem with?"

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Hohohoo · 10/12/2022 23:28

@Idontliketea @ABigSalad123 forgot to add into my OP that we were stood near my house and he lives down the bottom of the street so he does know where I live but it’s the first time I’ve properly spoke to him when he was with the other guy who I’ve spoke to in passing a few times. He seems very persistent, saying he’s waiting outside for me to come out

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OnSecondThoughts · 10/12/2022 23:36

No, this is not acceptable of him. You've already said No, you don't want him to come round. Don't let him in if you don't feel comfortable about it. Are you alone? Is there someone you can phone and get to come round?

determinedtomakethiswork · 10/12/2022 23:41

I think I would be scared actually. I certainly wouldn't answer the door and wouldn't respond to any more messages.

OhDeniseReally · 10/12/2022 23:42

No means no. Tell him to do one, or you'll report him for harassment. Hope you're OK x

DuplicateUserName · 10/12/2022 23:44

Just block his number and ignore him.

Silly twat.

Wiccan · 10/12/2022 23:46

OMG OP do not open the door and don't reply to his messages. This is unacceptable and scary .

GG1986 · 10/12/2022 23:50

He sounds like he is 15 years old ffs. Don't reply and if he really is outside tell him to go away or you will call the police.

howdoesatoastermaketoast · 10/12/2022 23:54

"you were given a chance but you blew it. I assure you that any further refusal to take go away and no as an answer is not improving your standing"

Patronus · 10/12/2022 23:56

Just think about this:

You don’t know him
He invited himself round
You said no and he pestered you
Despite you not accepting he came to your house

WTAF????!!! Do not let him in and don’t be meek in text.

”I said no and it’s really weird you are outside my house. Not LOL. “

SunshineLoving · 11/12/2022 00:00

Don't respond to him. Make sure all doors and windows are locked when you go to bed. If he speaks to you in person, I would tell him that you aren't interested in seeing him. If he persists, tell him you will report him for harassment. And definitely do report him for harassment if he continues.

CuriousMama · 11/12/2022 00:02

A prince amongst men obviously.

JoyBeorge · 11/12/2022 00:02

Just block him and stop replying but learn from this. I think you need to work on your boundaries a little. Giving someone you don't know your number because he seemed nice sounds incredibly naive.

stayathomer · 11/12/2022 00:06

Op yes at this time of the night it would make me nervous. Not okay from this guy

RampantIvy · 11/12/2022 00:11

Does the "next round" mean the next street?
Before reading your updates I thought you were talking about a round of drinks in a pub.

SnowlayRoundabout · 11/12/2022 00:21

If he wants to wait, let him wait. He'll be solid ice by morning.

Shinyandnew1 · 11/12/2022 00:27

I was speaking to a guy on the next round earlier who I usually speak too if I see him.

What does ‘next round’ mean here?

PastMyBestBeforeDate · 11/12/2022 00:28

Turn your lights and phone off and go to sleep.

WandaWonder · 11/12/2022 00:28

Yes I would feel uneasy but I would also be more careful next time, I may also throw a comment about 'I could be a bunny boiler' or some other smart comment then block him and move on

Not suggesting it but would be annoyed enough to do have done it

MadameMackenzie · 11/12/2022 00:33

If he's still there, please call police!

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